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4K views 40 replies 20 participants last post by  cowgirllinda1952 
#1 ·
It seems to me that I have done something to have upset or offended some of you. I'm not so stupid that I can't tell when my posts are being ignored, my questions not answered. I would greatly appreciate someone being honest with me, 100% brutally honest. All I wanted was to help MY horse gain as much weight and be as healthy as she can be, and it's quite obvious that she's making a lot of progress. If someone has a problem with me, or does not want me here, I think I deserve to know why. because I sure can't think of anything I have done. So, please just let me know, and I also notice all my threads are not in bold, like everyone else.
 
#2 ·
I don't think I've seen you much on the forums?

But yeah if your threads/questions aren't being answered, keep in mind there are hundreds to thousands of posts each day. It's easy to miss them unless you're specifically looking for them
 
#4 ·
Linda,
I am not seeing where you are lacking in responses to threads you have started, nor have I seen anyplace where members have been unkind or ignoring. This might exist, but I have not seen it. Not sure where you feel that you have offended folks here. h m m .......?
If you really feel that someone is not treating you as the forum rules say, welcoming, helpful and friendly , you can report this to the moderation team.
 
#5 ·
You are taking things wayyyy too personal. I don't even know you or your posts, but I've been on this forum several years and if people don't respond to your posts

1. It's either something they know little about and can't help you or

2. Sometimes things just get pushed down on the list for some unknown reason and not very many people see them. But it's not likely that you have some sort of reputation and people are snubbing you.

If your thread gets pushed down the list you can always reply to it yourself saying that you are just bumping it up and would appreciate some help. I have done that a few times myself.

I don't think anyone particularly likes me or hates me on here and some of my posts sort of take-off and some just sit dormant. When they sit dormant I just assume it's because no one had any helpful information to add.

For instance here is one of mine with no replies thus far:

http://www.horseforum.com/horse-tack-reviews/brookside-wonder-wool-felt-pads-does-243345/

I just assume no one who has read the post has actually used one of the saddle pads I am asking about. That's all. :)
 
#7 ·
If you can't think of anything you've done chances are you haven't 'done' anything. I mean come on, I've been here for years and people still ignore my threads :wink: especially when they can't be of any service / don't have anything to say / just aren't interested in the topic. There are lots of people here, but there are even MORE threads and nobody can reply to every single one, don't be offended because people aren't swarming to you.

That said, most of your threads are in the jokes section and I know lots of members rarely go through that forum and if they do they don't post often.
 
#9 ·
Yep, this is pretty accurate. I NEVER look at the funnies forum, though I occasionally catch something when I look at All Unread Posts. But what should I say to those? "Oh haha that was funny!" Doesn't seem enough of a reply.

It also depends on the question. I know some questions are asked it seems almost daily and it gets old answering the same question over and over with no variation - use the search function before posting is always a good tip.

I can honestly say I have not seen you around but if I can make one recommendation? Please use a normal sized font. The color is fine but I HATE reading huge font, it makes it harder to read and makes me not want to read it at all.

Otherwise nothing against you from me!
 
#10 ·
How threads are titled has a lot to do with who and how many members click on them. If you have serious questions (what most people, myself included look for) put enough information in the title to get a serious answer.

There are a lot of social networking websites and forums out in cyberspace. This is almost all horsey people with horse related problems or comments that post on this site. Most of the 'off topic' (non horsey threads) are still frequented by mostly horsey people.

Cherie
 
#12 ·
Ok, so sorry, just being paranoid, I guess, but not without reason. About 10 years ago, I had a friend who was always on the horse forums, just not sure which ones. But, she was always on there. Anyway, she got her horses seized for starvation and cruelty, so I broke ties with her. Then, 5 years ago, it was in the paper and on the news that all her animals, in excess of 120 were seized for the same reason, and her and her husband got arrested. Not trying to back stab or be dramatic, but she's mentally unbalanced, and now that she has such a bad name on the forums, she uses fake ones, and has used false names to buy horses, mini's being her favorites from several people she found on the forums. I just got a little scared that she had recognized me, and was telling lies about me, cause that is how she is, not just to me, but to anyone. I hope she is not on this forum, but can't be sure. She's not happy, and can't stand to see anyone who is happy. She once paid $3500 cash for a beautiful paint stallion, then took him home and starved him to death. Then she bought a palomino mini stallion from a man in Waco, using a false name, and he was one of the ones seized. I'm just worried she's on this forum, lying about her real name, and getting people to sell her horses and mini's, because she will mistreat and starve them.
And no, no one in particular has upset me. Again, I'm sorry, and no, I do not like drama, I found the jokes thread, and decided to post on it.
 
#29 ·
Cowgirllinda- Going back to the ignoring you thing..I agree that no one really does that on here. I personally have seen a few of your posts but never had anything beneficial to add to the discussion so I simply did not post anything.

I know in my own case I will sometimes view a thread I find interesting, and keep up with the replies even if I do not actually post something myself. I find its a great way to learn about things I knew absolutely nothing about!
 
#35 ·
I'm on here too darn much and I don't think I've ever seen your name....
that is definitely saying something!
Heh. Do you mean me, or are you referring to the OP? If me... well, I did say that I mostly lurk. :-7 The truth is that I'm a beginner and newcomer to the horse world, so I figure I'm better off shutting up and seeing what those with more experience have to say, by and large. I've learned a LOT from reading here, and I expect that as I gain experience with horses and riding, I'll find more topics coming up where I Have An Opinion That Just Must Be Shared. :)

I have no life and even if I'm on the phone with a family member or my SO, they ask me if I'm on HF...okay I'm pretty pathetic.
I guess I'm lucky there - my partner co-owns our horse with me and we've been learning to ride together. So in our house it's more likely to happen that one of us will say "...so I saw this interesting thing on HF" and the other will be all "Oh? Do tell!"
 
#36 ·
Cowgirlinda, do you really care what strangers think about you?
Most well adjusted adults do not give it a second thought.
The bold print of your post aside, it does seem to me that most of your post are filled with drama.
Someones 'wild" stallion loose and breeding mares in the neighbor hood, starved horses you helped, now someone you know might be spreading rumours on this forum.
I am a psychologist and what I gather from some of your post is a constant need for reassurance and attention. The coloured and bold print underlines this .
Asking questions and starting conversations about subjects that are less dramatic might interest members more than the ones you have posted in the past.
My advice to your is Relax, post without all the unnecessary details and in a more warm and inviting tone.
There have been no indications of someone from your past undermining your credibility here on the forum.
If someone does allow the MODS to do their jobs. They police this forum very well in case you have yet to notice.
Enjoy the forum and allow the other members time to get to know you. Most of them are very kind and friendly. Just give them the chance. Shalom Donald
 
#38 ·
Well said. I agree 1000%. I also do not read the jokes and funnies....and that has been quite a large proportion of your posts. I would imagine that folks may tend to read those, and not comment. It seems to me that if you have had a LEGITIMATE question, it has been answered and you have gotten answers (whether or not you agree is another subject).
 
#39 ·
Didn't read this thread so I dont know if this was suggested. When I click on a thread and I see annoying colored font (anything but black), text aligned in an odd way, other fonts, etc. I may read a sentence before closing the thread. Its just a huge turn off to me.
 
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