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        04-17-2014, 04:01 PM
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    Weanling
    I know I'm crazy but it bothers me so much!

    I get obsessive about things I'm passionate about. And I am passionate about horses.

    It is a never ending source of frustration to me how little I know. Especially this mare I have now breaking, she's a lightning fast skittish explosive little Quarter horse, and I have just about given up on myself doing anything with her without help. I would give up and sell her and consider myself over horsed but how else am I going to learn?

    I know I'm just as much constantly frustrating my trainer by saying "I can't do it" because she knows as well as I do that I CAN, but I feel like a failure because I can't do what she does; walk up to any horse and perform miracles.

    I have a lot to learn regardless and that's a given, you never can know all there possibly is to know but I know so little it seems that I'll never be anything at all. I am my own worst critic and I am learning all the time, but instead of appreciating the fact that I am a good rider and I have broke horses very successfully in the past all I can see right now is that I'm out of my league with this one and I hate that! I absolutely detest not knowing what to do, in any situation, and especially with horses and training being my ultimate goal as a career it really gets my knickers in a knot.

    If I have to live in a barn for the next 5 years and workfor no pay I'll do it. Because I just hate not knowing!

    Am I psychotic?
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        04-17-2014, 04:41 PM
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    Trained
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    Am I psychotic?
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    Not yet, but you will be unless you chill a little, no one knows everything, even after a lifetime of learning we only know a tiny bit about anything. The important thing is the journey, an open mind and learning new things, with joy. I truly believe that learning keep us young, so keep seeking knowledge, keep building your skill set, ad instead of looking in front going "AGHHH there is so much to learn" STOP, look back and go "WOW look at how much I have learned, look how far I have come"

    When you do that you appreciate the journey so much more, and it is just that, a journey, there is no final destination when you go "I HAVE ARRIVED" so yes, just enjoy the travelling enjoy the scenery and the friends you make, and let go the frustration, because that is a learning point as well. Frustration blocks and slows us on our journey, joy and excitement helps us along.
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        04-17-2014, 05:01 PM
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    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    Not yet, but you will be unless you chill a little, no one knows everything, even after a lifetime of learning we only know a tiny bit about anything. The important thing is the journey, an open mind and learning new things, with joy. I truly believe that learning keep us young, so keep seeking knowledge, keep building your skill set, ad instead of looking in front going "AGHHH there is so much to learn" STOP, look back and go "WOW look at how much I have learned, look how far I have come"

    When you do that you appreciate the journey so much more, and it is just that, a journey, there is no final destination when you go "I HAVE ARRIVED" so yes, just enjoy the travelling enjoy the scenery and the friends you make, and let go the frustration, because that is a learning point as well. Frustration blocks and slows us on our journey, joy and excitement helps us along.
    I love what you wrote! Very well said, and useful for me, especially this
    " STOP, look back and go "WOW look at how much I have learned, look how far I have come"
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        04-17-2014, 05:14 PM
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    Started
    Yes. Calm down and relax. Horses feed off your mood, and if YOU are frustrated, so will the horse be. You are working with a horse, not de-fusing a bomb. You CAN do, but only if you relax and take your time. I keep saying it, but it's true. Patience is the biggest part of working with horses.
         
        04-24-2014, 06:00 PM
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    Weanling
    One of the trainers I look up to is almost 70 years old and I swear he knows everything but just last week I watch him load up a 4 year old mare and send her back to her owners after having her 90 days or so couldn't do anything with her sometimes you have to realize you can't win them all him doing that taught me more than I can really understand at this moment
         
        04-24-2014, 10:45 PM
      #6
    Showing
    Start a journal and write down 10 positives you have learned while working with horses. Is this mare skittish when you handle her as well or just when being ridden? If you feel she's going to spook, look away from whatever it is and make her work to reclaim her attention. If you look at it, that confirms in her that she should be nervous. Have you ever noticed the confidence a soldier gives off? That is how you need to be around this mare. Get a rope halter on her and when doing groundwork, if she decides to test you back her up and make her hustle. Whap her on the chest to get her moving and let her think she'll get more. Back her up a good 30' or more then without talking to her or petting her, just walk her back to where you were and resume what you were doing. When you are backing her up you want her to think you plan on killing her if she doesn't hustle. Be consistent and she'll find out that spooking results in hard work. Her spookiness may not be genuine, but something she has learned to use.
         
        04-24-2014, 11:35 PM
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    Originally Posted by squirrelfood    
    Yes. Calm down and relax. Horses feed off your mood, and if YOU are frustrated, so will the horse be. You are working with a horse, not de-fusing a bomb. You CAN do, but only if you relax and take your time. I keep saying it, but it's true. Patience is the biggest part of working with horses.

    Brings to mind a sketch from SNL , the "McGroober" sketches. Got a laugh there.
         
        04-25-2014, 09:50 AM
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    I agree, the more you doubt yourself or become frustrated the less likely you are to achieve what you want!

    Those that have worked with horses have long since realised that cool and calm gets faster results than anything else. It is all a learning curve.

    I had one filly that would throw terrible temper tantrums, she would throw herself on the ground, really stamp and snort when she didn't want to do something. She was so frustrating! I knew if I thought that way she would never learn so, when she had a tantrum I would just let her get on with it. I would stand back and laugh at her. When she came out of it I just asked her to do what ever, she would sigh and do as requested. Had I got cross or allowed myself to become frustrated then she would never have respected me.
         
        04-25-2014, 11:28 AM
      #9
    Yearling
    What your trainer can do isn't a miracle, it's the result of knowledge. Often when watching people who are really good with horses it reminds me of that saying that "any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic". You can reach that same level as well if you want to. If you can see your instructor as mortal and the things she does as attainable with a lot of hard work. 80% on yourself, 20% on your horse is a good way to approach it. Use the frustration you feel at not knowing to fuel your desire to learn. Channel that energy instead of letting it keep you up nights. But I don't think that you're psychotic, necessarily. The desire to learn puts you in some very good company - you'll find that all the masters share that same quality. But like others have said, remember that this is a process and a journey with no end. Even when you do become a great master you'll still want to know more, and that's one of the beautiful things about it!
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