I'm kind of down. I want to be able to be proud of my youngster.
 
 

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    05-22-2012, 03:20 AM
  #1
Green Broke
Unhappy I'm kind of down. I want to be able to be proud of my youngster.

Okay, so this may sound sort of hokey. But I am really down tonight. I have a coming 2 yr old gelding who I've raised since birth. He is my first foal and really wasn't planned (by me) as his mom came pregnant when I bought her as a trail horse.

Never-the-less I always wanted a foal and love him dearly! It's been a struggle to get and keep his respect but you know, lately he's gotten so much better. I almost can't complain about his behavior anymore. He's not perfect of course, but compared to the wild child he was, he has gotten pretty darn polite!

Anyway, I always have this feeling like he is worthless because he was born with a mildly deformed leg and he's a grade horse. (Sire is a QH, Dam is a Fox Trotter). I didn't do the cross breeding and I certainly didn't plan the messed up leg, but he has always seemed sound on it and what can you do? It is what it is. My vet feels he will be sound as a trail horse.

So I really don't want to always feel like I am trying to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. I have a friend with gaited horses and she thinks they are the only type worth owning. And another friend has QH's and she thinks they are the only breed worth owning. What I have is a rather unusual cross that doesn't gait like a gaited horse and isn't as mellow as a QH. And of course he has a bum leg.

I feel like if I ever had to give him away nobody would touch him with a 10 foot pole. And nobody would give him the time of day but me.

I don't want to feel that way. I want to be proud of my "baby." But I feel like he is some sort of illegitimate child that was never meant to be and he has a major conformation defect to boot (the leg). It doesn't help that everyone on this forum is always knocking grade horses. It makes me feel like he is garbage.

So everyone is always so proud of their horses, especially their youngsters. But I feel like I am trying to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.

How can I get over this feeling? I really want to be proud of him. He's not a BAD looking colt. ( I honestly think he looks better than many purebreds.) But everyone is so into bloodlines and conformation that it really gets me down when I stop to think about it. It's almost like I have to make excuses for him when I introduce him to people. Like "here is my colt that was born with a deformed leg and by the way he is also an unholy mix of QH and Fox Trotter." And "sorry he isn't more polite he is my first foal and I didn't know what I was doing. I tried to raise him right." That's a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the idea.
     
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    05-22-2012, 03:30 AM
  #2
Showing
Stuff them! Friends don't make other friends feel like crap. Or what they own is crap. NOT COOL!

Look at how far you've gone with him. I mean come on, every horse has flaws, every PERSON has flaws. Nothing in this world is perfect.

You've put so much hard work into him, and he's going to be amazing. He is DEFINITELY something to be proud of, as are you! Be proud of what you've done with him so far.

Not every horse is sound or has perfect confo or whatever, but they're perfect for their purpose. He could be the best dang trail horses ever. Or he could make a little boy or girl really happy, or he could be the best "do whatever with him" in the world.

Not every horse has to be perfect breeding.. hell I don't even know who Sky's parents are.. his past is uglier than an ex's rear and he is a mutt of breeding but I love him and I am proud of him.

Bum leg or not, he's still amazing and YOU got him there!!

Chin up! Don't let the perfect breeding and bloodlines crap get you down :)
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    05-22-2012, 03:35 AM
  #3
Weanling
Well, I have a mustang. You can't get much more "grade" then that! But let me tell you, I wouldnt trade him for all the registration papers in the world!! And, i'm willing to bet, that there are more grade horses on this forum than registered ones.
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    05-22-2012, 03:41 AM
  #4
Started
I ride 2 grades. One is my dun mare with a scarred knee from trying to jump the corral when we got her and she has a toes out problem.

We have some pretty serious ups and downs, but I always find a way to be proud of something she does.

Just gotta dig deep and love your horse!
     
    05-22-2012, 03:47 AM
  #5
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel    
Stuff them! Friends don't make other friends feel like crap. Or what they own is crap. NOT COOL!
They really have been very supportive of me. It's just that I feel that way.

I'm just in a down mood. I will feel better tomorrow I'm sure.

Really this thread was a bad idea. But I just wanted to talk to someone. My family doesn't get it, or they just get tired of all my emotions all the time.

I just wish he could have been born perfect. That's what gets me down the most. I would like to feel like he is a beautiful horse worthy of showing off. Like everyone else feels their horses are. It doesn't make their horses better than mine. Out on the trails a good mind and training and soundness are all you need. I would just like to feel he is beautiful and worthwhile. And if something ever happened and I couldn't keep him, he would find a home and not end up at a slaughter house somewhere.
     
    05-22-2012, 03:47 AM
  #6
Trained
Woman, I'd be the last person to bash your gelding. He's a fine looking horse, despite his leg. Can't remember whats wrong with it?

I'll never bash a grade. Those who do are snobs and petty. YOU didn't do it, but who would care if you did? He's a HORSE. Not a single one is "perfect' and those that are can and do have the same problems as any other. You did your best training him. Maybe send him off for a month to get a fine tuning. I sent my gelding off last fall and I was ashamed because that was the first time ever. Life happens, time is short, no one is perfect. He's still young, he may mellow out over time.

