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        11-02-2010, 03:49 PM
    I don't know what to do, advice?

    So I will make this as short as possible...

    My mom wants to sell both of the horses (Junior and Bear), which I was fine with at first, but now that I have been spending more time with both of them I am having a really hard time letting go. With Junior, it is me not trusting that whoever taking him will give him a good home and will keep him until the day he passes. But with Bear, it is me being overly attached to him. I remember when I first got him, he was was a big, mean horse that everyone was scared of. He bit not just me, but also Aubre (NordicJuniper). He almost kicked my friend Sam (cornered her) and acted like he wanted to kick me a few times. He had his bad days, that's for sure. But now, he is a sweetheart. I mean he still has his bad days, but for the most part, he is a gentleman. When I am crying, he will make funny faces until I laugh (it's true). He has covered up the pain of losing Rhedd, which I never thought was going to happen. He has become my true heart horse and has not only left a hoof print on my heart, but has taken a piece of my heart and if I lost him, it would break that piece of heart into a million little pieces.

    Anyways, so my mom wants to sell him. I currently don't have a job (will be getting one as soon as possible), but once I do have a job my money will go into paying for Bear (or atleast half of his costs). I'm just worried my mom won't want me to keep him or won't be willing to pay for him. I'm really scared to lose him because I already know what it will do to me.

    I know I probably sound pathetic, but I really can't stand the thought of losing him. I just need someone to talk me through this. I need advice. Any ideas on what I should say to my mom. I really can't lose this horse.

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        11-02-2010, 03:51 PM
    ((hugs)) I think you should tell your mom exactly what you told us.
        11-02-2010, 04:15 PM
    I agree with equestrian. :) Don't worry I had to convince my dad to keep my horse but eventually she had to be retired so I am keeping her at my Grandpas
        11-02-2010, 04:19 PM
    Green Broke
    Why not sell Junior and use the money to keep Bear until you can find a job?
        11-02-2010, 04:20 PM
    Originally Posted by eventerwannabe    
    Anyways, so my mom wants to sell him. I currently don't have a job (will be getting one as soon as possible), but once I do have a job my money will go into paying for Bear (or atleast half of his costs). I'm just worried my mom won't want me to keep him or won't be willing to pay for him.
    This particular part of your story stood out for me.

    I'd lay odds that your mother either doesn't have the funds to continue to pay for these horses, or doesn't wish to. Either way, unless you can come up with a way to pay completely for this horse's board, feeding, farrier and vet care on your own, it really is unfair to ask your mother to continue to do it.

    Adults sometimes have to make hard decisions that kids don't understand. You're seeing this from only your own point of view. What's your mother's story on why she wants/needs the horses sold?
        11-02-2010, 04:40 PM
    That happened to me..twice. My sister and I each had our own horse for years, then my mom just couldn't afford it anymore, and had to sell them...of course I was heart broken, I was only 14. Then my mom let my sister and I take lessons again, then within a few years she bought us 2 more horses.. (my mom is easily persuaded). Then she was going through a divorce, and I wasn't riding as much as I should have been, so when I turned 18 and still didnt have a job, she sold my sister's horse then gave my horse to my sister. At that point I didn't really care as much, because he was still in the family.

    Then my sister went to collage and she sold her horse.

    Bottom line, it happens, and it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. Think about how much your mother is paying...my mom knew I loved my horses, but there was nothing she could do. No matter how much my sister and I begged and cried.
        11-02-2010, 05:33 PM
    So sorry to hear that, its really tough out there right now for so many people.
    From a mothers stand point, I too had to do this to my girls a few years ago and its really tough for a parent to make these decisions. But, now that things are looking up we are looking at another horse right now and everyone is falling in love with the big guy.
        11-02-2010, 05:59 PM
    Originally Posted by equestrian    
    ((hugs)) I think you should tell your mom exactly what you told us.
    your story was heart warming, like this was going to kill you. Tell her....
        11-02-2010, 06:45 PM
    What about leasing one or both horses??
        11-02-2010, 06:48 PM

    That's sounds like a good idea for a temporary problem.

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