Oh hunny, don't be silly!
You think all the happily married women on here have men that are eager to go to the barn? No way. Check out my post Do you have support for your horse passion?
When you find a good guy, make sure you let him know that alot of your time is spent at the barn. That you'd love for him to join you, but if he can't, he'll have to udnerstand that its a priority for you. A stable man will look at that as an attribute of a woman who is hard working and determined. Everyone needs something to call their own. Horses can be yours, and you can still enjoy a good man. Don't beat yoursefl up about it. But definitely don't be with a man who is complaining that he gets no time because of your horses. If it starts that early on, it'll only get worse later.
Where in NC are you?