Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Western Pennsylvania
You're not going to get your own horse (that won't even actually be yours, it'll be your parents' horse). I'm 18 and have wanted my own for 7 years..but it's not realistic, and I'm lucky I got a vehicle I'm allowed to drive.
My dad asked what I wanted to do for my 16th birthday, and I asked that I could go on a 2 hour trail ride with a friend. I knew I wasn't going to get a horse and I loved going on trails, so that's what I asked for, and that's what I got. That was both my birthday party AND my present.
My dad offered to let me choose my 17th birthday present, but I didn't ask for a horse again, because I knew it wasn't going to happen. Begging for a horse will never get you one unless you're spoiled rotten with absolutely rich parents..in which rarely happens. What I did ask for my birthday that my dad would pay for me to lease a horse for a few months, and he obliged, knowing that it made me happier than anything else. My dad actually went beyond what I asked and continued paying my lease until he died, in which my mum started paying because even though we had less food choice in her house, she knew it made me happy and didn't want me to lose that, without me having to beg for it.
After my dad died I found out from his coworkers that he was planning on buying my lease horse for me as a gift..I never asked for it. But, I am extremely glad he didn't buy her before he died, because I would've had no way to pay for it myself, and my mum sure as hell didn't have the money to pay for everything. As much as I still want my own horse, I know that I wouldn't have a vehicle to drive, the house I live in, or any other extras that I have now if I were to have one.
I took a house/dog-sitting job from my aunt to pay my lease of a new horse until I leave for college..Would I rather spend that money on cigarettes, fun, extras, etc? **** right I would, but I know I wouldn't be riding at all right now if I had. My mum told me I could deal without a horse for 3 months and she wouldn't pay for it since I "quit" on Lucky because I didn't like her new owner..I told her I couldn't continue riding Lucky if I was going to have to pay $20 a ride just to retrain her everytime I got on and was proactive looking at people I knew about leasing their horses that weren't being used to spend that $300 I got for house-sitting on before I spent it on items that weren't a necessity (for me).
Point is..the more you beg and sound ungrateful for getting lessons, the less chance you'll have to ride at all. I wouldn't be surprised if your parents pulled you from your lessons if you kept up the begging for your own horse. Maybe you could discuss adding some more chores in to switch from lessons to a partial-lease on a nicely-broke horse. But if they say no, don't continue to bug them, just let it go and pick up some extra chores before they ask you to do them (if you know how to do it right, that is). They might see that as responsibility and incentive to move up a little, in which they might look at as gratefulness and want to do something extra on their part to give you some more happiness.
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