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        01-31-2013, 01:19 AM
      #11
    Foal
    Already stated I'm not doing it without Cass. Twice, actually.

    I know, I know...but I can't go back to Kelly after Gray Guy! I actually enjoyed my lesson so much more on him.
         
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        01-31-2013, 01:36 AM
      #12
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    Exactly what is it that you would like us to tell you then? Cassidy was crying over having to ride yours, so you know she won't be wanting to do that again. We suggested that you ride different times so you can both ride him, ask for a totally different horse or maybe try and learn from the horse you get. Except go somewhere else or suck it up, I don't know what else could be done.
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        01-31-2013, 01:38 AM
      #13
    Foal
    I don't know. I was just wondering if anyone had any different ideas that weren't the obvious ones. I do appreciate the advice, though.
         
        01-31-2013, 01:38 AM
      #14
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Hazels    
    Already stated I'm not doing it without Cass. Twice, actually.

    I know, I know...but I can't go back to Kelly after Gray Guy! I actually enjoyed my lesson so much more on him.
    Well, you can't have both, so you have to choose which is more important: Allowing your friend to ride her original horse, grey guy, and you ride Kelly (or) ride grey guy and make your friend ride Kelly, when she 'sobbed through half the lesson' If my friend started sobbing at any point during the lesson due to a decision I had made, I would rescind that decision and switch back to my original horse. I would rather watch my friend ride grey guy while I waited for my lesson than make her cry so I could ride at the same time. You know what I'm saying?
    I still don't think it should be up to you who rides which horse, that is a decision reserved for the professional instructor.
         
        01-31-2013, 01:45 AM
      #15
    Foal
    My teacher knows what he's doing. He wouldn't let us on any horse we weren't ready for.

    I understand. I care about Cass far more then a nicer horse. I just have a miserable time on Kelly. Well, thanks anyway guys. Maybe Cass and I can have a talk and work it all out.
         
        01-31-2013, 01:45 AM
      #16
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    I find it somewhat curious that your instructor 'doesn't care' which horse you ride... that's kind of important for an instructor to care about, wouldn't you say?

    What does your instructor tell you while you struggle with Kelly?
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        01-31-2013, 01:50 AM
      #17
    Foal
    Virgil is extremely knowlegable about horses...I think he knows what he's doing. His horses are all dead broke, they just have different personalities. He trusts us enough to let us decide which horse clicks with us.
         
        01-31-2013, 01:57 AM
      #18
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    Perhaps it is time to talk with you instructor about a few things.

    Such as:
    - is there a third horse hidden away somewhere that is not Kelly that you could try.
    - what it would cost to board a horse there and take lessons, and possibly consider purchasing or leasing a horse.
    - see of your instructor is open to purchasing another lesson horse of her own and encourage/help her find one if there are none available.

    If there ARE more available, go with a new one.

    Could you afford to take a second lesson a week by yourself? That way you get to still work with the confidence booster horse AND still ride with your friend. Getting more riding time in, with added one-on-one direct coaching will help your riding and confidence too.

    You might want to see if you could switch every now and then. Talk to your friend about how riding a difficult horse makes you a better rider, and so does riding a bunch of different horses. You might be able to work out a schedule. Switching every other lesson, or ride one a month and then switch. "You have February, I'll take march. You take April. I will take may..." You can work out a schedule.

    Eventually, you are going to get fed up and quit, while your friend continues on. You may say it won't right now, but trust me. You WILL quit if you are miserable. It might be six months down the road, but you are doomed to fail if you cannot enjoy anything about the lesson. This mare seems like she is the type to suck the fun out of a situation. That is awful.
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        01-31-2013, 01:58 AM
      #19
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    Originally Posted by Hazels    
    Virgil is extremely knowlegable about horses...I think he knows what he's doing. His horses are all dead broke, they just have different personalities. He trusts us enough to let us decide which horse clicks with us.
    They might both be dead broke, but Grey Guy sounds like a more tolerant horse. Your issue here is likely a riding issue. Everyone makes mistakes while they learn -- some horses are just more tolerant of mistakes than others.

    Does your instructor ever ask you to evaluate /why/ your horse isn't listening?
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        01-31-2013, 02:00 AM
      #20
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    One thing you could do is go to your instructor and let him know that you can't handle the horse you have been given. He may be able to switch her out for you with a student that can handle her.
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