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    08-17-2011, 12:25 AM
I need to vent about stupid people

*Spoiler: This is a rant about a particular stupid person at the stable where I board. If you don't want to hear about it...do everyone a favor and don't read or comment. Thanks!*

Okay, on to the rant.

So, the lady who owns the mare that threw me (we'll call her "S") has been annoying the heck out of me (and everyone else, really).

She will ask you about something and then COMPLETELY ignore what you say and do whatever she wants anyway or do the complete opposite. Okay, I can deal with that. It's her prerogative to do that.

What really gets me is what happened yesterday. There were two separate incidents and I'll describe them in chronological order.

The first incident, I was talking to an overnight boarder who was tacking up her mule to go on a ride. We were standing there chatting amicably about all the disciplines her mule is trained in and up walks S with her mare. She starts talking to the overnighter right over the top of me like I'm not even there. I said "Excuse me, we were having a conversation here" and she says "Oh, that's nice." And just kept on talking. Okay, fine. Whatever. So, she's standing there blathering away about this $1200 saddle she wants to buy (that no one around our barn has ever heard of the brand) and her mare starts eating the weeds/grass. After about ten minutes, she notices that the mare is eating the weeds and starts flipping out. I am being literal here. She starts trying to pry the mare's mouth open and says "Oh no. Gypsy, don't eat that. That's icky! Spit it out!" in a high-pitched baby voice (which annoys the crap out of me anyway!). I told her to just leave the mare alone since she already had it in her mouth, it wasn't going to come out again, but she just ignored me and kept trying to pry the mare's front teeth apart and lightly tapping her on the nose, like you would a dog that ate something it shouldn't have. So, I gave up.

That wasn't the worst, though.

A little later, I was cleaning Aires' hooves (she still can't pick up her mare's feet yet...she literally doesn't know how) and Aires tried to pull his hoof out of my hand and kick me. So, I did what I always do. I dropped his hoof, straightened up, smacked him on the flank (not incredibly hard, but I can guarantee he felt it) and said "Stop being a dick!" I've done the same thing a dozen times when he's being an idiot. S asked me if I'd hit him before like that and I said yes, that in fact I full-on close-fisted hit him in the chest when he latched onto my forearm when I first got him. So, I go to pick up Aires' front right hoof and she says "I would *never* hit my horse! That's just cruel and you can hurt them so bad by doing that!" I couldn't believe my ears. I straightened up and laid into her about how you're dealing with a 1200lbs animal that can crush you like a fly and if they don't respect you, you're going to get seriously hurt or killed. I told her that if smacking my horse on the flank, which he hardly feels anyway (and demonstrated by smacking him on the shoulder...he just looked around at me like "What was that for?!"), will gain me his respect, then so be it. I also told her that horses kick each other in PLAY a heck of a lot harder than even a grown man could hit a horse, so smacking them like I smacked Aires was NOTHING to them. I ended with telling her because she isn't willing to reprimand her horse and be the alpha mare, her horse is walking all over her and she's going to get seriously hurt or even killed. To top it all off, I added "And I'm sorry if my handing in my membership card to the 'unicorn farts and rainbow spit' club makes me a bad horse owner in your eyes, then so be it. At least my horse respects me." Okay, so I maybe was a little harsh with her, but you have no idea how DONE with her BS I am.

So anyway, I found out today that she went to our trainer and asked her if she'd ever beat Rex (the trainer's horse). The trainer had no idea what S was talking about at the time, so she mentioned it to my friend who boards at the same barn and my friend told her what had happened (I had texted her and told her EVERYTHING that happened). Luckily, the trainer and I are pretty good friends and she completely sides with me.

Anyway, I just needed to vent this. I am so done with this lady. I'm not going to talk to her anymore, I'm not even going to acknowledge her. May be a bit harsh, but frankly, if she's going to make me out to be a horse abuser just because I reprimanded my horse, then I want nothing to do with her.

