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post #1 of 5 Old 02-25-2010, 09:56 PM Thread Starter
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I think it's finally time that I give up.

I am going to talk to the local rescues and see if they can help me place Bear in a new home.

My mom just informed me that she is pretty much going broke. I was going to lease a horse since Bear is so messed up, but she told me that I need to hold off on that (as in wait for a year so she can get back on her feet). I feel like having such an expensive horse (he is a bit more expensive then most horses due to all of his problems) is stressing her out and I feel bad. I had someone ask me not to long ago, "Why have a horse if he is going to be lame all the time?" It has been bugging me, mostly because I deep down know that they have a point. Rhedd is leaving soon anyways, so then we wont have any horses and my mom can just focus on fixing this place up so she can sell the farm. I don't know where we will move, and frankly, I don't even care anymore. I have been depressed for the last 4 1/2 months pretty much with a few days were I am actually happy. Oh well, that isn't all that important anyways.

I might talk to some of the barns around here to see if I can work off lessons and or a lease, but really, I feel like just giving up for now and just curling up in a little ball and disappearing. Maybe I will go stay with my dad for a little while, just take a break from things once the horses are gone. I'm not sure as of right now. As I said, I just want to disappear. Maybe I will be able to find a nice barn over by him and be able to work of lessons (no way would I be able to work off a lease, as the barns are expensive over near him).

I just can't do it anymore. It is to much heartbreak having a horse that is lame ALL the time, never knowing what to do for him. I cry over him every day worried sick about him, and I have no idea how much longer I can do it.

I don't know, maybe things will change and Bear will get better and I will want to keep him, but as of right now, I just want to give up and send him somewhere where he will be happy, as he doesn't seem all that happy with me.

Maybe I will just take a break (6-12 months probably) and just focus on my photography and school, as I need to get my grades up anyways.

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post #2 of 5 Old 02-25-2010, 10:16 PM
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That has to be the hardest thing in the world to have to decide to part with your horse.
I wouldnt just give up riding and horses all together though, def. check out if you can work off some of the lessons or a share lease to be able to get riding time in.
I am not sure of what is happening with your horse but I understand about money issues and not having enough to go around, I know I go w/o a lot of extra things to be able to take care of my horses and it is a lot of hard work to take care of them properly. If you lived closer to me I would offer you to work off a lease or something on my one gelding(but I am in PA). I could always use extra hands to clean their stalls : )

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post #3 of 5 Old 02-25-2010, 10:26 PM
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Is there anyone you know who you can free lease Bear to as a companion horse? Then when things are looking better start working with him again?

I know you love him and I'm sorry you're going through this :(
If you weren't across the country I'd take him for you for a little until things are straightened out...

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post #4 of 5 Old 02-25-2010, 10:36 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks you two, you guys are great!

There is a rescue that will do assisted adoptions, and if the adoption doesn't work out, then they take the horse back to their ranch, and do what they need to do. There is also another ranch that takes in horses that need retiring and such. If they can fix the horse up, then they will adopt them out.

I will just feel best with that, as I will know that he will be in the best care.

Thank you ladies, you two are wonderful!

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post #5 of 5 Old 02-27-2010, 12:34 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through that. It is very hard.

I wish I had some advice for you, but I find myself in a similar frame of mind.

Good luck hon.
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