How do you know when to STOP looking? - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #1 of 21 Old 01-08-2011, 11:29 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 253
• Horses: 0
How do you know when to STOP looking?

I've looked at a lot of horses in the last 1/3 of a year (sounds better than saying 4 months. ).
I made an offer on a mare just before christmas. It was rockbottom, and in this economy, I think it was still a hair on the low side, but equivalant to the mare's worth, and reflected the finances it will take me to transport the horse, get a coggins, etc.
It was soundly rejected (no big shock), and she countered with $1000. (she was asking 1500, I offered 675, she countered.) I thanked her but declined.
Well..this week I heard back from the lady. And she needs the money and is willing to take 675 for her now. Im over the moon..but at the same time, why cant i commit?
This tiny, evil voice in the back of my head whispers, "Something better will come along as soon as you commit...the perfect horse will be next door and then you'll be sorry. so sorry."
For example, someone sent me an email tonight a a reply to my craigslist ad--they live 45 mintues from me, and have a 6 year old QH mare that's supposedly broke that they'll sell for 500.
So that voice says "SEE! AHA! KEEP WAITING! OR YOU'LL BE SORRY!" And I think to myself, but I don't even WANT a QH. So why am I deliberating with myself over something so stupid?
My question, how do you know when to STOP looking? How do you know when it's good enough and you should be HAPPY because the horse is EVERYTHING YOU WANT (and seriously, she is. She's 12--not too hyper--sensible--for an arab--tri color paint--raised at high altitude--bask bred and registered--not a midget--finished trail horse)
It's not just horses I feel this way about. I feel the same about men, as well. I got dumped twice in a row, first and second time out of the chute, inthe last year., and since then, I think and rethink and then rethink some more every commitment I have to make. But I'm nto sure why.
poultrygirl is offline  
Sponsored Links
post #2 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 04:29 PM
Green Broke
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: abilene,tx
Posts: 4,229
• Horses: 4
well with the horse i would say go and test ride and see if you can set up a trial week or something that way you are sure shes the one you want not jsut by what and ad or seller tells you. If you don't click with her then don't buy.
As for boys well im only 15 so i have no answer to that except don't let it get to you someone will come along it just may take some time.

just a small town girl with a big town dream :]
BarrelracingArabian is offline  
post #3 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 04:50 PM
Green Broke
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Valley of the Sun
Posts: 2,945
• Horses: 3
If you haven't ridden her then do it before you buy, but honestly you just know. (I thought you had, but can't remember)
My 1st horse, Mona was my sister's and not even for sale. I always liked her & she was the perfect horse for me. She's a horse that can do anything, was safe enough for me to ride as a beginner, but still challenging. When the opportunity came, I took it.
My other horse Willow was my friends horse. She was probably too much horse for me, but when my friend had to get rid of her, I jumped at it.
I still like horse shopping (looking) & always will, but when you find the right horse something will just click for you. Same with guys.

So in lies the madness, the pursuit of the impossible in the face of the complete assurance that you will fail, and yet still you chase.
flytobecat is offline  
post #4 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 05:30 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 8,157
• Horses: 0
I bought the horse I ended up with because I couldn't stop thinking about him. When I initially rode him, his trot was horrible, but his personality was to die for. A few days went by where my gut kept nagging me to the point where I realized a trot can be improved up to 80%, but a personality does not change and the good ones are hard to find.

My advice, ride the horse, kick the tires and then give it a few days. If you've pretty much forgotten about the horse by then, it's not the one. Don't settle. There are plenty of good ones who need homes for dirt cheap right now if you're willing to put in the time to look.

You just have to see your don't have to like it.
MyBoyPuck is offline  
post #5 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 05:50 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Stonington, CT
Posts: 142
• Horses: 2
I was like that too when I was looking at horses, Try out the horse, think about it for a few days and see how you feel. You have to see personality wise if you get along with the horse and all that kinda stuff. I know when I was looking at horses i had a list of things I wanted in a horse, and looked at quite a few horses. But as soon as i stopped worrying about it, I went to horse show and just happened to find a horse I fell in love with, and she was nothing at all like what I was looking for, But it worked out well. Dont settle for a horse you think is the right one for you, because its a big commitment, chose a horse you really like and you feel like its the right decision
KennyRogersPaints is offline  
post #6 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 06:49 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 1,337
• Horses: 1
Well, since you need a coggins I'm guessing the horse is not close enough for you to try out first. The only advice I have is my own experience. I bought one of our horses from out of state without trying her first. We did not need her to be trained but we still wanted her to have a sweet disposition and there was also a certain look we wanted that I was pretty sure I saw in her pictures. Other than that all I had to go off of was the ladys word I bought her from. She turned out to be exactly what we were looking for but I still look on Craigslist all the time to see if I missed out on a better deal too. Sometimes I find them but it doesn't matter because we have already bonded with the one we have. That will probably happen to you and, like I said, it wont matter when a better deal comes along.
Whisper22 is offline  
post #7 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 06:56 PM
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 791
• Horses: 0
Many horses look good and sound "perfect" in ads, but when you see them in person the flaws appear rather quickly. I would never buy a horse sight unseen. EVER. But that is just me. Look at the horse that is 45 minutes away before committing to the $675 horse.
Sahara is offline  
post #8 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 08:47 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 253
• Horses: 0
Oh no...I HAVE ridden her. Definitely. I saw her the first week in dec.
Here's the weird thing...when she declined my offer weeks ago, I literally got in the shower, and CRIED. I NEVER cry. Ever. Ever. I've broke bones and not made a peep. I go watch my sisters my brother to fine. But I CRIED over this horse.
I've been offered five or six horses since that mare, and still...even tho I knew I wouldn't get her she was still in the back of my mind.
Would that be an indication I like this horse alot more than im willing to admit to myself?
P.S-- the QH 45 mind from home is grade. And doesn't neck rein. Just ranch broke. She kinda sounds like a jumbo version of Reba.
Posted via Mobile Device
poultrygirl is offline  
post #9 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 09:15 PM
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 791
• Horses: 0
Well, by your own words, Reba sounds like a better fit. For the price, what are you waiting for? $675 is chump change. You could probably double that in the spring if it didn't work out.
Sahara is offline  
post #10 of 21 Old 01-09-2011, 10:39 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 1,337
• Horses: 1
I'm not sure what the problem is then. If you've tried her and you loved her and you cried over the thought of not being able to get her, why are you not jumping at the opportunity to have her now.
Whisper22 is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
When to STOP MSM????? Cinnys Whinny Horse Health 12 09-10-2010 10:54 AM
Not Sure how to stop this... TheRoughrider21 Horse Riding 3 08-09-2010 12:31 PM
Make it stop! CheyAut Technology 3 10-14-2009 12:07 PM
stop please majustesen Western Riding 14 09-29-2009 11:28 PM
Should I stop this? Vidaloco Horse Training 14 08-10-2008 10:12 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome