I've been taking lessons at one barn for about a year and a half now, and it's been good, I've learned quite a bit. But the trainer we bought Tango from also offers lessons (well, I know she would to us, anyways..she's dad's friend), and I've always wanted to go and learn from her instead.
Last summer, when I was new to riding, and having huge problems with Tango, she stepped in and *snap* just like that, problem solved. She's so confident and knows exactly what to do and how to do it, and gets exactly what she wants from every horse. I mean, my instructor currently is knowledgable too, but..I don't know, I just like the way the trainer handles things better. As my current instructor has said: "She rides like a man." Not in a rude way, but in the fact that she (the trainer) has the confidence, the "I'm in charge, you will do what I say" mentality that guys tend to have. By nature I have a very quiet, passive, non-confrontational personality, and that's the root of my problems. My instructor has never pushed me past that. I'm not blaming her, but I know almost for certain (I speak from some experience) that the trainer would push me, tell me, coach me to be a stronger rider. I guess my instructor feels that I'll find it on my own eventually, but I know for a fact it's not going to come easily-or at all if the current situation keeps up.
For a couple days, I took lessons from her, and it was probably the best time I've ever been on a horse. With someone there that confident, you feel like you're pretty much invincible, because around them nothing bad can happen, and with someone you respect that much, you always want to impress and do as best as you can for them. And with someone you trust that much, when they tell you to do something, there is no question as to whether it's possible or not-you just do it.
It's probably bad to put that much faith in someone, but at this point in my riding, I need it. For those few days she instructed me, for the first and pretty much only time, I actually was riding. I was in control, and I wasn't just keeping Tango under control and keeping her from running off, as I've experienced pretty much the entire rest of the time I've been on her. Don't get me wrong, I do like my current instructor, she's taught me a lot and clearly knows what she's talking about...but she just doesn't have that certain..."I am strong, I am a leader" vibe. Basically, the trainer is great for my confidence, and that's exactly what I need right now. The instructor has taught me the skills I need to control Tango, but 90% of every problem I come across while riding is lack of confidence, and confidence is what the trainer can give me.
So, I'll finish preaching about how great the trainer is now, and get on to the point Previously I could never take lessons with the trainer because she lived too far away to trailer Tango to every week, but she bought a new farm, only a little bit farther than the distance we travel to go to lessons currently. I've asked dad if I could switch and take lessons with her instead of the instructor, and though he seemed hesitant about it, he said: "Yeah, [trainer] can probably teach you a lot more than [instructor]. Finish the season with [instructor], at least, and then we'll see." I know he's probably hesitant for the same reason I am: we've been with this instructor for a year and a half, how do all of a sudden we just up and leave to go take lessons somewhere else? It feels almost like a betrayal or something. How should I go about this? Throw caution to the winds and just tell her we're not going to be taking lessons with her anymore, or go in a bit more carefully? If so, how?
P.S. I hope you could discern any sort of sense at all from that =) When I write long posts I tend to ramble.