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    01-09-2011, 10:51 PM
  #11
Yearling
Poultrygirl, I'm glad to hear the lady called you back with "your" offer! So, you've been looking for a long time and you may never find a horse with 100% of what's on your list in your price range. You also have gotten used to shopping and it's hard to accept that you might find the 100% perfect horse next week - but you know that's not likely to happen. So, (and I'm smiling here) do you want to shop or do you want to have a horse you can ride?

You already know that this horse meets most of your criteria and if the lady had accepted your first offer the mare would already be home with you!

Having said all that, when I 'settled' for my 12 year old mare that was too fat and the wrong color and just 'trail broke' I kept looking, too. But, now, she's able to do a lot more than trails and we are having a blast. There are other more gorgeous horses but she is, as John Lyons would say, "my perfect horse" now. In my case, I decided that "perfect" was the enemy of "great" and I went ahead and bought her.

You'll know if she's the right horse for you. BTW - The lady is going to be a winner even if she doesn't get her first price - you're going to give this mare a great home!
     
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    01-11-2011, 04:04 PM
  #12
Weanling
Thanks Ladytrails :) it means a lot.
Well, I composed anemail Sunday night and sent it. I've been checking email at every opportunity since then, and no reply. And this isn't like her. This lady is on the computer several times a DAY. It's never taken her days to respond. I called her today and left a message--no response to that either. I'm getting a little I'll at ease. Did she change her mind?
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    01-11-2011, 04:29 PM
  #13
Green Broke
You just know when it comes down to the right horse. Every single horse I've bought for me has just felt right.

Stan I phoned about a two line advert in a local free ads paper, I sat on him for 10 mins and KNEW he was coming home with me then! I was in the fortunate position of having some fairly substantial finances behind me (thankyou mummy) so didnt even ask the price, however the lady who owned him wanted a forever home and I offered that as well as giving her first refusal if anything ever happened to me and he had to be sold (he was with me untill his death) thus I got him at a bargain price!.

Reeco, again I was looking at horses seen a few that were ok, not realy special but ticked every box on my list. Then I saw Reeco (was offered him through a very tight knit UK showing forum), he was NOTHING like what was on my tick list however I kept going back to his picture. I organised to see him 2 days later, pretty much convinced by the time I got there that if he wasnt an ogre of a character then he would come home with me. First thing he did when I saw him was wander up, give me a kiss and then raid my pockets! He was sold to me then, I didnt even have him vetted! I watched his old owner trot him up to make sure he was sound and that he moved straight and that was it. I put a deposit on him and picked him up 2 weeks later. Thankfully I had a sustantiasl amount of savings as well as a large payout from stans death so money wasnt an issue (he was rather more then I was planning on spending)
     
    01-11-2011, 04:36 PM
  #14
Weanling
I fell in love with Zee months before I ever rode him. His stall was directly across from my previous horse. He was the type of horse I could only dream of one day owning. When Danny was retired, Zee's owner agreed to let me lease him while I shopped for a new horse, since Zee needed the exercise. I kept telling myself that his owner would never sell him and he was too old for me, so I wouldn't even consider trying to buy him. After a month and a half of leasing him, I looked at several horses and kept thinking that I wasn't willing to give up leasing Zee to buy this horse. One day I knew that Zee was it, wrote a very long email to his owner about the possibility of buying him, and she agreed! In the back of my mind, I always knew he was the one...

If you have a feeling that maybe you should keep looking, then maybe fate is trying to tell you something. If its meant to be, then it will work out. If it doesn't, the right one is still waiting out there for you.
     
    01-12-2011, 12:32 AM
  #15
Green Broke
To me it sounds like you're not sure if you want to commit to any horse?

I can understand, especially in today's economy it can be really hard to move horses on, and afford them, and if she is the wrong horse you might find yourself stuck with her. It can be a bit of a risk to take.

People talk about "perfect" men and "perfect" horses, but to me there is no such thing. Perfect means without flaw, or exactly right but I don't believe anything living is without flaw, or exactly right, because they have minds and bodies that you cannot control, and that you cannot know.

If you don't want the horse don't get it. If you want to wait around sure, but look at why you are waiting and what you want.

Even if the horse ticks all your boxes doesn't mean its suitable for you. Some horses you just won't like, and others you will, and its same with people. Some times something suits you well, or badly, for no apparent reason.

If you're not ready wait. Don't get a horse because it seems just right, get a horse because you really, really want it.
     
    01-12-2011, 02:50 PM
  #16
Weanling
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Originally Posted by Saskia    
To me it sounds like you're not sure if you want to commit to any horse?

