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  • I need help im in love with a horse i don't have time for
  • Have a horse but don't know if I want to keep him

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    02-12-2013, 01:49 PM
  #1
Trained
Unhappy I need help, don't know what to do

I swear I could be a hoarder given enough time and money.

Right, lets face facts, I am getting older, and I am no great shakes as a rider, I still have time to improve, we can all get better, but I am never going to scare the worlds best, and that's OK. All I want to do is have some fun, go to some local shows, have a chance of a ribbon or two, but FUN and ENJOY need to be important words.

Lets face another fact, I'm BIG, and struggling to lose it, I've done it before, but this time I am really really having a hard time.

My current horses I love, all for different reasons, but I'm starting to realize that just maybe I still don't have the right ones.

I have Big Ben, look at him, bless him.



Nearly 17hh of horse there, trouble is he is 10, only broke last year, and I haven't ridden him much, still want to though. If I can get the little B loading reliably so I can get to lessons. Not only do I like Ben, and there are no weight concerns, I REALLY want to see what we have here, I figure he stays.

Willow, Huge sigh, I never should have taken her on, always wondered if she would carry me, and although I think she will, I guess it isn't now, and do I need another one for the future. Trouble is I really really like her, for all of her quirks, she is just a really nice mare.

LOL, I just realized how badly she photographs, I keep coming back to the same one..





And here am I riding her, puts on foil helmet and awaits the sh1t storm to hit.



Then there is Emmy, beautiful Emmy, daughter of my own Ace, has her mothers nature in some ways, not in others, a really really sweet mare, but not comfortable with my weight, but she is carrying her own weight issue, so she may do better if she diets as well as me! This one I could keep and look at, even if she is being wasted, but at the same time, she is probably most unsuitable in some ways. She is a very nicely bred mare though.....



Now Cody, only just joined us, and already love him, very quiet, just what I was looking for, but once again in my own head just to **** small.

Who can resist this face



Puts on another tin hat, under saddle




Then we come to the real non negotiable ones.

Ace and Angel, they both stay, just because.

Hubby is making 'hoarder' sounds again, and I don't blame him, although Cody was never meant to be here as an extra, he is a for now, or someone has to go horse.

AGGHHHHH

Sometimes I think I should sell everything and just use all that cash to buy one broke, decent horse.

Part of me says that Ben should stay, and Cody, Wills and Emmy should go, and I should get one solid reliable body to replace them.

Give me your thoughts and opinions here people, but try and be nice if possible, looking for help to decide the best thing, not a butt kicking for anything!
     
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    02-12-2013, 01:57 PM
  #2
Started
I would keep Ben, as it seems like you really like your partnership.
I have no experience in selling horses, but I feel I would be more comfortable having one horse to rely on and learn with and let the rest find homes
Good luck! I'm sure you'll figure it out
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    02-12-2013, 02:02 PM
  #3
Green Broke
I think you know what you should do GH! Keep Ben, and Cody...see how things go with them, look into selling Wills and Emmy....honestly, instead of jumping into buying one solid horse, I think Id hold off for a little while, and really focus on working with Ben and Cody, again see how things go from there, and you might find that you have the solid horse that you are looking for with just a bit more work.

Of course, this is just what I (think, lol) I would do in your current situation! Good Luck!
     
    02-12-2013, 02:08 PM
  #4
Super Moderator
Good Golly I thought you were going to be some kind of huge Weeble Wobble looking Tweedle D kind of rotund beast when you started talking about your weight and size. Who told you that you were some kind of monstrocity?

Ben and Cody are my favorites just from the photographs. Are you really thinking about downsizing? I have five horses but only ride one. One is retired and the others are ridden by a couple sisters (They don't pay me but the deal is there mother has to be there the entire time as I am not a babysitter. They have never argued that point and have done nothing but love the horses). My son rides my walking horse about once a month...

How gentle is Ben? I gather from previous posts that while you are an experienced rider that you can sometimes be timid (normal for us aged folks). If he's gentle and sane, I'd keep him. The pony I just adore. Is her really a pony or are you tall?

