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        03-27-2010, 09:01 PM
      #1
    Yearling
    Hypothetical Question

    I love this forum cause you guys always have so many good answers, so lets see what you think of this one

    My pony is going to be 20 this year. I want to move up to a horse. At home, I have a 2 stall barn, with my pony and an older rescue living there with my parents. I would "give" my pony away (he'd still be mine) but I haven't quite found anyone yet who I think would be a good match with him. I wanted to get a new horse, which I'd pay for, and my dad would help me put an addition on our barn, and cover feed costs and whatnot. My dad has no problem with this.
    My mom, however, put her foot down, and blah blah blah will not have any more horses on our property. I find this a little unfair since my mom is only 45 and last winter decided she "doesn't want to work anymore" and hasn't worked since. (My dad has a really good job so it's not really necessary for her to work.) No word of a lie, she doesn't really do much all day, but if she doesn't want to look after another horse, there's nothing I can do. She's been good enough to look after mine this year while I'm in university and will be for the next three years so there's nothing I can say but thank you for what she's already done/will continue to do.
    So I offered to transfer home, live at home, and commute the 45 minutes to the local university that I have absolutely no interest in going to, so I could do barnwork every day, get a job in my hometown, and support my horse. Still no deal, she literally refuses to allow a horse on the property, even if I'd be looking after it and paying every cent related to it. I don't understand her logic but again, there's no argument I can make.. Even though my dad is on my side, my mom still trumps us. Basically, I am heartbroken, and have basically been ACTUALLY depressed since realizing that there's very little way I can get a new horse. I haven't slept in 5 days or eaten in 7 (you'd be amazed at what your body refuses to do when you're this upset).

    BUT, my boyfriend's aunt and uncle are building a barn. They're pretty wealthy and they've offered to let me take my pony there and ride whenever I like. My boyfriend was explaining my situation to them tonight and they've offered that if I buy a new horse, I'm able to keep him there.. free of charge. Obviously I would pay for hay and grain and deworming and shoes, (I'm getting a job at my university) and my boyfriend would chip in a lot. If emergency vet care would come up, my boyfriend would pay it and I could pay it back to him, he has an excellent job. This is a really good deal, but what do you guys think? I mean no one can say for sure but I'm quite certain me & my boyfriend will be together for awhile, we've already been together for a long time (we're talking years). I also am in line to get a government job at $18 an hour, if I don't get it I can return to my old job at $10 an hour, and probably get a second for May-September. What do you guys think of this situation? Would you do it?

    If anyone actually read that whole thing, I will be AMAZED and send you chocolate chip cookies.
         
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        03-27-2010, 09:25 PM
      #2
    Green Broke
    While im waiting for the cookies to get here... I will respond, lol. Why don't you just lease the pony out to a loving family that would keep him on their property and let you come a see him a lot :) just food for thought...

    But I think it sounds like a pretty good deal, haha jeez I wish my boyfriend kept a horse for me!!! Haha but if you and your boyfriend all of a suddenly broke up, would your mom let the horse on your property til you found a new place??? I would make sure of that before I got a new horse to do that :) hope it all works out!!!
         
        03-27-2010, 09:28 PM
      #3
    Started
    Hmm. It seems like a good deal to me but what I'm more interested in is how often will you be able to get home to ride the new horse?
    Other than then that it sounds like a wonderful opportunity to get a new horse!
    :]
         
        03-27-2010, 10:55 PM
      #4
    Green Broke
    >>>basically been ACTUALLY depressed since realizing that there's very little way I can get a new horse. I haven't slept in 5 days or eaten in 7 (you'd be amazed at what your body refuses to do when you're this upset). <<<<

    This happend to me. But it was over a dog. I actualy knew the dog and loved him very much. He is still in the rescue. It just kills me. I guess what I'm saying is I know how you feel.
         
        03-27-2010, 11:19 PM
      #5
    Yearling
    I agree with everyone else, it seem's like an amazing opportunity, just make sure you alway's have a back up plan in case :)
         
        03-28-2010, 12:25 AM
      #6
    Yearling
    Thanks guys.
    What I might do is buy a horse next year with the INTENTION of keeping it there.. But my dad is a huge sucker so I know as soon as I bought it he'd be like no no no, take it home!! And if he doesn't, well the horse will have a wonderful place to stay.

    Plus I'm a very persuasive only child

    Myhorsesonador, I know how you feel.. it's awful. :(
         
        03-28-2010, 07:06 AM
      #7
    Yearling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ridergirl23    
    While im waiting for the cookies to get here... I will respond, lol. Why don't you just lease the pony out to a loving family that would keep him on their property and let you come a see him a lot :) just food for thought...

    But I think it sounds like a pretty good deal, haha jeez I wish my boyfriend kept a horse for me!!! Haha but if you and your boyfriend all of a suddenly broke up, would your mom let the horse on your property til you found a new place??? I would make sure of that before I got a new horse to do that :) hope it all works out!!!
    Hahah yeah he's pretty fantastic.. He also volunteered to go water/feed every morning and night, and do my stall as long as I'm in university.

    We fought once a long time ago and I threw out a "maybe we should just break up" and he came back quick as can be with "yeah well it's going to be a joint custody agreement with Cody" (my Arab gelding) hahahah!
         

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