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post #11 of 20 Old 06-14-2012, 04:27 PM
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You don't have to ride. Plenty of people just keep them as pets, including me. My horses can be ridden, but I'd rather just hang out with them. :3

Trust doesn't come free. You haven't known your horse long enough to be able to read him. You probably don't know how he reacts to different situations, what he'll tolerate, etc. The only way to know him is to spend lots of time with him. If you work with him constantly, you'll know him inside and out and you'll be much more confident in him (and he in you). Give him a chance. He sounds like a nice horse.

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post #12 of 20 Old 06-14-2012, 06:14 PM
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Maybe you should try something new to do do while riding? While I was trying to train Ryan for WP I got to where I DID NOT want to ride. I quit that and now we just do what we want:) We're currently working on dressage movements like the half halt and half pass... So try finding something you want to teach your horse:)
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post #13 of 20 Old 06-14-2012, 07:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Rascaholic View Post
I can't help with this problem. I've never been there. For me horses are always a relaxation, not a chore. Even cleaning stalls, fencing, pasture upkeep, etc are things I enjoy. Sorry :) I know I am weird lol
haha me and you could be great friends! thats what i was thinking!
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post #14 of 20 Old 06-14-2012, 11:44 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone for your helpful thoughts. I still really enjoy the non-riding side. For me mucking out is something I almost look forward to most of the time (which is good because on our small block it needs to be done daily!), its my time to switch off and get a bit of exercise while being around the horses. The same goes with grooming, cleaning tack, weeding etc.
Also the riding options are really limited for me too around here. I can ride with a neighbour through their larger section but she is pretty busy most of the time. So it means riding around the paddock or down along the stream and back which gives me about a 15 minute ride!
But doing ground work is a good idea, I will start doing that with him and see how it helps with building up a bond.
It gets pretty boggy here over winter so if I aim to do mostly ground work over that time and see where we are come spring then at least I will know I have given the relationship a decent go.
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post #15 of 20 Old 06-14-2012, 11:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Rascaholic View Post
I can't help with this problem. I've never been there. For me horses are always a relaxation, not a chore. Even cleaning stalls, fencing, pasture upkeep, etc are things I enjoy. Sorry :) I know I am weird lol
oh my gosh you enjoy fencing & stalls..if you are ever up North in Missouri...jkjk I agree I love just hearing the sound in the barn during feeding..from the nickering to the munching of hay.
OP good for you for recognizing your own feelings & not letting them come out in a negative fashion..do what is right for you & the horse not what other people think you should do!

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post #16 of 20 Old 06-25-2012, 02:09 AM Thread Starter
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Just wanted to post an update for those that commented. I have been taking things slowly and spending a lot of time with my horse on the ground. We went for a short ride alone yesterday and it went really well. I felt so much more confident and actually felt like I enjoyed myself for the first time in awhile. Then had another ride with my neighbour today and although he was being a little strong I felt pretty good. Considering I was riding without a helmet (which I never do, only because I have a big lump on my forehead from a tree branch, not horse related)I was surprised how relaxed I felt. And it definitely made him more relaxed too, even when he jumped from my mini charging up behind us it didnt get the heart pounding like it did in the past. Anyway, baby steps and I think I am starting to feel a bit more of a bond with him now. Yay!
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post #17 of 20 Old 06-25-2012, 02:30 AM
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That's awesome!
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post #18 of 20 Old 06-25-2012, 11:11 AM
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Thats great!
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post #19 of 20 Old 06-25-2012, 01:03 PM
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I'm so glad to hear that! Keep up the good work and just enjoy yourself.
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post #20 of 20 Old 06-25-2012, 02:30 PM
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I'm with rascaholic, never been there. I've been in LOVE with horses since I could breathe pretty much ;P. Good luck with whatever direction you chose :). Edit: Didn't see your last post. That's EXCELLENT, maybe it's your thing after all ;).
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