Most horses are diamonds in the rough these days. You just gotta do something with them. Personally I think he's a FINE lookin animal, hopefully he holds up and proves worthy of your doting! (I told you on his confo thread, I adore him!)
I've taken in some of the homeliest looking horses. Give them some time and TLC and they always surprise me. I'm positive someone will love him regardless of his faults and "lacking" papers. Heck I have two grades in my pasture and I pamper them like they are "papered" to the hilt, both are nowhere near perfect but I adore them. And they return it 10 fold.

EDIT: HOLLER AT ME IF HE EVER NEEDS A HOME! I'd take him in a heartbeat.
     
    05-22-2012, 03:53 AM
  #7
Showing
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Originally Posted by trailhorserider    
I just wish he could have been born perfect. That's what gets me down the most. I would like to feel like he is a beautiful horse worthy of showing off. Like everyone else feels their horses are. It doesn't make their horses better than mine. Out on the trails a good mind and training and soundness are all you need. I would just like to feel he is beautiful and worthwhile. And if something ever happened and I couldn't keep him, he would find a home and not end up at a slaughter house somewhere.
But he wasn't, and I'm sure he wouldn't end up in a slaughter house. If I worried about the same things you are, I would probably reach the same conclusions since few can handle Sky. Yes he's beautiful but like I said, his past is rough rough rough.

He is beautiful and definitely worth while. If you were face to face with me I'd have to spray you with a hose. You've got a nice horse there, he's not perfect but which horse is?

Change your perspective. Maybe you'll see him in a different light tomorrow.
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    05-22-2012, 04:00 AM
  #8
Green Broke
Thanks for all of your kind comments.

I actually have a Mustang too. But he is so well behaved and nicely trained that I never feel outclassed with him. No matter who I ride with, he is always amongst the very best behaved on the trail.

It just seems like the foal has been such a long, hard, uphill battle! From the time he was born with health issues to my battle for respect to the present where he has actually seemed to mature a bit, it's like it's been uphill all the way.

I think I would have given up on him and given him away had he been perfect physically. But because I feel like he is an underdog and unlikely to get a home it has actually kept me hanging in there through all our training issues. Maybe that was the purpose of the deformity- to keep me from giving up. But I still wish he was "perfect." Just because I want him to be sound forever.
     
    05-22-2012, 04:18 AM
  #9
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by FlyGap    
Woman, I'd be the last person to bash your gelding. He's a fine looking horse, despite his leg. Can't remember whats wrong with it?

I'll post a picture. The cannon bone was born sort of warped looking. I have an older vet and he had never seen anything like it in all his years of practice! What are the odds of that?

I'll never bash a grade. Those who do are snobs and petty. YOU didn't do it, but who would care if you did? He's a HORSE. Not a single one is "perfect' and those that are can and do have the same problems as any other. You did your best training him. Maybe send him off for a month to get a fine tuning. I sent my gelding off last fall and I was ashamed because that was the first time ever. Life happens, time is short, no one is perfect. He's still young, he may mellow out over time.

I plan to send him out for saddle training next spring. I have had a little help (both from friends and a couple of sessions with a professional trainer) on the groundwork. Basically, I wasn't strict enough on keeping him out of my space when he was a foal so he thinks I am more of a playmate than the boss. He's been strangely better lately though so I'm hoping he's matured some. It seems like the break over winter has done him some good.

Most horses are diamonds in the rough these days. You just gotta do something with them. Personally I think he's a FINE lookin animal, hopefully he holds up and proves worthy of your doting! (I told you on his confo thread, I adore him!)
I've taken in some of the homeliest looking horses. Give them some time and TLC and they always surprise me. I'm positive someone will love him regardless of his faults and "lacking" papers. Heck I have two grades in my pasture and I pamper them like they are "papered" to the hilt, both are nowhere near perfect but I adore them. And they return it 10 fold.

EDIT: HOLLER AT ME IF HE EVER NEEDS A HOME! I'd take him in a heartbeat.

Thanks so much! I am hoping to keep him but sometimes I feel like throwing in the towel!
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Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel    
But he wasn't, and I'm sure he wouldn't end up in a slaughter house. If I worried about the same things you are, I would probably reach the same conclusions since few can handle Sky. Yes he's beautiful but like I said, his past is rough rough rough.

He is beautiful and definitely worth while. If you were face to face with me I'd have to spray you with a hose. You've got a nice horse there, he's not perfect but which horse is?

Change your perspective. Maybe you'll see him in a different light tomorrow.
Thanks so much Skyseternalangel!
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    05-22-2012, 04:36 AM
  #10
Green Broke
And him more recently. It's hard to get a picture of because his legs are black and I haven't been specifically getting photos of just his leg.

It does look better than it used to though. It looked pretty bad when he was born. There is still a little side-to-side warping going on even now. But it's not quite as bad as it was.
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