If you finished this (and don't think I'm a horrible person for the way I reacted), have yourself a big ol' cookie on me!
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    08-17-2011, 12:33 AM
My Grandma yelled at my once when I was little for smacking my horse with a crop! I laughed so hard especially since she was all of 5'1" and weighed like 80 lbs. You're totally right, they can't walk all over us because they'd kill us! It's not like you took a baseball bat or a cattle prod to your horse... some people are just stupid, sorry you have to deal with that.
    08-17-2011, 12:38 AM
"S" sounds like someone who might be in the horse business for the shiny coats and pretty ponies. She may never have been taught that horses are a huge danger and showing dominance over them isn't torture. She may have had a childhood deprived of whatever pretty pony dream she had and just decided to open a barn, cluelessly (is that a word? Haha ) I side with you though and I have to admit I laughed at the title and the ' stop being a dick ! ' part. ;)
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    08-17-2011, 12:41 AM
Wow I'm sorry I hate having to deal with people like that. I quote from my friend sitting next to me "that lady is an idiot!!" haha good choice not to talk to her its better that way then you can't lose you're temper as easily. Best of luck!!!
    08-17-2011, 12:45 AM
Originally Posted by FreeDestiny    
"S" sounds like someone who might be in the horse business for the shiny coats and pretty ponies. She may never have been taught that horses are a huge danger and showing dominance over them isn't torture. She may have had a childhood deprived of whatever pretty pony dream she had and just decided to open a barn, cluelessly (is that a word? Haha ) I side with you though and I have to admit I laughed at the title and the ' stop being a dick ! ' part. ;)
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Here's the thing...

S claims that she used to own not one, but TWO paso fino geldings, that she used to show all the time and that's she's an intermediate rider. If she's an intermediate rider, why the heck did I end up riding her psycho mare?! Why didn't she do it?

We seriously think she has a personality disorder of some kind. Not being the village gossip here, but she was bragging that she got pregnant with her daughter by a random street person she found on a trip to Belize (on her parents' dime...she lives off the dividends of their investments). She was also bragging that her daughter got sent home the other day because she had lice and hadn't brushed her teeth in what appeared to be days. I know there's a personality disorder where the person takes things they've heard other people talking about or have read about them doing (like owning and showing pasos, for example, which a person at our barn does back in Oklahoma) and convince themselves that it's something they've done and that they know. We think that's how S is.

Jumpehunter, I couldn't agree with your friend more. In fact, S's first day at the barn, our trainer made the comment that she was trouble and an accident waiting to happen. However, it took A LOT for me to snap like I did. We've been dealing with her stupidity for almost a month and I've been fairly nice to her this whole time, even after her crazy horse rodeo bucked me off.

Oh, another thing that ticked me off...we were sitting there yesterday (me, S and the BO) and she was asking how the BO's training of her mare was going. The BO told her (as gently as he could) that her mare wasn't broke and that she'd NEVER had anyone on her back before I climbed up there that day. She basically called him a liar straight to his face and said that the rescue she got the mare from would never have lied to her and that they said she was broke. The BO just looked at her and said "I've been doing this for nearly 30 years, darlin', and I can tell you right now that that horse ain't broke. Hell, her horse (points at me) was more broke on his first ride than your horse is."
    08-17-2011, 12:51 AM
Taking from your user name, your horse is a draft? Likely he though a breeze hit him wrong when you hit him, its hardly 'beating' twisting words is harsh on her end. If she got preggo but some random guy, she's the coolest cat on the block. ;)
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    08-17-2011, 12:53 AM
Yeah, Aires is a Percheron/paint cross. Even that day that I full-on closed-fisted hit him, he barely flinched...but he sure as heck never bit me again!
    08-17-2011, 01:00 AM
I side with you totally. I can't stand people like that and I don't disagree with how you reacted at all, I would do the same.
Like I was always taught, If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Since you have already voiced your opinion and how you feel about everything, in the nicest way you could, considering the situation, then I say you are right, you should just ignore her and not waste your breath on her. Sounds like if you do acknowledge her and she does something stupid again, then what you say to her is not going to be nice and I don't blame you.

Be the bigger better person
When something happens and she seriously gets hurt, you can say to yourself, "I told you so." Then maybe she'll listen to all the advice you've given her in the past. "S" sounds like a straight up B***h that no one else wants to deal with either. Besides, there has to be something wrong with her in her head if she brags about get knocked up by some stranger in another country and having a dirty child.

IMO I would stay far away from "S" and make sure she doesn't get anywhere near my horse either, she sounds a bit on the crazy side to me.
All in all, I wouldn't bother with her anymore. I'm sure it's better to ignore her.

Good luck with everything. I hope "S" doesn't do anything else to piss you off so much.
    08-17-2011, 01:07 AM
Oh, I wasn't nice about how I went off on her yesterday. I was a bit of a b***h myself. But, like I said, I've been dealing with this for a while.

My response to her started something like "Honey..." with a finger pointed right at her (while in the other hand I still held Aires front hoof lol).
    08-17-2011, 01:08 AM
I can totally imagine that haha. :P
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