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    09-29-2009, 02:53 AM
I feel like a horrible horse Mummy...

....and nothing has gone wrong. Do you guys have any days where you think that maybe you aren't that good for caring for your horses?

At the moment I'm thinking really hard about selling them, I feel so bad..I feel like I'm wrecking or spoiling my horses. I feel to inexpreinced care for two horses..I feel horrible. They both seem happy, they are fat (probably too fat ) and they both sort of behave.

It's just the other day, I was riding Abby up to the properties owners house to pay him and his wife came out. Abby was not standing still for me and kept getting closer and closer to the wife, I doubt Abby would have done anything but the husband gave me a dirty look. I was trying to get her to stand still but she wasn't listen to me . I felt really bad, like I'm just letting her get away with everything, but she does listen to me normally..just having a bad day I guess.

Everytime she sees the car coming up the drive way to her paddock, she whinnys out and trots up to the gate to meet me there..is this normal? Would this be bad behaviour? Now my gelding also has started doing this. Should I be worried about it?

It's hard not having someone telling me what I'm doing right and what I'm doing wrong, I wish I had some sort of instructor to help me a little..but they cost way too much and I don't own a float so its never going to happen.

I don't think I'm spoiling them to much, but everytime I get the farrier out he is always saying "There spoiled"..I don't get it. The only time Abby or Chester played up was on there back feet, you can't expected them to behave when its windy, the husband was mowing..very close to there paddock, gates were making noises and then the husband comes into the paddock and decides to chat to the farrier while he is trimming. Should I expect them to stand there nicely when they have 5 people standing around them on a windy day? I thought maybe that would be expecting too much..

Sorry for the venting but..just somedays I don't feel 'good enough' to care for them. I hate it..Does anyone else feel like this?
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    09-29-2009, 04:38 AM
Off and on everyone feels that way! Coming up to you seems like they are happy to see you and you are happy to see them! That can't be all bad. Everyone wants to tell you what's wrong with your horses but it's just you and them that matter. There is lots to learn about training on the web that doesn't cost much. Just enjoy them~
    09-29-2009, 05:27 AM
Originally Posted by Magnum7    
off and on everyone feels that way! Coming up to you seems like they are happy to see you and you are happy to see them! That can't be all bad. Everyone wants to tell you what's wrong with your horses but it's just you and them that matter. There is lots to learn about training on the web that doesn't cost much. Just enjoy them~
Thankyou. I'm very happy to see them, especially since I can't see them everyday . I do read about training on the web but I the only way I will learn is by seeing someone actually doing it otherwise I just don't understand.
    09-29-2009, 10:16 AM
You sound like a good horse owner to me. I think it's a good thing too when your horses want to be with you. Horses have off days too and it is unreasonable to expect them to be perfect all the time. I guarantee you if my horse where in the situation that your horse was in with the farrier, he would have bolted out of there and not thought twice about it. He doesn't like for a bunch of people to be crowded around him either. I personally feel that if your horse isn't trying to be bossy or aggressive to you and knows that you are the boss, then there is nothing wrong with spoiling them a little. Balance is the key.
    09-29-2009, 11:07 AM
I wish my horse trotted up to greet me when I came to get him.
    09-29-2009, 02:24 PM
Im happy to say that people tell me all the time that my horses are "spoiled" and really I don't care. Im glad they are spoiled: in reality they are not as spoiled as they could be, I could have a better barn, they could have more expensive tack, etc. I like when they come to greet me, I think it would hurt my feelings if I had to chase them everytime to spend time with them. And no they don't act perfect all the time, but does anyone. I think that is why I didnt send Cochise back to the trainer, he learned the basics (30 days), which is what I wanted, but the trainer liked perfection. I don't need perfection I guess, we work on things together and as long as I feel that we are bonding and they are giving their effort towards what we are doing, then Im happy. My farrier tells me all the time they are spoiled but in the same breath she says she can tell how much they love and trust me too, because when I get a certain tone they know its not playtime anymore. I want my horses to have a personality, I see too many people that seem embarrassed that their horses have one, but its what makes them unique. And as time goes on you see things you can work on to improve, as long as you are getting something out of the relationship and they are making you happy who really cares what other people think. They are my stress relief and they can fustrate me ( I don't know how many times I was ready to give up) but make me laugh in the next minute. I think if it was too easy it wouldnt be worth having...but I continue to learn and be open on how to improve. I hope that tells you that you are not alone...
    09-29-2009, 03:48 PM
My horse can't stand still for too long, especally when theres grass, but I just try my best, and he also trots up to the gait and calls for treats lol. Im sure that's normal. You sound like a good owner to me, but I understand your feelings. I get that feeling also sometimes
    09-29-2009, 04:09 PM
Sounds like your doing fine to me. I always tell people to step back from my horse, not the other way around. Its easier for them to step back anyway Training issue be ****ed I don't want any literal toes getting stepped on.
My husband is always snipping at me for paying too much attention to the stuff I read on the net about horses. Just do what makes you and your horses happy, ignore everything else
    09-29-2009, 04:25 PM
^^My husband says the same thing about paying too much attention to the stuff I read or hear concerning horses.

I def think it is a good thing that your horses comes trotting up to you , especially when they see your car , to me that means that they are associating you with good things : )
I also think that we beat ourselves up when our horses aren't behaving the way we think they should , we take it personally when we shouldnt ...Horses live in the moment, sometimes they do things because they are horses : )
I have felt the same way that you have but then I think about not having them in my life and there is no way that I could part with them..I find pleasure in just hanging out with my geldings , grooming them , whatever!
That doesnt mean that I don't try to learn as much as I can or better myself for my horses.
I agree that it can be hard if you don't have an instructor who can guide you when you don't have "the answer" but then again having the wrong instructor who you don't share the same goals with can be just as bad.
Sounds like you are doing pretty well with them, keep your head up : )
    09-29-2009, 08:54 PM
Thankyou everyone for your kind words. Maybe it will be a bit better when I get them home and I won't have other people there to watch me..just me and them. :) Can't wait...

Originally Posted by Sophie19    
I wish my horse trotted up to greet me when I came to get him.
Haha, that made me laugh! I guess I'm lucky! Funny thing is that Abby will sometimes trot up to the gate and then decides she doesn't actually want to be caught .

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