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post #21 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 11:56 AM
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I remember asking someone this very question before I started to learn to ride and I believe their response was no my horses are not ridden except for showing.

While technically a lie as the horses are ridden in preperation for shows too it got the point across without offending me and I understood that hey these horses are not some kids pony.

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post #22 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 11:56 AM
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I'm just honest. "No, I don't share my horse.. (or my motorcycle .. or my car .. or my husband) .. sorry."

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post #23 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 11:58 AM
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Do not make excuses. It will only get you in more of a mess.

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post #24 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 12:01 PM
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Many people think a horse is a horse. You get on and ride. They really don't understand. I feel bad for both of you and you are in a bit of an awkwark position. Hopefully a short and honest explanation will do the trick.
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post #25 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 12:07 PM
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I'd just say no. One of my friends wanted to ride my horse, I have let alot of my friends ride my horse, but only ones that ride on a daily basis's. This girl thought she knew everything since she took 3 years of lessons and leased a horse that [I]always[I] bucked. Never once did I see her buck, anyway. I just told her its against the barns rules for a kid to ride someone's horse without there parent there. End of story. It's not the barns rules, but I didnt want her riding my horse. :)
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post #26 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 12:07 PM
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Too complicated. Skip all the things about how the mare tests riders and skip the snappy comeback. She's not intending to insult you. A lot of people simply don't consider a horse as a personal thing. Explain that the horse requires a very well trained Dressage rider to control her and to not negatively impact her training. You're not causing offense by saying no. You're not obligated to say yes. If she's offended it's her sense of entitlement causing it.
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post #27 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 12:15 PM
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I tell people that my horse would kill them.

I don't get asked again.
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post #28 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 01:46 PM
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I'd just say no. One of my friends wanted to ride my horse, I have let alot of my friends ride my horse, but only ones that ride on a daily basis's. This girl thought she knew everything since she took 3 years of lessons and leased a horse that [I]always[I] bucked. Never once did I see her buck, anyway. I just told her its against the barns rules for a kid to ride someone's horse without there parent there. End of story. It's not the barns rules, but I didnt want her riding my horse. :)
Ok, so what do you do when she shows up with a parent???? Too much bull crap! Put your big girl panties on and just say "NO".

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post #29 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 01:58 PM
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I feel so excited that I was offered to ride her and I'm still alive, Copper. (: LOL

But..I agree..Just let her kniw that since she doesn't have years of dressage riding, the horse will most likely send her to the ER, and you'd rather her stay alive as a friend, lol.
If I let someone ride Lucky out of the indoor arena (tiny), they'd be off in a heartbeat and never want to ride again.
If I let someone ride ST, I have no doubt they'd be fine, but I charge a lesson fee. No one asks again because they don't want to pay, lol.
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post #30 of 62 Old 02-13-2013, 02:03 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for all of your help! I hate disappointing people and I really do love to encourage new riders. If she had ANY experience it would be a different story, but I think the closest she's been is watching horse movies.

Its just difficult b/c this lady is my renting a house from us and I want to preserve the friendly relationship. I think I'm going to lead with good old fashion cowardly avoidance and if needed escalate to care for her safety & liability.

I'm GREAT with horses but completely horrible with people. Why can't I just give her an angry look and snap at her and tell her to STOP, and then just wait until she drops her head and licks and chews at me and then we can be friends again?!
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