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    04-21-2012, 12:36 AM
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It's just NOT fair (*RANT*)

Okay, so before you go judging me..I know; life's not fair. Maybe I'm just being over reactive or maybe even a little hormonal...but I don't care, I've been upset for too long & I need to let it out.

Before I start, I should probably add a few things about myself. I've only been riding since August 2011..but it feels like waaay longer. Ever since I first saw my coach do barrel racing, I knew it was my thing. I knew I had to do it. I loved everything about it, the bling, the passion, the courage & just the whole 'cowgirl up' mentality thing. That was going to be me some day. After we had all the basics down, our coach wanted to know what direction we wanted to steer our lessons in (I take lessons with my 2 cousins.) of course, the answer was barrel racing. Although we never really got too far..it was always planned. When I bought my horse in September, it was planned that he would be trained for 2012, it's almost May and it STILL hasn't even started..

So it all started a few monthes ago in the winter time; my mom invited her best friend's sister & her daughter (E & R) to come riding with us. She knew she liked horses so she thought they would like to do lessons with her. And that they did. At first it was all for fun & nothing serious. But then R (about a year younger than me) heard that I liked barrels...and started liking it too. Of course, there's nothing wrong with that..it was still my dream though.

So about a month ago (March-ish) R started taking barrel lessons behind our backs...not that it's our business, they just didn't want us to know, which is weird. Keep in mind that this is all happening while I'm still waiting for us to start training..

My mom mentioned it several times, I was still interested in starting...but we never did much. Then E started part-boarding a horse & R was riding that barns best barrel horse (for free...??) I started to ride with them and then R would start doing barrels (I wasn't supposed to be doing barrels because I was supposed to wait for my horse to be trained so it was annoying) then she started getting better & better..all while I was waiting. "Oh he still needs work" or "he's not ready yet" was always the excuse.

Flash forward to today, they invite me to go riding with them. Of course I say yes because I generally like riding with them (when they're not rubbing it in my face) I get there and her whole family is there to watch..ok cool..then the two barn owners (my coaches) & a boarder are watching..wtf?? So they get her to do barrels & are cheering for her, all while ignoring me.

Wth??? I can't believe my coach did that in front of me, especially because she knew I was upset that she was doing barrels while I got to do nothing. It's not fair (I feel like a little kid..but I seriously just came home and cried) I feel like crap!! What makes her better? She doesn't even have her own horse! I've been waiting & waiting to start while she's doing all this stuff.

What makes me more upset is that they're secretly taking her to their biggest competition this year..what about me? My mom is the whole reason E & R started taking lessons, it's pretty much a slap in the face to me... I am dedicated, I ride even when I'm sick because I want to accomplish the things she tells me to work on, I do them but she keeps putting the training off.

I'm really confused and really upset, CAN'T A GIRL JUST TURN & BURN?!? And I know you probably are saying "you can't just expect to run barrels after 8 monthes of riding..but R can after just 3 monthes... It's not fair, I just want what was promised to me, I want to barrel race!!
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    04-21-2012, 12:45 AM
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Did it ever occur to you that she might be a better rider than you?

If you're being told 'not yet', there's a reason for it. I highly doubt the adults are all in cahoots to keep you from realizing your dream.
     
    04-21-2012, 12:55 AM
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Did it ever occur to you that she might be a better rider than you?

If you're being told 'not yet', there's a reason for it. I highly doubt the adults are all in cahoots to keep you from realizing your dream.
Yes, the thought has occurred, (I know it sounds pretty snobby) but I definitely think I am a better rider. Apparently my coach says that it's because my horse isn't trained & their horse is. I watch her ride all the time, that horse is very smart & definitely knows what he's doing. In my opinion, she is just a long for the ride. I don't know, part of me thinks that's better for me..I get the experience of having to learn with my horse while she just has everything done for her...but at the same time I find it unfair. I have ridden that horse before, all you have to do is stay on, he knows what he's doing. So that's why I think she is doing it before me, that's what my coach says; my horse isn't ready yet but the horse she rides is. Sure, that makes sense but it's not fair that she gets to ride the trained horse.
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    04-21-2012, 12:56 AM
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There's definitely advantages to riding BTDT lesson horses versus bringing along a green horse with a trainer. On a BTDT, you can generally focus on YOU more and don't have to wait for your horse to be ready before you advance. With the horse you're bringing along in barrels, it might just be that the trainer thinks your horse is not ready, not that you're not ready to ride the pattern. Ask him/her if you can take a lesson on one of her barrel-trained horses for the experience on the pattern. If he/she says no, you know she doesn't think you're ready yet.
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    04-21-2012, 12:57 AM
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I completely agree with what Speed Racer said. Also, it sounds like you have your own horse who needs training correct? Well if the other girls are riding an already made barrel horse then of course they will be running sooner than you.

Also, you asked these other girls to ride with you because it would be fun right? And so you could all learn together? My advice would be to quit comparing yourself to them and go enjoy your horse. You will run barrels when the time is right. And imo you wouldn't be ready to run full out anyways even on a made horse after less than a year of riding.
     
    04-21-2012, 12:58 AM
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Originally Posted by equiniphile    
There's definitely advantages to riding BTDT lesson horses versus bringing along a green horse with a trainer. On a BTDT, you can generally focus on YOU more and don't have to wait for your horse to be ready before you advance. With the horse you're bringing along in barrels, it might just be that the trainer thinks your horse is not ready, not that you're not ready to ride the pattern. Ask him/her if you can take a lesson on one of her barrel-trained horses for the experience on the pattern. If he/she says no, you know she doesn't think you're ready yet.
I have actually been wanting to do that for awhile, but I feel like she wants me to work with my horse instead. Like I said two posts up, I rode the same horse that has been talked about & my coach said I rocked it..that's good right?? Lol
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    04-21-2012, 01:00 AM
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I completely agree with what Speed Racer said. Also, it sounds like you have your own horse who needs training correct? Well if the other girls are riding an already made barrel horse then of course they will be running sooner than you.

Also, you asked these other girls to ride with you because it would be fun right? And so you could all learn together? My advice would be to quit comparing yourself to them and go enjoy your horse. You will run barrels when the time is right. And imo you wouldn't be ready to run full out anyways even on a made horse after less than a year of riding.
I agree with all of you for the most part, the part that bugs me is that she gets to ride the trained horse. I was never given the offer.
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    04-21-2012, 01:01 AM
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Did you ask? The other girl is probably jealous you have your own horse.
     
    04-21-2012, 01:03 AM
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Did you ask? The other girl is probably jealous you have your own horse.
I guess we are both even then, she's jealous I have a horse & I'm jealous she gets to barrel race.
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    04-21-2012, 01:08 AM
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So maybe instead of being jealous at each other you guys should both talk to the trainer and come up with a game plan. I'm sure if you just asked you could get some lessons on the trained horse while yours is getting trained. OR sell yours for one that's trained. And don't think of learning as a competition between you and your friend... it will really take the enjoyment out of riding.

Besides, it will be way more fun to have someone to haul to shows with in the future!
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