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post #1 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:18 PM Thread Starter
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I need your help

Alright, to start with I am 17, about to graduate high school, going into the military before the year is up, and currently horse-less.
I have owned horses and up until October of last year, had a horse of my own. I was in a car accident and made the painful decision to go ahead and sell my horse so I could buy another vehicle quickly as winter was approaching. My family also relies on me for alot of things that require me to use a vehicle. With that in mind, I could have kept my horse and saved for a vehicle. My family would have made plans for me and my siblings.
That's why I made the choice to sell him.

I came upon a Craigslist ad today about a horse for sale. I frequent Craigslist on a daily basis as I like to look at what's for sale and what the horse market is like. Anyways, I click on the ad and as i look at the picture, I'm breathless. Shocked is a better word. There in the picture, is a stocky, fleabitten, 8 year old QH gelding. I knew it was my horse. I still am hoping it is him. I loved my gelding beyond words. He was that horse that I wanted grazing in my pasture, back swayed, sagging lip, and white as pure snow from his years on earth. I kick myself everyday when I think of what I did. I regret selling him but I had to do what was best at the time. Now the time has come for me to bring him home.

My father seems to think differently. My mother told him about my plan and to his exact words, "Ain't happenin'. She can't afford a **** horse."
My financial situation has improved greatly since my accident and I am better prepared both mentally and physically as well to own a horse.
Currently, I make $800-$900 per month.
I've made an estimate for my horse's monthly expenses. He'll be on pasture year round, so I wont be feeding hay til the grass starts dying. Until then, I'll be buying, storing and saving for winter's hay.

Per month I expect him to cost:
Farrier: $40 every six weeks
Feed: 3 bags/month @$20 = $60
Help with water bill and pasture upkeep: $30-$40
So that is $140 for his basic needs.
My other monthly costs are under $200 a month. I make $800-$900 a month so take away $340 and I have $460-$560 a month to put into savings for any emergencies.
This is all while I am not in the military.
When I go to basic, I will have him at home until I can move him closer to me. When I'm deployed(going active duty Army.), I'll have him boarded on full care near my family so if someone wants to visit or check on him for me, they can do so easily.

More on my father. He grew up around horses because my grandma had them. He absolutely loathes horses. He's told me before that they're brain-dead half-ton animals that aren't worth their own weight. Ok, that's his opinion. I'm not going to change that, nor am I going to try.
My father started with nothing, but he always made sure the kids were fed, bills were paid, and nothing was broken before he played. My dad is heavily interested in all thing automotive. He raced stock cars when my siblings and I were little. This was a time when two nickels to rub together was like music to our eyes. Yet, we were all taken care of. He made sure everything that was needed was done before anything else. But he still raced.
Who's to say I can't do the same with a horse.
He's always taught me that if I want something, I had to be the one to get it. No one was going to do it for me.

I completely understand that while I'm in their house, I am to follow their rules. There are somethings that just can't I can't be told not to do. I don't want to be so extreme as to say the Lord means for him to be in my life, but I think he is. He was my rock. The one I consoled with when something was wrong. His shoulders hold so many of my tears and secrets that I can't let him get away again.

What do you guys think?

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post #2 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:23 PM
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Your dad sounds like mine...non supportive of the horse habit (though I've been out of his house now for over 20 years LOL)

Sounds like you've thought the finances out, but what will happen when you go into the military?

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post #3 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:27 PM
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Well, if you are planning on joining the military...

(and I have never been in the military, so forgive me if I don't have all the facts)

I believe enlistment commitments start at four years. You will likely be far away from home all that time - and any horse duties are going to fall on your family. This is an older horse (oh, my bad - not that old...) - as he ages, assorted medical issues will arise....you won't always be a quick phone call away to make decisions and talk to veterinarians. All those decisions and that extra care is going to be up to them.

Personally, I think it is a lot to ask of a family who does not share your passion for horses...

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post #4 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:29 PM Thread Starter
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I plan on having him as close to me as possible and depending on the situation, he'll be under partial or full care.
When deployed, he'll be close to home so that if my little sister wants to ride or mess with him, they'll be able to. I've also got a few knowledgable horse friends that I'd have check in on him for me.
Everything will be provided for him to where my family doesn't have to worry about him at all.
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I appreciate the thought you have put into it, and your dad sounds like my mom, so I get it. I think it is a huge disservice to the horse because to you going in the military. You need to concentrate on that, and it will take most of your time. You also have no idea where you may be stationed, and just shipping the horse could be outrageously expensive. THen, when you get deployed....a whole 'nuther story. You need to let him go, IMO. Lease a horse, or find another way to ride right now.

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post #6 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:35 PM
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Why are they selling the horse that you sold to them?
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post #7 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 08:37 PM Thread Starter
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These aren't the same people I sold him to in the beginning. If it's really him, he's changed hands at least once.
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post #8 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 09:55 PM
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I totally resemble this...

But I've been in the military and there are so very many different places you could end up. I know you want your horse back (your soul, your peace and literally, your heart and I know this very well), but if you are going into the military, it really is advisable not to do this.

Please consider how you feel about yourself if something were to happen to horse while you're deployed, in training or just away from him. You would blame yourself and be heartbroken forever. That's just not fair to either of you.

Good luck making this decision. I know first hand how difficult it can be.
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post #9 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 09:55 PM Thread Starter
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While my family isn't as passionate as I am about horses, most of them do like horses.
I will be providing financially for all of his care.
I have a few relatives who breed horses in New Mexico, a sister who trains, a brother who also owns several and knows how to ride quite well, my grandmother who has a farm and has had a horse or two over the years, and my mother who likes horses but just doesn't know much about them. The only person who doesn't like horses at all is my dad.

I am going out monday to check him out. It may not even be my horse. If it isn't, I won't be coming home with a horse and I don't plan on getting one until 5 ot 6 years down the road. If it is him, I just can't bring myself to let him go.
I have a lot to think about and I'm glad you guys have taken the time to post your opinions.
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post #10 of 17 Old 04-20-2012, 10:20 PM
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I don't think you should get him.

Sure you can pay people to care for him - but I think you should never rely on people. What if they go broke and stop boarding horses. Someone will have to turn up, pick your horse up, and maybe take care of it twice a day until they can find somewhere else. All the while you're off on the other side of the country. What if your horse is injured and needs to be stabled for a few weeks, and someone needs to come out and feed it and walk it and treat it? Are you going to keep relying on people you know or your family to do this?

You don't have him now, and he may go to a wonderful home. It's silly to buy a horse just because you want him, and then possibly ignore him for years. Another horse will come along later in your life if you want to get back into horses.
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