Arrow - The trouble is, I feel like she is the perfect match for me, all exept for this problem. I just don't know any more.
ParkerHorseRanch - I'm not using a bit.
She doesnt bolt when I ride her, it's when I lead her in from the field.
Vidaloco - Thanks, I'll try that. =]
Inthesaddle - I don't think anything is spooking her. I honestly think she's taking advantage rather than getting scared. There's no way she could be scared of the gate, nothing scary has ever happened to her around it.
KirstiArndt - Thanks. What exactly is a stud chain though? I've heard of them but I don't think I've ever seen one before...
FoxyRoxy - Thanks, I might try that.
Iridehorses - Thank you. You've given me one of the most honest answers so far. My mum is really pushing for me to sell her, and to get lessons at the local school until I'm absolutely 100% confident. In alot of ways I think it would help, and I think it's a good idea. But I can't help thinking I shouldn't give up on her. I'm torn between my head and my heart. >_<
Starrynight - With all due respect, I know that Charlie wasnt my fault. He was awful from the start. He was recommended by a friend of a friend as a really calm, bombproof beginners pony, we suspect the owners sedated him before we came to see him, and stupidly we only went once and didnt ask for a trial. I'll accept the possibility that Bonnie acting up is my fault, but not Charlie.