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post #1 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 11:58 AM Thread Starter
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How do I talk her out of it? It's too dangerous

Hello I was just wondering how to talk my friend out of riding a racehorse. Now you may be thinking who am I to say that she can't handle it but wait, she has never ridden a horse before to closest she's come to riding one is being walked around on one of those dead broke mules at the beach.
For her work experience she's going New Zeland to take pictures of the racehorses that her aunt owns and I know her aunt and she will let her ride them. I did tell her she could probably ride my horse just so she knew the basics and could ride a nice calm horse if she wanted but that quickly went down the drain when I almost ended up sitting on the roof of someones car. I do have an arab who's actually safer than my other one but she's only been broken for about 6 months so I don't feel comfortable with anyone other than me or my trainer riding her.
So how can I talk my friend out of riding a racehorse? Or just convince her to get some lessons, she thinks my horses are safer then the riding school ones. I've tried to tell her they're not but she doesn't listen.
So can you help. Pretty please?
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post #2 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 12:01 PM
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If she's bound and determined to do it and her aunt who owns the horses allows it, there's nothing you can say that's going to change her mind.

It's nice that you're concerned for your friend's safety, but you have no way to MAKE her do anything.

Also, could you please change your font color? That blue is extremely hard to see.

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post #3 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 12:09 PM
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Yup, you can't stop people from doing stuff, sometimes the best you can do is be there to pick up the pieces.

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post #4 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 12:15 PM Thread Starter
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Better? No I'll stick to black. I know I can't force her to do anything and I'm trying to bombproof my horse because a few people want to ride her and I can't say no to anyone no matter how much I want too. I'm so stupid... Anyway do you know anyway I can convice her to get some lessons or something first?
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post #5 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 12:33 PM
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If she's got her mind set on something, you're not going to be able to talk her outta it.

A few months ago, at the local horse sale, my cousin decided to get on a nutcase of a barrel horse and see how he rode... she had no intentions of buying the horse, just wanted to get on and run around like an idiot. There was no way I could stop her, because, while she was younger than me (she's 15) she had come to the sale with other people (a friend and another adult) and I had brought her younger sister (who was the only one I could tell what to do and what not to do, since the younger sister was under my 'guardianship' at the sale).

I didn't try to stop my cousin, but I did tell her that it wasn't a good idea and that I wouldn't advise her riding the horse (he was a complete idiot, running around, throwing bucks, etc...). She got on him anyway, and, because I didn't want to see a wreck (though thankfully nothing happened besides the horse bolting and nearly running into a trailer) I walked away with the parting comment of "Don't get killed.".

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post #6 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 04:59 PM
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Say your piece and then let her learn on her own. You can tell and tell and tell someone that the stove is hot, but if they still want to touch it, you have to let them. The stove will teach them.
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post #7 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 05:29 PM
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I've worked at the tracks in NZ. You know what, she will probably have her stirrups long and be out on a plodder....yes some of them dooooo plod. Or else she'll be trotting in rings.....
On the other hand she'll insist her irons be put up real short, she won't bridge her reins for trackwork and shell will be put on a puller and shell have one heck of a story to tell when she gets home.....she might even have a cast on for you to sign!

In all seriousness though, if she ain't worth her weight in salt as a rider she won't be allowed out onto a public track to do trackwork. That's if her aunt trains at a public track, most of them do, and it's a busy place between 4am and 9am. Also, if this eases your mind, there is more than one track to ride on, you have:
Middle: trotting and hurdles
Sand: 3/4 pace and cantering, usually more than one sand track, going in reverse also.....
Grass : gallops only....

And sometimes more.....she might just be one of those people who has confidence spilling out of her
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post #8 of 9 Old 10-10-2012, 08:20 PM
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I'm sure her aunt isn't going to put her in a situation where she has a high chance of injury. This is family, unless her aunt is a lunatic, I'm sure she'll be fine.
And yes it may be a racebook, but they're not going to slap her in a racing saddle, smack the horse on the backside and point it at a track. Racehorses are worth too much money to risk injury to it with an unbalanced rider!

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post #9 of 9 Old 10-15-2012, 01:45 AM
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There is not much you can do, but just say of your concern.

I would hope her aunt would see her lack of experience and put her out on plodder doing trot rings or a small canter lap with a senior rider.

Also, sometimes people who have never ridden a horse are the best to do trackork in the long run because you can mould them without the bad habits.

One of my friends never sat on a racehorse and in a few short weeks is going great guns - you just dont know unit the situation arises.
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