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post #1 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 12:20 AM Thread Starter
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Exclamation I Promised Myself It Wouldn't....But It Happened Anyway

So when I first started riding T.C. Back in March I promised myself and never thought it would be feasible for me to get feelings for this horse....Our rider/horse relationship was going to be professional like business partners. Well it started out that way but now it's like I feel like I love him like he was my own(don't get me wrong Phantom is still and will always be my one and only baby boy) And this is bad bad bad bad bad because he belongs to my new BO's son(12yr old who never ever rides him but didn't want to sell him but T.C was getting too fat and was at risk for EMS if he didn't lose the weight and that's how I started riding him.) I don't know what to do...I shouldn't have fallen for this horse but I did(even though he's a HUGE pain in the @$$ 75% of the time) and I am definitely not going to tell anyone because I don't want it to get back to his owners. I can't seem to stop though. He's taken farther in my riding than I ever thought I would go...maybe this is why I've developed a closer bond with him?

What I want to know is....is this ok? Is this normal? Should I let his owners know or just let it go? I also don't want people to think that just because I love TC I don't love Phantom (as I said before Phantom is my number one baby boy) I wish I didn't fall for this horse.....geez ~sigh~ Has anyone else been through this?


This video shows why I love this horse.
(if you don't want to watch intro skip 30secs in)

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post #2 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 12:49 AM
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I wouldn't say anything to the owners unless you are planning on trying to purchase the horse. Otherwise what would be the point? I doubt they really care how you feel about the horse...

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post #3 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 01:07 AM
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theres nothing wrong with riding a different horse and enjoying it.
Why would you need to tell the owner from what I understand sounds like the kid doesn't really care, as long as they don't mind you riding him, learn as much as you can and you will become a better rider for Phantom as well
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post #4 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 07:07 AM Thread Starter
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That is true and by riding him my seat has become TONS better and my hands are a lot quieter on Phantom now. I don't think their son cares at all he just likes to tell people he has a horse. He doesn't mention all of the work i've done with him though lol. I wish he was up for sale....I would buy him in a heartbeat.

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post #5 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 04:19 PM
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If you have the money to buy him, and you want to, then why don't you offer them a price? Market value (ie. Don't try and get a good deal - it can just come across as insulting).

If the kid isn't that into it the parents probably know, and probably don't want to keep forking out the money.

They may not have made the decision to sell, but if you offer them money, a quick sale and a good home then they may very well consider selling him. I got my first horse by putting a wanted add in the local paper. The owners told us that they weren't thinking of selling, but that they saw the add and the horse sounded perfect for us.

Even if they don't want to sell him, they'll keep you in mind if they ever do consider selling him, and they'll ask you first.

If you do make them an offer though make sure it is a serious one and one that you are willing to follow through.

In your situation though, the bottom line is you have put heaps of work into a horse and at any moment the owners might sweep him and take him, sell him, move him etc. For this reason I don't lease.
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post #6 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 05:21 PM
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If you are serious about buying him, offer to. Phantom won't mind, he'll probably be happy to have another pal :)
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post #7 of 9 Old 11-22-2010, 05:55 PM Thread Starter
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Well Phantom is boarded where he lives he's my BO's son's horse and they definitely know that their son doesn't ride and my BO is mad because they wanted to sell the horse but their son wont let them. They said I have all access to him so I can take him anywhere I want as long as I ask first which is no biggie. I might wait till next show season to ask if they are willing to sell because then it will have been my second full show season with him and we'll see how much we improve.

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post #8 of 9 Old 11-23-2010, 05:05 AM
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Remember though, the better he gets and the more training you put into him the higher his price will be.
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post #9 of 9 Old 11-23-2010, 01:41 PM Thread Starter
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that is true...I'll talk to them about it this weekend.

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