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post #1 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 12:27 AM Thread Starter
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I think I have a dilemma:

I recently bought a yearling gelding and things are going very well. He's a sweet little guy and he tries hard to understand what I'm asking of him.

However, I came across another gelding at the barn who is for sale. I don't have any details on him, aside from the fact he's covered in mud, head shy and very 'tuned out'. By 'tuned out', I mean he stands with his head in the corner and completely ignores everything around him. Walking past his pen, I got this overwhelming urge to go to him and talk to him, and try to rub off some of the caked on mud. Usually, horses will flick an ear toward someone coming toward them, but this guy just stared off into space. The only sign of life I got from him was a soft snuffle.

When I started talking, he began licking his lips. He still didn't look at me, but he flicked an ear toward me. When I began to scratch his withers and slowly work my way up his neck, his lower lip started to droop. When I rubbed his cheek, he didn't move. His ears were fine, but running my hand over his forehead caused a very slight toss of the head before he lowered it again. The look in his eyes just stole my heart - they were so full of wisdom and kindness, but also a little bit of unease. He was quiet, but I could see he was just a little bit nervous.

I spent probably half an hour or 45 minutes with this guy and then entire time, I couldn't ignore the feeling I was getting from him. It was like he was trying to tell me, "I think I like you, but I'm anxious about you." I didn't get any rude, aggressive or bully vibes from him, but I could feel his uncertainty toward me. When I turned to walk away, I caught a glimpse of him turning his head toward me, ever so slightly and quickly.

Is this a normal feeling to have with a horse you don't even know? All I want to do is take this guy out of his pen, give him a good grooming and hop up on his back. I want to be with this horse, and have this horse with me. I've never felt so strongly about a horse in my life, aside from my "heart horse" Vanna, who I tried and tried to locate. The feeling I had about this horse was so strong that I'm actually considering selling my yearling to purchase him. Am I crazy?
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post #2 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 08:50 AM
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No, i wouldn't say you're crazy. I dont think it is anything we can explain, but sometimes we just bond with certain animals quicker than others. There are certain horses that my personality just doesnt mesh with at all, no matter how much time I spend with them.

It sounds like this horse needs the attention. I would never let a horse go caked in mud. I think it would also be very beneficial for the horse socially for someone to spend time with him. However, I would make sure to ask the owners first before brushing him or spending any real time with him. And keep in mind, you could walk into the barn one day and find out that he was sold.
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post #3 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 10:25 AM
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I have been their before I once seen a horse her name was titan, She was always in the pasture everyone called her crazy but she was jut so loving with me she had windknots horribly and had a fungus growing on her face I didn't even know the owner!
I do wish I could have gotten her she seemed perfect to me.
I think you should sell the yearling if you dont feel that connection with him, Find him a good home and buy the gelding.
Some horses just catch your heart you cant help it! lol.
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post #4 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 10:53 AM
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Keep that yearling! The bond you develop with a horse from getting it young and training it up is something special. I've done it a couple of times now and that bond is much stronger then one you develop with a horse that is already an adult and trained.
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post #5 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 11:24 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks all, for telling me I'm not crazy.

I'm not going to jump into anything yet, but I do want to spend some time with this gelding. I don't know anything about him or how his temperament is, but I'm intrigued by him. My barn owner doesn't know much about him either, aside from the fact that he was abandoned by his owners. They skipped out on board and just left him. That makes me wonder, because people don't just abandon a good horse. Maybe his anti-social tendencies got to be too much, or maybe he has bigger issues that I don't know about. I'm willing to find out.

At this point in time, I'd like very much to spend time with him and build up trust. My colt is almost ready to move in with the other horses and since he's never been with a 'herd', I'm wondering if it might be better to transition him slowly. Maybe I can arrange to have him live with the big gelding for a while and they can both benefit from having a friend. Horses need friends and maybe... it would be an ideal situation.
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post #6 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 12:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Darrin View Post
Keep that yearling! The bond you develop with a horse from getting it young and training it up is something special. I've done it a couple of times now and that bond is much stronger then one you develop with a horse that is already an adult and trained.

Sorry to disagree. There is no specific age to form a connection with any living being.

OP - Is the horse even for sale?
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post #7 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 12:14 PM Thread Starter
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He's not listed, but when I spoke to the barn owner, he told me he would like to see the horse go to a good home. But he's definitely not in a rush to move him. If the right buyer comes along, he's for sale. If not, well, he's not opposed to keeping him at the farm. It's almost like he is for sale, but not... one of those funny situations. The only reason I know he's 'sorta kinda' for sale is because the BO mentioned it.
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post #8 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 10:05 PM Thread Starter
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Turns out HE is really a SHE... I feel like an idiot, but her belly was caked in mud and partly obscured by a shrub.

Anyway, this mare was moved into the pen beside my colt today, as her pen is way too muddy. The barn owner hosed her off and gave her a good brushing, and she looks just beautiful. When I asked him about her, he confirmed what I feared... she's absolutely, certifiably insane under saddle. She's lovely to work with on the ground, but hop on her back and you're asking for trouble.

I'm very, very happy that she was moved next to Levee. When I showed up today to work with him, he was trotting around and showing off for her, and looking more content than he has in a long time. She was being a witch to him, squealing and baring her teeth, but he was happy to have her near. It was funny... she was baring her teeth at him, and he was busy submitting to her, by licking and working his jaws.

I spoke to the BO about moving them into the same pen and he's willing to give it a try. I'm very happy that Levee isn't so alone anymore.
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post #9 of 9 Old 07-27-2011, 10:15 PM
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Your not crazy. Your just a good person! A Horse Person <3
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