Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Germany- but not German =D
Abuse is abuse. Its not nice, but you can't treat him like a human, they don't think like we do.
As has been mentioned above, don't beat seven bells out of him if he won't stand, but don't tip toe around him.
Sounds like he needs someone to be his herd leader, is he turned out with other horses? This may help to bring him out of his shell, and time.
Forget grooming, if you can get a halter and leadrope on him do ground work excercises. He needs to learn where to put his feet when you tell him, and that where you tell him is safe. It takes time, and no magical bonding, but you'll get there.
I wouldn't suggest feeding him treats by hand, however when its feeding time make sure you are the one to feed him- don't bite the hand that feeds sort of things. Horses live for their stomachs.