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post #1 of 54 Old 09-20-2010, 08:54 PM Thread Starter
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Hi everyone. How do I convince my parent I can take on 2 horses?
So, my dad said awhile ago that I could get another horse. Then, he changed his mind and said no. Then he said yes again, then no. Many other girls my age have 2 horses! Some even have 5!! What have you all done to get ur parents to buy you a horse or another horse?
I'm not being selfish, I'm not wanting another horse for the sake of it. I need another horse. A safe one, one that I can take to pony club and won't get lectured about.
Thanks!

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post #2 of 54 Old 09-20-2010, 09:04 PM
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I'll agree it's annoying to have a parent flip flop about if you can have a horse or not.

But why do you NEED another horse? If the current horse isn't suitable, sell him and get a suitable horse.

What expenses are you responsible for when it comes to your horses? Who is buying the horse?

"Because the other girls do" is never going to convince your parents anything. Write down well thought out reasons to why you need a second horse and what you will do to take care of that horse physically and financially.

The best way to convince them is to SHOW them you are responsible and will take care of the horse.
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Yes why do you need another horse? If the horse you have is not safe enough for pony club why don't you sell your unsafe horse and buy a safe one. I don't know what your case is with school and all that but 2 horses is a lot of work. I'm in high school and I don't have time to ride my 2 horses at home everyday, let alone the one I board. I'm not saying you shouldn't try hard to get another horse if you WANT one but jsut think about some things.

Will you have time for both horses, school and work{if you have it} everyday?
Can your family afford it?
And why are you getting the horse?

If your getting the horse cause your current one isn't safe, sell yours and buy a safe one.
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If you really want to keep the horse that you have now (that's the 4yo right?), then I would suggest telling them that he's not ready to be taken out and you'd be much better off having a horse to compete and have fun on while training the younger one at home. Tell them that he's too young for pony club or anything like that.
I think it would also be a good idea to find out why your Dad says no when he does and then work on proving/disproving that reason. Eg, he says you won't take care of it so absolutely throw yourself into taking care of the one you have now (of course, don't stop when he says yes).

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If you really want to keep the horse that you have now (that's the 4yo right?), then I would suggest telling them that he's not ready to be taken out and you'd be much better off having a horse to compete and have fun on while training the younger one at home. Tell them that he's too young for pony club or anything like that.
I think it would also be a good idea to find out why your Dad says no when he does and then work on proving/disproving that reason. Eg, he says you won't take care of it so absolutely throw yourself into taking care of the one you have now (of course, don't stop when he says yes).
I've done that, (I've said he's not ready to be taken out). But, My dad is convinced 'Spider is the best horse', yeah sure, he's the best horse, so, if he's the best horse...that would mean he could compete in the olympics? Ya, I think not dad! I could try saying that again, maybe he could at least lease another horse for a while.
Thanks for all your help, anyway :)

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Hi everyone. How do I convince my parent I can take on 2 horses?
So, my dad said awhile ago that I could get another horse. Then, he changed his mind and said no. Then he said yes again, then no. Many other girls my age have 2 horses! Some even have 5!! What have you all done to get ur parents to buy you a horse or another horse?
I'm not being selfish, I'm not wanting another horse for the sake of it. I need another horse. A safe one, one that I can take to pony club and won't get lectured about.
Thanks!
For starters, you need something more responsible to say than to just "need another horse". Start off by showing your serious commitment to your current horse. Go to the barn more, ride your riding up a notch, show some serious responsibility with your current one and express to your parents WHY you would benefit from having another horse.

They are expensive animals to keep and it's a very expensive hobby, not to mention time consuming.
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I've done that, (I've said he's not ready to be taken out). But, My dad is convinced 'Spider is the best horse', yeah sure, he's the best horse, so, if he's the best horse...that would mean he could compete in the olympics? Ya, I think not dad! I could try saying that again, maybe he could at least lease another horse for a while.
Thanks for all your help, anyway :)
Wow...thats all I can say. Wow.
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Wow...thats all I can say. Wow.
Are you thinking what I'm thinking?
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I am CERTAIN that I am. Somebody stop me!
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First of all, you don't need another horse. You don't even NEED one. What is wrong with the horse you have...besides the fact that it isn't an Olympic horse? A huge majority of us don't own Olympic capable horses, so that is not a reasonable argument. Nor is the fact that some girls have more horses a reasonable argument.

So far all your reasoning sounds like you are a spoiled little girl, stamping your feet and trying to get something you want. So tell me, what is that makes you need another horse or even deserve one?

Speaking as a parent...If my daughter approached me as you have, wanting another horse based on your reasoning...then I would give it to her alright. Not the horse....but a good month of cleaning every single stall at our barn, scrubbing every water bucket, and any other menial task that comes up and she would have zero riding privileges with the horse she owns. By the end of it, I bet she would appreciate the horse she does own and understand that horse ownership is a privilege...not a need.

I can't help but feel that you are a spoiled little girl that can't even realize what an absolute privilege horse ownership is. If I am wrong, then I will happily apologize. So please tell me, why is it that you absolutely need another horse?
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