The other question is, how long do you ride? Are you in the saddle 5 hours a day or just a half hour to 45 minutes? I don't think you are nearly as hippopottamously, humoungusly, horrendously, hideously, Darn it, I ran out of H words..... Huge! One more... as you think you are.......
     
    02-12-2013, 02:09 PM
  #5
Super Moderator
I totally agree with the above. Hard, hard decisions. But, I think you'll "feel" lighter once done.


ETA:

I meant I agree on selling Willow and Emmy.
     
    02-12-2013, 02:10 PM
  #6
Super Moderator
Don't ask me - I'm as bad if not worse than you!!!!

Some beautiful horses there btw
     
    02-12-2013, 02:11 PM
  #7
Trained
Well, I don't think Cody is too small for you. He doesn't look like he's struggling and unless he really lets you know he's having a hard time, I wouldn't worry about it anymore.

I have a pasture full of horses that were part of my breeding program and I'm getting ready to let them go to good homes because I'm not breeding anymore. I don't need nor use them anymore, someone else may as well have the pleasure. My horse grocery bill will go down by more than $1000 a month once they're rehomed.

You look like you're closing in on having a very large number of horses for someone who doesn't show a lot, breed and isn't a horse trader. Just think how much more time, money and fun you could have with less horses to care for.
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    02-12-2013, 02:25 PM
  #8
Trained
You are not too big to ride any of those horses. I understand your dilemma, your only choice is to make up a schedule of all your horses and map out your riding time. Ride everyone regularly, so you spend about 4 hours in the saddle daily. Give yourself one day off a week, then after a few months, decide. This is weightloss program and horse conditioning program, problem solved, give me a cookie!
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    02-12-2013, 02:26 PM
  #9
Trained
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Originally Posted by farmpony84    
Good Golly I thought you were going to be some kind of huge Weeble Wobble looking Tweedle D kind of rotund beast when you started talking about your weight and size. Who told you that you were some kind of monstrocity?
Mumble, mumble, *whispers* English Forum, divided over the issue of me being to large for Ben, a notion which I don't let bother me, but 100% agreed that I should be shot for riding Willow.....
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Originally Posted by farmpony84    
How gentle is Ben? I gather from previous posts that while you are an experienced rider that you can sometimes be timid (normal for us aged folks). If he's gentle and sane, I'd keep him. The pony I just adore. Is her really a pony or are you tall?

The other question is, how long do you ride? Are you in the saddle 5 hours a day or just a half hour to 45 minutes? I don't think you are nearly as hippopottamously, humoungusly, horrendously, hideously, Darn it, I ran out of H words..... Huge! One more... as you think you are.......
Ben has hos moments, but he is basically a good boy, he was at the trainer for 60 days last summer and did really really well. That is another thought, if I sell something I could put that money into more training hours on Ben.

At my size, but more imprtantly my current fitness level, which is to be honest more of a worry , an hour in the saddle is enough for me, so who ever I ride, we are building up slowly

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Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians    
You look like you're closing in on having a very large number of horses for someone who doesn't show a lot, breed and isn't a horse trader. Just think how much more time, money and fun you could have with less horses to care for.
LOL, As I say Ace stays as long as she likes, she is a low maintenance lawn mower Angel stays for two more years at very minimum, I want to see what she matures into.

As to the rest, having someone like Ben, to bring on, but then one other who is a hangover horse, the sort you can just climb on and ride whenever you want would probably be enough.
     
    02-12-2013, 02:28 PM
  #10
Yearling
I think that Emmy is beautiful. =)

Cody is a sweetie pie, and well...my girl Kiera, who isn't even old enough to carry my fat butt...photographs probably worse than poor Willow.

I think that if you think you have too many horses, find them good homes.

I think that for your sake, you should try harder with your weight issue, if you feel that it is a big impetus behind your decision. You will feel "lighter" both by decreasing your horse load...and also the pride of getting yourself in better shape.
     

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