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post #1 of 15 Old 11-06-2009, 10:53 PM Thread Starter
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I don't know what to do :/

Well Junior is being sold, most of you know who he is. I have to say goodbye and it is going to be the hardest thing I have ever done.

Is it better to spend as much time with him as I can until he gets sold and then be there to say goodbye as he loads onto the trailer to his new home?

Or is it better to spend less and less time with him and not be there when he leaves because it will hurt less in the end?

I just don't know what to do. I really love that horse and I can't imagine my life without him.

The only thing I can think of is that he came into my life, saved my life, and now God is saying that it is time for him to move on and help someone else.

I just don't know. I will probably quit horseback riding after he sells. Maybe not forever, but for a long, long time.
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post #2 of 15 Old 11-06-2009, 10:57 PM
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How come do you have to sell him??

I think if you love him as very much as possible, it will be very very hard to let him go but you will always know he will remember you as the one who loved him the very most.

I can't imagine selling my horse and completely know what you would be going through...

Don't stop riding! We all know that you will never be able to replace him, but the other horses could help you recover with time.
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post #3 of 15 Old 11-06-2009, 10:58 PM
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aww Hun I'm sorry *hugs* that's a tough decision,but what if you regret "not" spending time with him and saying goodbye?.
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post #4 of 15 Old 11-06-2009, 11:02 PM Thread Starter
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He is being sold cause he was never mine. My friend is moving and he belongs to her and they can't afford to take him.

That is what I am afraid of lacyloo. I am afraid that I will regret not spending the last moments with him but I don't know if I am strong enough to handle it. I have been crying just thinking about him.
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post #5 of 15 Old 11-06-2009, 11:09 PM
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I cried when I sold my first horse.

I think you should spend as much time as you can with him, and take lots of pictures, and then spend goodbye. Don't think about him going, just try and have some fun together.
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post #6 of 15 Old 11-07-2009, 12:00 AM
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I'd recommend spending as much time with him as possible. I had the same sort of dilemma at the end of my first summer working at the camp I volunteer at. I had basically found my heart horse (he still is my heart horse, there's no way around that) and the hardest thing I've ever had to do was watch him be loaded up on that trailer at the end of the summer. In the weeks before the end of camp I basically spent every moment with him, just loving on him and I even walked him on to the trailer myself when he had to leave.
Sure, I bawled like a little kid off and on for the next week or so but in the end I know I did the right thing because he knew for sure that I love him. I still get teary eyed every once in a while thinking about him but it's made easier by the other special horses in my life.
It's one of those things where you will never love a horse for the same reasons that you love Junior for but if you give it a chance you'll find another horse that needs you just as much as Junior did/does and you will adore that horse in a different way.
For instance: my first horse love, I loved him for the freedom he gave me over jumps and the confidence I gained from working through his issues with him. We had a deep connection that no one could deny and it was very hard to let him go.
My second horse love, I loved him for the trust he put in me, even when I could barely trust myself, and for how he made me feel like I was the only person in the world that was worth anything. If I was in the barn he would ignore everyone in an attempt to get my attention. He gave me his all and I walked him on to the trailer to send him home, yet he still loves me. He was back at camp last summer and he was having some issues that I came and fixed and he let me right back into his heart even after I kinda let him down. And yes, writing this has made me tear up.
Lacey is still worming her way into my heart but she's teaching me that I need to trust her and let myself go. I love her for the way she's teaching me to trust and I love her for how much she needs me even when I think I'm worthless.

Each one has been very important to my journey and I love/d them all very deeply and dearly, just in different ways. I hope you will continue with horses because you will find one that needs you just as much as Junior does/did and you will grow to love that one too.

*hugs*

And sorry for how long this is. >.<

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post #7 of 15 Old 11-07-2009, 01:02 AM
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Take the time you have to build even more memories with him that you can treasure when the time comes.
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post #8 of 15 Old 11-07-2009, 02:30 AM
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definitely spend as much time as possible with him. I just went through the same thing, and I wish I were there 24/7. I seemed to find myself crying every time I was with him, but it's just kind of inevitable..I tried to stay away from people whenever I could and they understood, and they tried to give us our space when we were around them. I'm glad that I stayed with him, and I was there loading him into the trailer when he left.
It's a really really hard thing..I'm so sorry that you have to go through it. Don't be ashamed at all of crying over him; you have really good reason. I know that he's a really special guy..and now he's just going off to touch more people's lives. I'm sure that he'll be safe and happy wherever he goes.
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post #9 of 15 Old 11-10-2009, 04:44 PM
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I'd say spend as much time as you can with him. My mare died back in 07, and I still wish to this day that I had spent more time with her. Not the same as being sold but.. :(

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post #10 of 15 Old 11-10-2009, 05:56 PM
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Definitely spend as much time with him as possible. You will regret it if you don't. I'm telling you. It may hurt less at first to wean yourself away from him, but as the months go on and you really start to miss him, you will regret every missed opportunity to spend time with him. I'm really sorry that you have to lose him - it's such a tough thing to go through.
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