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post #1 of 18 Old 06-02-2014, 08:22 PM Thread Starter
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How to convince my parents that 2 horses is a good idea

Now before you call me a brat for wanting a second horse, hear me out. I've been riding Remie since I was 6 years old and I am now 15. I've wanted to own him my whole life. When the farm got evicted and he was looking for a home, my parents finally let me have the horse of my dreams! But, an old leg injury started rearing it's ugly head. I officially got him yesterday and the second he was in our possession we had a vet come see him. He has been pronounced permanently lame. I'm devastated. My eyes burn from crying. But I'm hoping that, in time, I can convince my parents that getting a second horse is a good idea. I was going to do the mounted games with my boarder and Remie was too tall anyway. I found this perfect horse who has experience with the games on petfinder. I know the adopting part is the cheapest but having a lot of hand-me-down tack and a lot of help from the boarder, I'm almost sure we can do it especially since I will be working at an apple orchard on the weekends in the fall. I'm devastated and just hoping that their will be a glimmer of happiness if I can at least get them really considering it, even if it takes a year or two. I'm just wondering ways you have convinced your parents who have the same money worries as mine.
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post #2 of 18 Old 06-02-2014, 08:48 PM
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Start saving, write out a budget and prove you can stick to it... As a mother if my kids can prove responsibility I'm a lot more likely to think about it and say yes. Just keep a realistic outcome in mind and prove you can handle it. Don't whine or throw a fit if you don't get what you want (not that you will but I wish my kids would figure out that whining is an automatic no lol) Good luck hun!
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Unless you can pay for the second horse yourself, you may face the option of rehoming your current horse. Why did you not have a vet evaluate him before you obtained possession?

Perfect horses do not exist. Especially not one with a biased written bio on petfinder. If you do indeed search out a second horse please make sure you have vet exams done before the purchase and try riding the horse on a few different occasions to assure you are a good match. Many of us are fortunate enough to have one horse, just bear in mind if you want a riding horse you may have to make a sacrifice. I had a horse for seventeen years and the last seven he was retired. I kept him and made sure he lived out the rest of his days happy, but I was miserable not being able to ride. Sometimes you can't have both.
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Unless you can pay for the second horse yourself, you may face the option of rehoming your current horse. Why did you not have a vet evaluate him before you obtained possession?

Perfect horses do not exist. Especially not one with a biased written bio on petfinder. If you do indeed search out a second horse please make sure you have vet exams done before the purchase and try riding the horse on a few different occasions to assure you are a good match. Many of us are fortunate enough to have one horse, just bear in mind if you want a riding horse you may have to make a sacrifice. I had a horse for seventeen years and the last seven he was retired. I kept him and made sure he lived out the rest of his days happy, but I was miserable not being able to ride. Sometimes you can't have both.


My old instructors is a very strange woman and she has dealt with similar injuries before. And she would feel betrayed if we were to have a vet out there. So we got a vet scheduled to look at him the day after we got him. And Remie was given to us so it's not like we spent a ton of money. I have taken care of this horse for years and he's not just a horse to me but a best friend. Were going to a vet soon who treated his leg before and has had x-rays done of it look at it too so we can get 2 diagnoses and a third if need be. I am so thankful for Remie but finally having him as my own and then finding out he can't be ridden is so hard to hear. I know a second horse is a long shot but I just need opinions. I'm willing to wait and my boarder is a friend of a friend who is really inexpensive. I can't imagine rehoming Remie but not being able to ride is killer too. It's such a difficult decision.
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Start saving, write out a budget and prove you can stick to it... As a mother if my kids can prove responsibility I'm a lot more likely to think about it and say yes. Just keep a realistic outcome in mind and prove you can handle it. Don't whine or throw a fit if you don't get what you want (not that you will but I wish my kids would figure out that whining is an automatic no lol) Good luck hun!
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Thank you. I'm pretty sure I've got the responsibility part down. I go and take care of Remie by myself twice a day. The part I need to work on is continuously asking. I always feel like they've forgotten to think about it so I feel the need to remind them!
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There could also be the possibility they cannot feasibly afford two horses. So that is something to think about as well. What is your parents take on the situation with Remie? What have they said about it?

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There could also be the possibility they cannot feasibly afford two horses. So that is something to think about as well. What is your parents take on the situation with Remie? What have they said about it?

They are just as disappointed as I am. They're basically leaving the decision to me. Rehoming him and getting another horse or keeping him and considering the idea of a second but no promises. It's just tossing the idea around that in the distance future we might. But, we just heard the news today and were not making any decisions without getting another diagnosis from a second and maybe third vet if the two have different verdicts. And I understand the money but my dad has some job interviews (but he does have a job right now in case he doesn't like those or they don't like him) and a job he's waiting to hear back from if the background check goes well, which it should. But that job is a lot of commuting and he doesn't know if he's up for it. But I have offered as much as I can right now. I'll have a job in the fall at an apple orchard and when I turn 16 soon, I'll have a lot more options for part-time jobs.
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Things you seem not to have taken in to consideration is the cost of upkeep of even one horse. Who is paying those vet bills on the present horse? Who will pay for the farrier every 8 weeks? Who will pay for feed, shots? And now you want your parents to consider the additional expenses for a 2nd horse.
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I wish you the best. This is not something you must deal with right away. For a bit , just get this horse looked at and verify if he really IS now a pasture pet or not. Let you dad work on the job issue without the added stress of askinf for another horse. Your asking for it right after you technically GOT one, and you dad is struggling with job issues, is a bad time to ask. Be happy for a bit, and wait. A better time will come. This is not it.
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Things you seem not to have taken in to consideration is the cost of upkeep of even one horse. Who is paying those vet bills on the present horse? Who will pay for the farrier every 8 weeks? Who will pay for feed, shots? And now you want your parents to consider the additional expenses for a 2nd horse.

I understand that but I am offering all the money I make with my job lined up for the fall and the job I get once I get my social security card. Plus they are considering it. I'm just asking for ways to show them that it is a good idea. I plan on learning to do vaccinations myself so that's cheaper and I buy the grain myself already. I'm very happy with Remie but since they are the ones who brought it up I am wondering the logistics of owning two and ways to show my parents, if it is possible, that I can handle it. Our boarder only has one other girl out there who has three horses out there for $250 and knowing my situation we probably could come up with a deal.
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