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post #11 of 16 Old 09-21-2012, 12:15 PM
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As AlexS - I would not count this person as a friend. Maybe if people shunned her a bit she might start to wonder why.
If she really is as bad as you say then its a matter for the BO to sort out. When I ran a big yard I had a strict policy of boarders keeping their noses out of things like this and coming to me to discuss it - saved a lot of unpleasantness around the place as most things were easily fixed and some people dont even realise they are doing something thats offensive to others
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Yessss, I AM that quiet neighbor and I DO have a very large freezer.....
i can't see you being quiet anywhere!

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i can't see you being quiet anywhere!
Hush now, you'll blow my cover!

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Telling other people their riding (or horsemanship) is bad never does any good unfortunately. I'm not even sure how to approach the person in such situation.

Does the horse have bloody marks or ripped mouth? Is it afraid of the owner/riding/being saddled?

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post #15 of 16 Old 09-21-2012, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted by kitten_Val View Post
Telling other people their riding (or horsemanship) is bad never does any good unfortunately. I'm not even sure how to approach the person in such situation.

Does the horse have bloody marks or ripped mouth? Is it afraid of the owner/riding/being saddled?
My thoughts too.

I've had folks tell me distance riding is cruel because the horses sweat so much. To each their own.
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Originally Posted by poppy1356 View Post
So I'm going to play devils advocate here... How well do you know this girl and her horse? I can tell you right now there are a few people at my barn that if they saw me doing arena exercises would scream abuse. I ride with some pretty nasty looking spurs, mainly because they were free, they are not sharp at all just regular dull rowel spurs but pretty big. I never kick with spurs ever, I actually never kick either way, I ride english so everything is leg pressure. Oh and my leg hangs far below her belly lol so I need spurs to reach.

My horse has a horrible cough, this is due to allergies and beyond her current meds there's nothing more I can do. I let her run for as long as she wants. She will be coughing and running, and I mean running until she is sweated up, but I do not make her do this, she is an Arab and will run for the fun of it. With her cough I simply go in the arena and let her pick the speed she wants.

We do lots of circles when she acts up. She knows exactly what I'm asking but sometimes she wants to jump out of the arena, it looks like I'm pulling her mouth off but really I'm just keeping steady pressure to get her to turn, she has no self preservation so attemping a 5 foot jump is definately in her mind. Now this is very rare now as she is learning it will get her nowhere.

But what I'm saying is to someone who doesn't know me or my horse or how my horse is trained they would be appauled. But those people are also the people that have let their horse become dangerous because they can't hit fluffy.

This girl could very well be abusing her horse but when other people claim it without video or picture evidence for me to see for myself I'm very hesitant to jump on the abuse wagon.
I completely understand where you're coming from, I'd question a post/situation like this too, but I can tell you that what I'm describing is honestly what I'm seeing from my point of view.
I'm not a NH crazy (no offense to anyone that is). I definitely support necessary discipline to a horse.
I honestly don't think this is training or anything good. And I've seen my share of the 'bad' side of the horse world, too...

That aside, this girl takes good care of her horses, she just rides like she has something to prove. Extremely rough. Supposedly her last horse broke its leg during a barrel run and had to be put down. (that can happen to anyone though, not judging her by that.)

I don't want to confront her about it because, like what someone else said, it'll turn into an argument. More so, it's not my place to tell her how to ride, either!! I know I hate it when people try to tell me what to do with my horses, even though they're right sometimes!

I just feel like I should do something.. It's really hard for me to just let it go on.
Maybe reccomend her to a trainer? I don't know.

[by the way, I'm not boarding; there's a public riding arena that we go to to work our horses. Unfortunately there's no rules that I know of (well they aren't enforced anyway) at the place.]

Between a rock and a hard place here.

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