Perhaps it is time to talk with you instructor about a few things.
- is there a third horse hidden away somewhere that is not Kelly that you could try.
- what it would cost to board a horse there and take lessons, and possibly consider purchasing or leasing a horse.
- see of your instructor is open to purchasing another lesson horse of her own and encourage/help her find one if there are none available.
If there ARE more available, go with a new one.
Could you afford to take a second lesson a week by yourself? That way you get to still work with the confidence booster horse AND still ride with your friend. Getting more riding time in, with added one-on-one direct coaching will help your riding and confidence too.
You might want to see if you could switch every now and then. Talk to your friend about how riding a difficult horse makes you a better rider, and so does riding a bunch of different horses. You might be able to work out a schedule. Switching every other lesson, or ride one a month and then switch. "You have February, I'll take march. You take April. I will take may..." You can work out a schedule.
Eventually, you are going to get fed up and quit, while your friend continues on. You may say it won't right now, but trust me. You WILL quit if you are miserable. It might be six months down the road, but you are doomed to fail if you cannot enjoy anything about the lesson. This mare seems like she is the type to suck the fun out of a situation. That is awful.
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