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    03-15-2011, 05:33 PM
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Yearling
I think I have to sell one of my horses

So, today we had to meet the farrier to get Whisper and Persia's feet done. Whisper was alright but Persia was a complete beast and in the end it didn't end up happening. My husband got kicked in the elbow and on the way home all he could talk about was how he was done.
I've talked about this a little on the forum but for those who don't know, I bought Persia for my husband as a birthday gift. She was a total surprise and I knew he would love her. My husband has never really been a horse person and he used to make having just one horse not very much fun. It would cause big arguments but eventually he came around. Then he started taking a big interest in draft horses and would actually talk to me and seem excited about the possibilty of owning one. We even went to look at a 17hh clyde/perch and at one point said let's just do it. I should have just done it then because that would have been his idea. We took a little time to think about it and came to the conclusion that she was just too much horse for us. That's when I started my search for a horse that fit the draft image but was a more manageable size.
I found Persia and thought she was perfect. She was only 15.3hh but had all the cute drafty features. I bought her and surprised by husband who thought she was the greatest thing ever, for a little while. She is so smart and has done everything we've asked of her so far. She has a respect issue and likes to throw her weight around but is also a complete love bug. I have Whisper but I also fell in love with Persia. Things started to go down hill again with my husband attitude and now I feel like I have two horses and he has none. As much as I love Persia, I really saw a bond between her and my husband since he was the one working with her. That bond seems all but gone now.
So now I am faced with having to sell her since that's what my husband said he wanted and I don't have the time to work with two horses. It was a huge mistake to get a horse that wasn't rideable because I know if he could ride her he wouldn't want to get rid of her. Rideable wasn't in our price range but that was ok because we wanted to train her ourselves with the help we knew we would have from others. We just havn't gotten that far yet.
Sorry about the rambling but I'm just really sad that I have to part with her. I get so attached to animals and I'm just really scared that she wont find a good home since she is a cribber and I know how people hate that. Anyway, thanks for reading and if anyone is interested and thinks they can help we are in Arizona.
     
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    03-15-2011, 06:08 PM
  #2
Green Broke
He could just be mad. And why isn't she ridable?
     
    03-15-2011, 06:14 PM
  #3
Yearling
No, his attitude has been that way for a while and frankly I'm tired of dealing with it. Just wish I didn't have to get rid of Persia to make him happy. We just havn't gotten that far with her. She takes a saddle but we are still working on her accepting weight in it and there are other things we would like her to have down before we get on since we are not super experienced horse people.
     
    03-16-2011, 11:28 AM
  #4
Weanling
If your husband doesn't truly love horses, I don't think he'll ever enjoy them enough to make it worth keeping one for him. Does he have other hobbies he enjoys? You can both have seperate hobbies. Just support him in whatever he loves to do, and he should support and respect your love of horses. Sometimes having seperate things you enjoy can actually bring you closer!

Persia sounds really cute! Do you have a picture of her? I just want to peak ;) How old is she? I don't think you need to worry about the cribbing thing- I think there's plenty of people who would give her a good home regardless of that habit.
     
    03-16-2011, 11:33 AM
  #5
Yearling
I know, that's what I keep telling myself. I know it was a big mistake to try and force it on him. But now I love his horse and it makes me really sad to think about getting rid of her.
Haha yeah, his hobby in playing computer games and completely ignoring his family. But that's a whole other issue lol.
I do have pictures but they are on my other computer so I will post some later, but that's her face in my avatar
     
    03-16-2011, 12:04 PM
  #6
Started
My non-horse husband learned to love his horse but we had horses a long time before he came around and when he did he took over my daughter's (who was 8 at the time) 16 year old horse. Now Sport is 22 and Brian loves riding him. Though he doesn't ride nearly as often as my daughter, who spends about 2 hours a day in the saddle, he does like to go on over night camping trips and on day trips to local state parks.

I think your first mistake was buying an unbroke horse for a novice rider. Secondly is not getting him the draft he wants. They are no different to handle than a smaller horse imo. My 8 year old granddaughter has always ridden a draft. Her new horse, Waylon stands 18.1



     
    03-16-2011, 01:23 PM
  #7
Yearling
I definitely think getting an unbroke horse was a mistake, but I also think we could still do it. Persia is smart and willing and we have done so much with her this far. The drive just isn't there for my husband right now and I can't do it on my own. We have a trainer that is supposed to work with both of our horses this spring so I'm trying to hold him off until then. But if his attitude doesn't change, it's just not worth it.
I love Sport, he's a very handsome boy.
     
    03-16-2011, 01:39 PM
  #8
Started
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Originally Posted by Whisper22    
I definitely think getting an unbroke horse was a mistake, but I also think we could still do it. Persia is smart and willing and we have done so much with her this far. The drive just isn't there for my husband right now and I can't do it on my own. We have a trainer that is supposed to work with both of our horses this spring so I'm trying to hold him off until then. But if his attitude doesn't change, it's just not worth it.
I love Sport, he's a very handsome boy.
That is Waylon, my granddaughter's spotted draft. I hope you are able to hold off for the trainer too :

Here is Sport...our 22 year old and my husband Brian

     
    03-16-2011, 03:53 PM
  #9
Yearling
Oh gotcha, well Sport is very cute too. I love his colors. Your daughter must be fearless and I can only hope that my husband will come around some day the way yours has.

This is Persia and that's my husband, Tyler, in the picture.
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    03-16-2011, 04:10 PM
  #10
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by Whisper22    
I definitely think getting an unbroke horse was a mistake, but I also think we could still do it. Persia is smart and willing and we have done so much with her this far. The drive just isn't there for my husband right now and I can't do it on my own. We have a trainer that is supposed to work with both of our horses this spring so I'm trying to hold him off until then. But if his attitude doesn't change, it's just not worth it.
I love Sport, he's a very handsome boy.
Here is the problem though. This is still about what YOU want, not what HE wants, and this horse was supposed to be for him. You'd be better off selling her and finding something suitable down the line, IF you are even able to peak his interest again.

Getting an unbroke, young horse that needed so much work, when he was JUST STARTING to be interested in horses was probably the quickest thing you could do to turn OFF that interest. You needed to show him it was fun, but all he saw was that it was difficult, and a ton of work, so of course he doesn't want anything to do with it now. And now add to that that he's going to have to shell out money for a trainer, to train the horse you both were overfaced with, so that will drive the point in a little deeper, and turn him off even more.

I'm sorry if that sounds blunt, but it seems to me that you tried to force this on him, and even now that it's ending badly, you don't want to admit it. As impossible as it seems to us horse people, not everyone likes horses, or wants to spend time working with them. All you are going to accomplish if you keep pushing, is to build up a lot of resentment between you, and I would think your relationship should be worth more than keeping a horse, especially when you have your own, that is not part of the problem.
     

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