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    02-15-2012, 10:58 PM
Well he used be around horses when he was younger but never really was able to connect or anything with any of them.. and it doesnt help that he fell off of a big cutting gelding so he just kinda connects big horses, like my Gelding, to falling and getting hurt. Which sucks cause hell hold and walk Grady but that's IT haha even though he's was more experienced then Hannah haha
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    02-15-2012, 11:03 PM
Originally Posted by farley    
so he just kinda connects big horses, like my Gelding, to falling and getting hurt. Which sucks cause hell hold and walk Grady but that's IT haha even though he's was more experienced then Hannah haha
Well he'll come around :) All he needs is a loooot of time. Take it nice and slow
    02-15-2012, 11:08 PM
How broke is your 2.5 yo mare? I would think you would want to start him on a seasoned well broke and solid horse. My 5yo spooked in the arena the other night. He did a jump and large sidestep before he gained his composure. To a seasoned rider it would have meant nothing. My trainer complimented my horse on maintaining his cool.

I was shaking.

If he has any intimidation I would suggest you let him ground bond with the mare. Grooming. Manners. But put his bum in a saddle attached to a well broke horse until he has his confidence and can handle himself and the young mare.

I would be worried that any oops with the mare could sour your boyfriend against horses completely. Even a silly stumble or trip. Up high, a trip can be heart stopping to a newbie.
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    02-15-2012, 11:19 PM
Hannah is awesome! I know that she is young and you never know with young horses. But she is very well broke. I have been working with her since she was 17 months she stops on a dime by just say whoa and I have put alot of people on her she was bred perfectly! Beautiful conformation, and has never spooked at anything I did alot of desensitizing with her and still do. I ride her bareback mostly with just a halter and lead she neck reins like an old champ, cars, dogs motorcycles, other horses she is awesome my pride and joy!

I would never put him on her if I didnt 100% trust her. And I also warm her up before I put anyone on her, but I have never had anything happen all the time I have had her and if that who he wants to ride and connect with by all means that is fine with me!!
Note: we are not trail riding or will doing anything outside of a controlled area for a while.
    02-16-2012, 01:41 AM
I agree with Aghsam. Use a seasoned horse. Besides, to me, a 2.5 year old is too young to be used as a lungeline lesson horse; hard on joints to carry a rider around and around a small circle.

When people are venturing out into unknown territory it's best to limit their exposure to unexpected and scary things. In fact, the more he learn how to "predict" horse behavior, the safer he'll be. If he can predict that such and such a place might cause a hrose to feel spooky or that pinned ears means the horse is angry and beware a bite or a kick, he will safer. Not knowing how to read the signs is what makes horses so scary and bewildering. I KNOW that I can make 17hh Zulu move over, away from me. Knowing that makes me feel safer. Teach him how to move a horse on the ground and he will grasp hold of a great secret; horses mostly want to get along and can , for the most part, be easily intimidated by humans even though much bigger than us.
    02-16-2012, 09:49 AM
When my husband and I were dating we went through something similar. He had never been around horses and I had three that I spent time with everyday.

First he watched me from behind the fence, then he helped me feed, then we did some sitting bareback out in the field talking. He was there the night my mare had her foal and he loved it! Finally we graduated to late night moonlight bareback rides, him on my 20 year old gelding. About 8 months into our relationship he showed up one day with a trailer and his own new horse! He knew how much they meant to me, the fact that I would ALWAYS have horses, and how good lookin I thought a man was on a horse! I married him three months later!

I agree with what everyone said about putting him on a babysitter. It only takes once for some people to get hurt and become afraid or in your case even more so. My hub has yet to have his first fall in 9 years of riding and I do everything possible to keep him safe. I also started him out bareback, no lessons, just "here sit on him for a bit while I do this" and "hey can you hold her for a while" like you are doing it now! I didn't get preachy or correct, I just told him what he did well and encouraged him. Being timid and on a dead broke horse he learned to be soft and gentle right from the start. Sounds like he's on the right path! Hope it all works out for you guys, he sounds like a gem!
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    02-16-2012, 11:07 AM
All I'll say is that after 25 years of marriage, I refuse to try to teach my wife how to ride. I'm paying for her lessons. Otherwise, we might not hit 26 years of marriage...
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    02-16-2012, 11:27 AM
Yeah amen to that, bsms. This guy that had a thing for me asked me if he could ride this horse I was working him (and it was fine with the owner) but omg I've never been so frustrated in my life. He's all LOOK HOW FAST I CAN GO and was slamming on her back and refusing to accept he had to learn rather than just kick her and hang on and that he was just the best rider ever. Those kind of people drive me crazy.... urgh lol. Someone else can teach him! NOT me. Same with my future bf.. he can pay for his own lessons on his own horse, LOL.
    02-16-2012, 11:33 AM
Lol lucky you, my boyfriend won't even come up the yard to say hello! :p
    02-16-2012, 07:35 PM
Yea when we get to the riding part I will definitely put him on Grady. But Hannah will do for some leading and some light riding in the arena but honestly I don't see him doing that for awhile. Lunging and leading and learning horse behavior and tack parts will probably be the agenda for the next several weeks...
Thanks for all the advice and Thank you Garrett is an amazing guy and seeing him bond with Hannah just helps me see how much he wants this to work!

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