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        11-16-2013, 09:43 PM
      #21
    Green Broke
    I don't know if my significant others have ever "understood" it, but they have accepted it.

    I think the major differences with horses is that it's a hobby that changes your lifestyle.

    I don't know if it's possible to explain, other than saying that this is simply part of who you are. It's not an addition to your life but it is your life.

    I think ways to make it work are to try to leave the horse stuff at the stable. Don't come home complaining about a ride, or have a car full of hay, plod around in your tall boots and breeches. Leave the horse stuff at the horse. Outside of the horse be a "normal" person.

    Saying all that I don't know if I could make it work long term with someone who wasn't pretty "open" to horsey stuff. Part of my life plans are to buy a small property, have animals etc. I value animals, outdoors, open spaces, the quiet, genuine country type people - these aren't things I'd be willing to give up. I grew up as a city kid, and I know even if I liked some of the people from the city a lot of them just wouldn't have the same goals or ideals as me.
         
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        11-17-2013, 04:16 PM
      #22
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    Originally Posted by Saskia    
    I don't know if my significant others have ever "understood" it, but they have accepted it.

    I think the major differences with horses is that it's a hobby that changes your lifestyle.

    I don't know if it's possible to explain, other than saying that this is simply part of who you are. It's not an addition to your life but it is your life.

    I think ways to make it work are to try to leave the horse stuff at the stable. Don't come home complaining about a ride, or have a car full of hay, plod around in your tall boots and breeches. Leave the horse stuff at the horse. Outside of the horse be a "normal" person.

    Saying all that I don't know if I could make it work long term with someone who wasn't pretty "open" to horsey stuff. Part of my life plans are to buy a small property, have animals etc. I value animals, outdoors, open spaces, the quiet, genuine country type people - these aren't things I'd be willing to give up. I grew up as a city kid, and I know even if I liked some of the people from the city a lot of them just wouldn't have the same goals or ideals as me.
    Exactly! That is what I have told different people, that it is a lifestyle. Currently my sister and her husband are trying to nail us down to when we can go camping with them this coming summer. My dear Brother-in-law has a hard time to understand that I can't lock into a date when I'm never sure exactly when the hay will be ready to put up. Hay always comes first! Now that is something a horse person totally gets.
         
        11-18-2013, 12:23 PM
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    Sometimes you just can't get them to understand it. To my husband my horse is just a pet like a dog or a cat. He is expensive and time consuming. I've had to learn to balance my time to make everyone happy. I may not spend as much time with my horse as I want, but it's better than having no horse at all or not having my DH in my life either..
    This. I go to the barn Mon & Wed nights directly after work, and by 7 am on Sat & Sun. It's more than fiance would like but it's tolerated because this is obviously my passion. I try not to talk about horsey stuff at home, and keep my answers to her obligatory "How was Cash today?" down to a simple "He trotted much better than yesterday." No need to go on about our collecting, extending, ground poles, serpentines, or that spook in that SW corner of the arena - save that for Horse Forum, lol.

    Our finances are combined (board, farrier & shots comes out of this, same as dog food, toys & shots,) but we each have a small, equal monthly allowance of our "own" money to do with as we please, without question. My account may buy fly spray or a new saddle pad, whereas fiance might aquire some shiny new electronic gadget. These personal accounts are also where we buy birthday/Christmas gifts for each other from, to keep it a surprise!
         
        11-18-2013, 08:13 PM
      #24
    Weanling
    My daughter's husband was a non horsey, "city boy", they bought their first horse back during the spring, and then another 2 weeks later. He now loves them almost as much as she does, he's happy that she's so happy, happy that the kids are so much happier, and having good, clean, wholesome fun. They all ride together, and have a real blast. He doesn't mind the money one bit. He's actually very proud of the horses.
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