The barn is a recreational activity, not a priority unless its your job. It used to be my job for years, and so I was there everyday for that time.
These days, its recreation for me. When I have my daughter (I have shared parenting with her), I am never at the barn. I am either at work, or at home taking care of her.
When she's with her dad, I am at the barn every day I don't work. The barn is about 45 minutes away otherwise I'd be there everyday I do work as well.
Its not a priority anymore though. My daughter and job is a priority. The barn is just recreation these days.