I can understand, especially in today's economy it can be really hard to move horses on, and afford them, and if she is the wrong horse you might find yourself stuck with her. It can be a bit of a risk to take.

People talk about "perfect" men and "perfect" horses, but to me there is no such thing. Perfect means without flaw, or exactly right but I don't believe anything living is without flaw, or exactly right, because they have minds and bodies that you cannot control, and that you cannot know.

If you don't want the horse don't get it. If you want to wait around sure, but look at why you are waiting and what you want.

Even if the horse ticks all your boxes doesn't mean its suitable for you. Some horses you just won't like, and others you will, and its same with people. Some times something suits you well, or badly, for no apparent reason.

If you're not ready wait. Don't get a horse because it seems just right, get a horse because you really, really want it.
That's a great way to put it.
Well, she didnt respond to the call on her house phone, so I called her cell phone last night (Im probably every sellers worst nightmare--I have your phone numbers and email ), and left a brief message just saying it was me, calling about the mare, if she could give me a call back at her earliest convenience that would be great. That was last night. Still, no reply to email and no return of call.
I'm actually WORRIED at this point. Even if she has changed her mind and decided she wont sell the mare, or sold her to someone else, it seems really odd she wouldnt call or email (she doesn't work, she lives alone, she's had health problems lately and spends a fair amount of time at home.) I'm seriously, WORRIED about HER. Last time I spoke with her she had just lost her favorite dog in a very unexpected way, and she was really down. I'm worried something has happened to her. What if something HAPPENED to her?
And the clock is ticking--I have a bid for a GREAT (like I couldn't even drive up there and haul her back at this price) bid on uship for shipping this mare, and it expires saturday. I can't accept that bid til I know if I have the horse. And classes are coming up fast here, starting next week. It's just like everything is on a stopwatch now.
     
    01-12-2011, 03:06 PM
  #17
Weanling
And I just got a reply to my phone call. She was out of town. She doesn't sound too enthusiastic, but at least we know she didnt get stuck in a blizzard out in the pasture, or hit her head, and that's okay, and now it's time to get ahold of the vet.
     
    01-12-2011, 11:55 PM
  #18
Yearling
Glad to hear everything's coming together, Poultrygirl! I'll keep following this thread so be sure to tell us how it works out. Fingers crossed for the vet check...
     
    01-13-2011, 01:57 PM
  #19
Started
Doesn't matter what horse you buy, you'll always find another one that makes you go, "Aw, darn it!" Until you get attached to your horse and you don't care about nicer horses anymore. At least that's what happened to me.
     
    01-21-2011, 02:10 PM
  #20
Weanling
Well, called the vet last week, and she wouldnt answer or return the message I left. Called days later and she picked up. She said she would head out there early this week for the coggins and health paperwork to get started. She said she'd call as soon as she looked at the mare. That was last week. This week, I haven't heard from her. Called and left another message. No response. This makes me antsy because the one thing we're waiting on is that paperwork.
Yesterday the hauling company set after me, and they ARE VERY nice, because they had a load of ponies comign down today, and could have taken the mare. And they don't worry about a coggins (honestly, we know she's healthy.) But...we don't even have a health cert. They drive this route often, so I told them to hold off.
This morning, talked to the mare's owner, about what's going on and she angrily said "GEE I WISH YOU COULD PAY BOARDING FOR HER!" Lady, its the VET who won't come look, or telling anyone waht's going on at this point.
I'm just tired. Yesterday was bad. Really bad day. Half way thru my classes I had to drive to the college library to drop something off. I can't afford the $400 parking permit, so I always park waaaaay off campus and walk. Well, I reasoned "just dropping a book off" and I'd be "right back". So I parked in the guest spot of an apartment complex across from the library. I went in the library, got really ill and spend 30 mins in there throwing up in the bathroom. When I felt strong enough to come back outside, my truck was gone. Called the tow company, and sure enough. THe apartment had been waiting for me, apparently, and called as soon as I got out of my truck.
I had another class at community college several miles away. I had no way to get there. So I set off on foot with my 30 pound backpack on my back. It was windy and 30 degrees outside. I arrived 25 mins later to class, my teacher stopped the class, came and pointed me out, and wanted me to sing. Even though I was covered in a sheen of sweat, shivering, and my nose wouldnt stop running.
After class I had to have the tow company come get me, go across town, paid $180 for my own stupidity and drove away to my next class. I'm just tired and yesterday was long. And the horse vet doesn't need to make it any longer! Haha. I'm not sure why I'm writing this.
     

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