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post #1 of 3 Old 12-20-2010, 09:30 AM Thread Starter
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It's Not My Business...But I'm Still Worried

My cousin might be getting a horse It'll doubtless be quite a while before her dad actually acts on it, but at long last, I'll have someone to trail ride with, to talk horses with and not bore the living daylights out of, and a horse to play with when we go to their place. I am so excited for her...I think I'm more excited than she is, even

I am happy for her, but I'm also worried. I went through hell with my horse before I finally figured out how to act and became the leader. We're at a good point now, but I know neither of us will ever forget all the stuff that happened previously. And I don't want that to happen to my cousin with her horse.

She is great with animals. All her sheep, her ducks, her cats etc absolutely love her, because she's gentle and loving and I have never seen her angry or frustrated, but I don't know if that will be enough to get a horse's respect. Around my horse she seems very unsure, a bit nervous, and of course that's likely because she doesn't know what to do...but she can't be like that around a horse of her own. I've offered to get her over and working with my horse before she gets hers, but she's hesitant.

I really hope she gets some old deadhead trail horse that is a prime beginner's mount, or else she'll have to learn to either get strong or get rid of the horse. The difference between her and me is that I had to figure everything out myself, and I made a lot of mistakes on the way. I'll 100% help her if she ever runs into trouble, but I'm by no means an experienced horseperson, and if her horse legit has problems that the presence a confident leader can't fix...well, we're pretty much...not good.

I'm still going to try and get her over to educate her with the help of my horse, but I feel like I'll be coming off as a know-it-all. I don't think I should tell her she shouldn't get a horse, because ultimately it's her parents' decision and money, and besides, I was the one who initially prompted her to get one. You're probably going to just tell me that it's not my business, but it's hard to not care. If anyone has any advice or opinions on the situation, they'd be welcome.

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post #2 of 3 Old 12-20-2010, 10:55 AM
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I think you're on the right track. Invite her over not to ride, but to help groom. Show her how to pick up feet, etc... I have found that when introducing someone to horses it's best to get them comfortable with them on the ground before they actually get on. Teach her how to tack up, what to look for. There is a lot more that goes into horse ownership than just riding and it requires you to be comfortable with them in every circumstance. Heck, just take her out in the field and set up a lawn chair so your horse can move around her, come over and be nosy and sniff her hair, lip the pages of a book or try and sneak a sip of soda(or coffee in Jacks case,lol)
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post #3 of 3 Old 12-20-2010, 11:03 AM Thread Starter
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You're right. Thinking back now, I'm kicking myself because every time I've invited her over was "you should get on her (my horse) for a bit". I totally didn't even wonder she's always iffy about it; she probably is nervous about getting on a horse she doesn't know. I'll get her comfortable with ground stuff, first. That was a mistake on my part.

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