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post #11 of 13 Old 11-13-2009, 07:04 AM
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Several years ago I had a horrific fall that took months to recover - physically. Severe concussion that had me unconscious of over 5 min., cracked pelvis, broken ribs, scrapes and bruises. After a lifetime of riding I was petrified to get back on a horse. At the time of the accident I had just bought a horse that I hadn't ridden yet and, although I was perfectly fine handling her, I was almost in tears when I forced myself to finally mount up a few months after the fall.

It took over a year and a few different horses to get enough courage to ride the trails again. Even now, several years after the accident, at times, I still get butterflies when I mount a new horse.

It helps to ride a confidence builder and to ride with friends. You take courage from other riders and a good horse will help you make the comeback. The horse I am riding now, Hollywood, is a high performance gelding and it took a lot of horses inbetween then and now to be able to ride him. If I had him right after the fall, I never would have gotten back it the saddle again - he would have been the wrong horse then but he's the perfect horse now.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

It's not always what you say but what they hear.

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post #12 of 13 Old 11-13-2009, 07:49 AM
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I have had tons of confidence issues. I have wanted to quit so many times.. a few years ago I had a few bad falls and I got back on.. only walked was shaking the whole time. Tried to ride my old pony again to get back into it.. I was still scared, even of him.
It took a while. It has been three years since that fall and I am more confident than ever. But that didn't happen quickly. I was scared out of my wits to go faster than a trot for a while. And once in a blue moon.. I would try. And it would go great. But then I just couldn't do it again.
What eventually happened was, the horse I was riding two years ago (such a good boy, miss him terribly!) and I only did walk trot for almost the whole year. But toward the end.. I was watching everyone else canter and such and I knew we could do it. He was perfect with cantering and everything. So once I was ready, so I was he.
It might take a while. Maybe just ground walk him for now. Let yourself realize he won't hurt you. And then, if you're ready.. get on at a halt. And then a walk, if you'd like. And once he's good at the walk.. you will find yourself wanting to trot. And so on. :)

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post #13 of 13 Old 11-13-2009, 04:39 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by rockyxpony View Post
I really want to thank you for this post. when I saw this thread I knew I needed to read it- I'm in almost the exact same situation. I've been reading threads of people in similar situations to me and not feeling any better but for some reason this post really hit me.
I've been struggling with this fear and just getting so frustrated with myself for it because I had been able to do so much more with my previous horse and because I had all of these plans when I purchased my new horse..and no one's really reminded me that there's no shame in just taking it slow, or that it's okay to just hang out with him and not necessarily feel like I need to push myself to ride all the that riding has become so stressful and unpleasant for me
anyway..just thank you. I feel so much better about everything just from this reminder..even though it wasn't even meant for me xD

That's what's so great about these forums! We can all help each other out and one benefits from another and so on. I'm sorry you're in my same boat - - but glad you could also glean something from these wonderful replies!
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