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post #1 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 06:53 AM Thread Starter
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How do you cope with the loss?

Sadly, we had to have two of our ponies PTS this morning. Both had ongoing health problems and they just weren't getting any better. It's been spoken about for a while, and we finally made the decision to put them at rest.

Here is Honey in the summer just gone:



And here she is this morning, just 30 minutes before she was laid to rest:





And this is Pickles in the summer just gone:



And here he is this morning, just 30 minutes before he was laid to rest:





How do you guys cope with the loss of a horse? I am finding it pretty unbearable
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post #2 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 07:33 AM
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I grieve. I feel the sadness. I take credit for the fact that I gave them good care in their lives. And, I accept that death is a part of living.
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post #3 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 08:04 AM
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I'm still struggling to answer that question myself. I lost my first horse two and a half months ago and still cry just thinking about her, just typing that brought tears to my eyes.

I'm so sorry for your losses.

Forever loved, never forgotten; my beautiful Indie. <3 Hoofprints on my heart.
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post #4 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 08:13 AM Thread Starter
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They were obviously to small for me to of ridden them, but I still cared for them everyday, mucked them out everyday, fed them everyday, groomed them everyday, and led them with the kids on their back.

They were such good ponies, so much personality. I'm no good with stuff like this
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post #5 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 08:17 AM
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You remind yourself that part of being a good owner is also giving an animal (horse, dog, cat, whatever) a dignified and peaceful passing.
It isn't easy, but knowing that they had a good life with you (or better life after coming to live with you) and that you are a responsible owner that put their need to not suffer above your own need to "hang on".... is something to focus on.
Unfortunately, having an animal pts because of age or illness is something most of us will have to deal with on this journey we walk with our animals.
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post #6 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 08:18 AM
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I'm so very sorry. As I have experienced with the loss of other animals and also people - accepting your emotions is crucial. We have to be honest with ourselves during the period of grief, and not to suppress anything.

If I may ask, what were their conditions that made to do this choice?

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post #7 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 08:24 AM Thread Starter
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I'm so very sorry. As I have experienced with the loss of other animals and also people - accepting your emotions is crucial. We have to be honest with ourselves during the period of grief, and not to suppress anything.

If I may ask, what were their conditions that made to do this choice?
Well they both had Cushings which they were both recieving medication for. Pickles then developed an eating problem, and wasnt able to swallow any sort of roughage. Vet came out and tried to get a camera down his throat to look but it wouldn't go in, which leant towards there being some sort of blockage. He seemed to then recover from that, but it's come back, along with some laminitis to do with his Cushings. He was almost 40.

Honey also has Cushings. She too was recieving daily medication. On Monday she suddenly came severely lame due to the Cushings, she couldn't walk and if she tried, she would collapse onto her knees. She was 22.

They really were funny, characterful ponies and will be missed so much
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post #8 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 10:07 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had a few dogs come and go and a few cats as well, but only one horse has passed on in my care. For the dogs, I can't say I bond to all of them. I like then and they are good dogs but you never forget your heart animals. All you can do is love them while they are here and give them dignity when it is time for them to go. It sounds like they lived long, happy lives, and you did right by them. Crying your eyes out helps, in a weird sort of way.
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post #9 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 03:19 PM
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So sorry for this double loss. We all take our own time to grieve & get better. Sounds like you did as much as you could for as long as you could. RIP sweet ponies.
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post #10 of 25 Old 01-30-2013, 03:28 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. They looked like sweet little things. All I can say in regards to grief is that time heals all wounds.
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