Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
While you may only have the best intentions, explaining past racehorses to your friend is probably not coming across well. I know if one of my friends started explaining this I'd probably politely listen but inside I would be thinking "Why the hell are they telling me this? What could this possibly have to do with me/modern society/anything else?" If I wanted to learn about past racehorses, I'd look them up myself and learn about them, see pictures, actual information that I think is true, rather than a second hand account completely out of context.
Has it occurred to you that maybe your friend and her mother don't really care about racehorses (much less dead racehorses)? Maybe they have noticed that you do and are trying to find a topic that you would like to be included in, and this all they know? When I was a kid it used to happen all the time, if I met an adult who didn't know me they would tell me the random horse story of their lives, "a white arabian white stallion racehorse their father owned and tamed and that was 17hh" or something like that which pretty showed how little they knew about horses but I knew they were not trying to show off, they were making an effort to connect, so I didn't call them out saying "wouldn't be a white horse, would be grey, arabians don't really race in Australia, can't find them in the wild, aren't really that big etc" because I think that is rude. It is not my place to educate people unless they ask me to. If you notice, on this forum there are so many posts about unwelcome opinions, about horse people trying educate others when it is not their place.
I know you mean the best and are just wanting to share information but that hardly ever comes across well. I was the only horse crazy kid out of my friends as a child, but they tried to get into horses, would play horse games etc because I cared. I didn't realise it back then because people have a way of thinking that if you care about something everyone else does too. Your friend is making an effort, and sure she doesn't know about past racehorses, but who does? Why would anyone learn unless they were extremely interested in racehorses, which most people aren't? And I bet if she doesn't know about horses besides Zenyatta she wouldn't want to talk about them, because it can be embarrassing not knowing things, and you expecting her to.
I think the best thing to do in this situation is not to discuss racehorses. If she says something about Zenyatta (whoever that is) just say, oh yeah cool, and move on. If she pressures you for more say that you prefer to discuss more historical aspects of racing rather than just one horse. Then talk about the other topics you share in common.