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IM SO STUPID and I set my self up to get hurt!

3K views 16 replies 9 participants last post by  travlingypsy 
#1 ·
GOD! So Ive been at my barn for 2 yreas and a half. Im turning 20 thats a big deal for me in no longer TEEN. I know that 21 is the big deal because you can legally drink and thats when they all throw the big party and go bar hoping.

Well I dont drink. And my last bday part was when I was 18. So I was like hey why dont I just throw a party this year. And my mom and I can treat all the girls to go to the casino and have dinner. I invited 5 people! not including me and my mom. 1 my cousin. Where we were born a year and two days apart. Her big thing was the new baby in the family is turning 1 that weekend so she has to choose, plus my party is at 5:00 which mean with her traveles she would be getting home after 12:00 mind you I havent seen her in a year + and she can alwasy stay at our place.

The 4 people from the barn. Only one said she would come and sounded like she would actually enjoy it. She just came back from being gone at college. And she still said yes. How nice! The others never replied to my e-mails. And one said well she has to help with the BO lessons and she thinks the day camp is starting that weekend.

AUG.1st Friday night. Just one night starting at 5:00.

So I canceled the part to stop the humiliation of a no show of 4 guests. I even made a whole wbsite for my invitation....
http://travlingypsy.webs.com/


I know I havent been on much lately but I have missed it here, Ive just been so busy. And over whelmed by everything!
 
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#3 ·
I dont see why no one wants to go. I only got lame excuses. Like time and crap. Its in the evening! After work. Ya know.... Wahts the big deal. Its free food for them! Im always on bored if there is free food!
 
#5 ·
Thanks, Well I wanted to freakin have friends..SORRY for wanting to be social. I guess now I know I dont even have a chance of making friends out there.
 
#7 ·
We gave a bridal shower for a friend of the family once and no one showed up. It was awful and embarrasing for us and the bride to be. We were stupid and set it for memorial day weekend but still you would think 1 person would have showed :oops:
I know how you feel. Its sad but it seems the older you get the harder it is to have friends. Especially at your age when people are busy with college, they're getting married or busy with a job.
I think you and your mom should go and have a good time just the 2 of you.
Happy Birthday!! a little early but.... :lol:
 
#8 ·
Yah well my birthday is july 27 and that weekend everyone seemed to have stuff going on. So I had it changed for the 1st and still no one.

That is really embarasing and hurtfull about the bride. I feel for her. I mean thats a BIG thing! You want to share it with everyone....
 
#9 ·
I know exactly how that feels. I have invited friends from my last job out to do things with me, and my family several times, and I always seem to get a 'beat around the bush' answer, or no answer at all. It really ticks me off!!! So, I've just stopped talking to them all together. I'll have to make new friends, which is hard for me to do, but.. I'd like to think that the friends that I do have, or will have will WANT to hang out with me, not because they simply tolerate me.
 
#10 ·
awww -hugs- i'm sorry! I know how you feel though! At our age (i'm 20 too), REAL friends are few and far between. many people are out there for themselves and dont really care about anyone else. Even though it doesnt seem like many people are going to come, make the best out of it! If you go in with the intent to have a blast, you totally will. and forget about the no-shows, they clearly dont know what they're missing. :wink:
 
#11 ·
Wow, that's kind of a crappy thing to do to someone... if I was in your area I'd come! And NOT just for the free food! Sounds like you have some not so nice people around you. Sorry to hear that! It stinks to keep putting your heart out making new friends but ya gotta keep at it! You'll find some amazing people who are worth the time and effort!
 
#12 ·
At first I didnt want to even do anything not a cake nothing...Then my mom was like well what do you want to do. So it got me thinking then I came up with the idea of going to the casino you know something fun. I dont have any friends outside of the barn. Basicly the barn and home is my life.

And I think it would be pritty lame to beg for people to come to a b-day party. Its just a really big slap in the face. Its sad how people just dont care. If any of them had invited me to one of their get togethers.... WOOOO :shock: Wake up call! :shock: I mean how DUMB am I. GOSH. AM I REALLY THIS DUMB! OR THAT LONELY.
They never invite me to anything!!!! Im not there friend and there is no way im ever going to be. 2 years! And Ive only been invited to one sinsaria party thingy. Man I think for now on im just going to do my work ride my pony and go home! No questions asked.

I actually just want to go to bed. :oops:
 
#13 ·
Hey I got a few people on here to go. I should just have the party on my web site I made it just for that...sheesh all that time waisted.
lol
 
#14 ·
((((((Big Hug)))))) for you. I feel so bad for you, I do know exactly how you feel though. Its honestly not you so don't take it too personal. I think everyone goes through this at some point in their life.
When I was 20 I moved 1000 miles away from my home town. Really good friends have been few and far between. Your going to be ok :D
 
#15 ·
my birthday is on Christmas day... so no matter what day I plan a party for around my birthday - people were always too busy or didnt want to go because they were saving money for Christmas. Sheesh, they didnt have to give me a gift... just come party.

So I never had a birthday party other than with my immediate family. :(
 
#16 ·
you should not beat yourself up over this ! its definetly their fault ( and loss) :!:

my birthday is in the biggest traveling week of the year here ! there are tons of festivals, if you can call it that ( basically just everyone sleeping in tents and getting drunk), and if anyone was not going to one of those then he had something else planned :roll: i dont think i´ve ever held a birthday party on my birthday... i most often held it on the 3rd of september instead, a month later !
 
#17 ·
that would suck to have a birthday around christmas. Man I remember I had a friend who was born around christmas, his mom never gave him a birthday party.
 
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