I'm new to horses, recently got my first horse. I am so tired of every person giving me advice - do this, do that, buy this, buy that. Example, tonight I'm working in a pen pretty far from the 'tack room' building, across a pasture - everything is going really well. Then this woman who's always there (and always telling me what I should do) starts walking aaaallll the way over to us. She finally gets to the pen, comes on in - I ask "what's up?" at which point she tells me I need a 'bigger saddle', a back cinch, breast collar... She tightens my cinch to show me how the saddle shouldn't move around - where do I begin?? I asked her if by bigger saddle she meant wider bars, she said no just a bigger saddle... that did not make any sense. I smile and nod, whatever. She tightens the cinch, but the saddle clearly still moves because my horse is REALLY round, so she tells me he's fat (obvious, I've been working on his weight since I got him). She tells me I need to buy a different latigo with holes, a back cinch so the saddle doesn't pop up and down (we were walking the horse...).
This is every single time I go out there, to the point where I worry about other boarders being there~! It's making my new fun hobby stressful.
How do I politely, nicely, tell everyone there to mind their own business, go tend their own horses, and leave me to learn on my own???