I'm kind of stuck
So I'm moving my riding horse and mini to grazing in town so they are close to me. No problem there.
I have an almost yearly filly who my mother and her friend have become rather attached to. Granted, they have been looking after her (I've been paying for food and feet) whilst I've been working away, however she remains 'mine'. I would like to take her to the same grazing once I have brought on my riding mare a bit. However, my mother wants me to leave her up the farm.
This would be wonderful as it would let her stretch and grow. However, the farm is a good hour and a half drive from where I will be living and my mother wont handle her, as in, no grooming, no walking, no nothing, bassically a paddock orniment.
My mum and her friend are digging their heels in as currently my filly is grazed with the friend's 3 year old gelding and are getting along swimmingly. No one likes my mare (the mother of the filly) and they think putting them back together will teach the filly bad manners. However, they will be in different paddocks and once my mare is off the dairy grass at the farm she is an angel.
They are both under the impression that my filly should be left to run around with the gelding up on the farm, yet they still want to show her etc. I would love to show her but I think she needs to be accessable to me so I can actually bond with her and provide proper care rather than throw food at her and pet her over the fence.
How to I politly tell them to back off? I'm a bit of a push over (a lot of a push over) and I don't want to upset any one. However, she is my horse even if they have looked after her whilst I've been away. I plan to take her back up the farm with her mother to winter out and grow but I would really like to have her close by and actually handle her.
Any thoughts would be apriciated. I've made my intentions clear but they are ignoring me, saying she will be fine up the farm with the gelding and that I'll have my hands full with the mare. I can see their point but they can't see mine.
Thanks for reading