Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Nine Mile Falls, Washington
• Horses: 0
How do I deal with this?
I have written about this before, it has gotten better, but she is still a little monster (in my eyes).
This fifteen year old girl in my equestrian team is still driving me nuts. I had moved to NY for a little while, and I hear she had come to a very fine line of getting kicked out for her laziness, rude behavior, and ill mannerisms. Somehow she rebounded and is able to stay, despite her snark and back talk.
Whenever she is handling a horse, I can't focus on anything else because I'm afraid she, the horse, or someone else are going to get hurt. She is heavy handed with the horses while riding and on the ground. For example, Brown was confused by her lack/poor cuing. She took it upon herself to start yanking on the lead rope. Thankfully the leadrope came undone (I just did a quick square knot because both halter and leadrope are mine, and I don't have a clip yet). The halter we normally use doesn't have excess knots and is softer/more worn than mine which is stiffer, and has large knots on the nose band. I have seen her yank his nose, and the other horse's nose, as a means of discipline multiple times. Makes me cringe.
She is not very gentle in the horse's mouths. She is very in it and has more contact than necessary on a shanked bit. She rides like you would english on a western bit, and you can see the horse in question, in this reference, Brown, gaping his mouth and evading the bit. He tucks his head in and sometimes shakes it. I know when I get too into his mouth accidentally he will toss his head.
She was riding bareback and all I saw while she was riding were very "live" hands. They weren't steady and they were pulling slightly on the horse's mouth. My instructor had told her once to get out of another horse's mouth, as he has nervous issues and or needs a new bit, and it is also a curb, but not as long as Brown's. But she was still in his mouth.
I told her the mechanics of the shank, saying its not like a snaffle which has 1:1 ratio of pressure. You need to be on looser reign. It got ignored.
She has actually gotten yelled at publically for being in another horse's mouth, when the owner caught her doing it. Yet it doesn't seem to change anything.
The worst part is she was showing another greenie who is her friend how to do stuff. I -really- don't want to deal with another sass brat who doesn't listen and thinks all horses are good for is running them...
I have been told not to argue with her because I am an adult, and she is the child, and I am in the wrong for arguing with a child. But how in the living hell can I get through to her? It is driving me nuts and I feel like I'm having an anxiety attack watching and waiting for the day she serious @#)*$ up one of the horses.
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