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    02-12-2013, 04:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Delfina    

There is nothing like the feeling of hey, I can go ride and I don't have to worry about ANYTHING because he's going to take good care of me.
I sooooo agree with this.

My Lacey girl is like that (not when I bought her, mind you, but has become that over the years) and it is an absolutely wonderful, empowering, feeling to to know that she "has my back" (so to speak) and would never even think of letting me fall off. In 4 years, some of which was spent riding daily, I still have never fallen off of her. There have been times where I should have fallen off but somehow I didn't.
Anyway, I'm also a really very timid rider. I've been told that I could handle a whole lot more than I do handle but even if I could handle it, still scares the ever loving beejeebus out of me.

Lacey has also become a bit of a crutch for me (I don't WANT to ride other horses because they aren't HER, hahaha) but she's so worth it. I feel confident that once she's gone, I'll be able to get a horse I'm less sure of and be ok. For now, I'll still with my reliable girl but you know.
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    02-13-2013, 12:59 PM
Last year I had decided that I wanted to get down to Ben and one other saddle horse, a BTDT sort of horse, then I got distracted by finding Emmy, and getting talked into Willow. I love both those girls, but so not what I need.

Ben stays, Ace and Angel stays, the others, still working on that
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    02-13-2013, 01:06 PM
Sorry I didn't read everything in this thread. If you feel the need to downsize you should get rid of the horse you get along with least, regardless of ridability. Personally I'd rather a barn full of unridable horses that I'm head over heels for than a barn full of horses that are a good ride but I don't love.

Besides!!! If you can't ride your horse, why not teach them to drive?! Driving is SOOOO wonderful!!! There's no reason any one of those horses couldn't pull you in a cart. You could have so much fun with that. Cart's aren't terribly expensive and harnesses aren't either. It doesn't take a whole ton of work to get a riding horse driving either. Most already know how to ground drive and just need to know how to pull too!
    02-13-2013, 01:22 PM
I tried driving and HATED it, to removed from the horse, not for me. I'm a rider I want to ride, and I want to enjoy riding.
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    02-13-2013, 02:21 PM
I so rarely chime in on threads related to weight. I, like many others, could definitely stand to lose a significant amount. Would it improve my riding - probably. Would it improve my horses' quality of life - negligibly.

My personal opinions on the rider weight/horse issues are
1. The horse is my property and therefore my business;

2. As long as the horse is mature, tacked properly, vetted, healthy, reasonably fit, reasonably sound, current with farrier work, etc, then I see no reason why he can't cart around a heavy person in a *fair* situation.
Note: it is not *fair* to expect a light horse to carry a heavy person over jumps, mountains, 6+ hour rides, etc. Use some common sense;

3. The amount of work most heavy horseowners expect from their horses is far less than horses of the past were expected to do and also far less work than equids in less developed countries perform today;

4. I'm sure my horses prefer carrying my fat butt around the amount they do over carrying a skinny guy around or pulling a cart all day every day; and

5. If overweight/obese people are so awful and hurting the horses, would those horses be better off slaughtered?

I think that gets the gist of my point across.

Life is too short to waste time riding/training horses that you don't love. You are a rider! While it is nice to watch green horses reach training milestones and progress, will that enough for you for the next couple years? Wouldn't you rather reach the milestones together with a horse that has a few years of riding down already?? For instance nailing a 10 on a maneuver, reaching the next dressage level, or scoring a high percentage on an individual test.

GH - you are too kind and big-hearted. I think sometimes the opinions of random internet people get to you. Don't let them bring you down or make you feel bad or second guess yourself. Don't make your horse ownership decisions solely on weight and the opinions of anyone other than your vet, farrier, family, and/or equine experts you personally know. Keep the horses you enjoy the most.
    02-13-2013, 05:57 PM
You are being WAY too hard on yourself. I don't see Willow struggling, nor Cody. I loved seeing you on Ben :)

Whatever decision you make it going to be the best one. Though I'd work on finding good homes for those you aren't keeping before finding another horse to buy.
    02-14-2013, 12:55 PM
Originally Posted by CCH    
GH - you are too kind and big-hearted. I think sometimes the opinions of random internet people get to you. Don't let them bring you down or make you feel bad or second guess yourself. Don't make your horse ownership decisions solely on weight and the opinions of anyone other than your vet, farrier, family, and/or equine experts you personally know. Keep the horses you enjoy the most.
LOL, I enjoy all of them, so that is hard. As to random internet people, well read this
    02-14-2013, 01:49 PM
GH - I won't comment on what horses should go, because I'm an enabler at heart, and whether riding or not, if one gets enjoyment from their horses, then the horses are fulfilling their role. BUT....I think in your mind you are bigger than you actually are. Those pics don't show a too big woman on a horse, they show happy rider and happy horse.
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    02-14-2013, 02:04 PM
LOL, the "read this" comment doesn't really work when a mod removes the link

Oops, but I think it's OK to suggest a google search, so try googling this

Discussing the 20% weight rule

and have a read, it's getting long, and interesting.

You have to remember that I am from the UK living over here, and the views on heavier riders couldn't be more different.

I know that Ben is fine, the rest, IDK, and as long as I have doubts, then I will never get to enjoy them. I find the differences between the two cultures totally fascinating.
    02-14-2013, 02:04 PM
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A true hoarder would keep them all and get another!! So go get another, lol. Oh, I am such an enabler, lol. I do agree that you need a horse you can jump on and go and feel good about it. Not always a fight or training session. So do what you have to do to get that and keep the ones you want to work on. I would have more if I could but honestly not sure I could give them all the training and time they would need. Good luck on your decision.

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