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        07-24-2010, 02:30 AM
    how to handle this sticky situation

    Okay, here is the story. My good friend has a 7 yr old mare that is beautiful, but dangerous. She has had her to at least 5 different trainers and they all say the same thing: we will not ride her anymore she is dangerous.
    What she does, at different times is rear over backwards. (she also bucks and bucks hard at different times) It can be while she is tied to a trailer, she will throw herself over backwards and lay there until someone cuts the leadrope. She will let herself be ridden for hours and behave just fine, then throw herself over backwards while a rider is in the saddle. She will behave herself, ride fine and not have an issue one day, then blow up the next. She has been vet checked, blood drawn, chiropractor checked, just about everything you can think of, there is nothing physically wrong with this mare.
    I think she is dangerous and needs to be put down. My friend says"but she is so pretty" , I hate to put her down, will you help me sell her". I told her no, I would not help her and asked how she would explain to folks about her dangerous tendencies. She said" I will say she is known to buck and rear".
    I hate this, I like the person, but can't seem to get her to understand how dangerous this is. By the way, she is older than I am and has other horses, and has had horses for years and years.But it just kills me to know this mare WILL end up killing someone, either my friend or another trainer or another person riding her.
    Its so darn frustrating, there are many many good horses out there do continue dealing with a dangerous animal. And certainly breeding her is not a good thing, why pass this temperament on to a foal?
    Okay, now I feel better, just needed to get it off my chest. I personally think she needs to put her down, I have offered to be there and help, but she keeps thinking she needs to sell her to "recoup" some money she had put into her. AUGHHHHHHHHHHHH
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        07-24-2010, 03:06 PM
    Tough one, isn't it ? To sell the horse is incredibly irresponsible. Friend was in this position a year or so with a stunning horse, well bred and with awesome paces. He was 7 years old, had been to various respected trainers who all said the same thing. Dangerous and must never be ridden again. Its owner refused to listen as the horse had been bought as a youngster by his wife who had tragedically died. She had great plans for the horse when she was diagnosed with cancer and died a few months later. He loaned the horse to my friend without telling her its history and she found the horse so unpredictable that it would fling itself when ridden on hacks at brick walls or try to run under lorries. She sent it away for training and once again, the trainer said it was too dangerous to be ridden. Finally, the owner listened, friend told him the horse was too beautiful to be a field companion, because one day, somehow, someone would come along and persuade him to let him be ridden. The owner had the horse PTS.
    Far too many people sell horses that that are essentially killing machines and the horses have sad lives being sold on again and again. Beautiful horses fare the worst because they are easier to sell on.
        07-24-2010, 03:58 PM
    She needs to be sold or given away to a home who will use her as just a companion animal, and who has the time and abilities to keep an eye on and provide a safe environment for her.

    This is a terrible situation where the owner must be under a great deal of stress with the horse's life at the stake, but she needs to understand what's right. If the right home isn't found, it would be kindest for her to put her down.
        07-24-2010, 04:36 PM
    Equinpile: This horse is in a safe environment and is well taken care of and the owner has the abilities to send this horse to the best trainers and take care of her, as she has. Giving her away or selling her to be a pasture pet is being total irresponsible, just a cop out to not putting her down. Sometime the horse WILL have to be tied for a vet, trimmer, grooming or whatever and the horse will and does go over backwards when just being tied. That is why I keep telling her to put her to sleep, it would be kindess for the horse. I could never live with myself if I sold, gave away this horse and found out down the road it killed someone. Like Santa said" somebody sometime will try to ride her again and that might be the time she kills someone by going over on them
    Not putting this horse down is asking someone to get killed in my opinion, I just can't get her to realize that.
        07-24-2010, 04:45 PM
    Green Broke
    Sounds to me like the horse is just miserable. Maybe you can get the trainrs or someone with way more horse experience then your friend to help you convince her she is to dangorous, and needs to be put down, there are lots of other pretty, well behaved, horses out there.
        07-24-2010, 05:38 PM
    I don't believe the whole find a better train thing or keep her as a companion. The horse isn't happy and needs to be PTS before she injures a person, another horse or herself.
        07-24-2010, 05:50 PM
    Green Broke
    Originally Posted by Tasia    
    I don't believe the whole find a better train thing or keep her as a companion. The horse isn't happy and needs to be PTS before she injures a person, another horse or herself.
    that's the whole problem, her friend isnt Listening, she thinks she's to pretty.
        07-24-2010, 05:52 PM
    ^ No I mean other people who agree with not putting her down.
        07-24-2010, 05:57 PM
    If she doesn't stand and is unpredictable even when not being ridden, then yes, putting her down is the right thing to do, and your friend needs to realize a sane horse is worth more than a pretty one anyday.
        07-24-2010, 06:07 PM
    Tough one!

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