Jealous Family rant
I don't know how to be brief and explain the background on this subject but I'll do my best.
Anyone have a family member who feels the need to compete with you and brag all the time on how wonderful their horse is and what they've accomplished in the horse world? For one, they are just that kind of person with everything but for two they make you sick of hearing it all the time.
This started when I was real young. Both my parents split and I lived with my (maternal) grandparents to raise me most of my teenage life. I started living with them when I was 10 and I knew my dads sister had horses and she inspired my horse loving bone. So upon returning to my grandparents after a visit with my dad and his family I spoke to them alot about horse lessons since they couldn't afford to get me a horse and everyone when they are young says "I want a horse or a pony".
My grandma never liked that I was into horses but I started lessons and loved loved loved it. I faced alot of snotty people and some falls and of course my grandma was all about me just giving it up because it was too dangerous! But I never gave up, never!
I'm so glad I didn't, its something I accomplished all by myself in life.
Anyhow, meanwhile my moms brother and his wife bought a horse and of course my cousin became a regular in horse shows and did all the cool stuff I wanted to do. They were very nice and always shared with me and let me show. Now I'm questioning whether it was to make fun of me or just because they felt they had to so my grandma would be happy.
Fast forward to my first horse that my dad bought for me. The only thing he ever did for me but he got me what I always wanted. I was so happy and of course we boarded together at my aunts and cousins barn. They would constantly complain about how bad my horse was and my aunt freaked when I wanted to show up early at the barn the next morning to see my horse that first week. She didn't want me there and I could tell. Well after a year of taking my horse to my friends barns and having fun I realized I had to sell her because I was going off to college and no one was going to support my horse for me. So I did what I had to do. My mother was always very supportive but she wasn't well and I didn't want to leave that on her.
So now 10 years later I have a great job and finally can be a responsible horse owner. Soon my husband and I are going to buy our own spread and get another horse for him. I don't see my aunt often or my cousin, they don't talk to us very much for some reason.
Every time I've talked about owning again there is always some comment from my aunt or cousin and now from my cousins husband. I don't understand why they have to always say something behind my back. I always find out about it because they say it to my grandma and I always hear about it. Or they ask me all these questions like my cousins husband said yesterday "not that its any of my business but why did yall get a horse?"
I can't help it if I'm responsible with my money and I'm not depending on mom and dad still. She has a horse that she doesn't ride because he's lame, they just had a baby and can't afford any of their bills. Several people in town are discussing reporting them because there is no grass for the horse and people have found no water for the horse. They had several boarders leave. I don't talk about anything they are doing wrong so why do they insist on picking on my life when things are going good for me. I just lost my mom this year and if they are family that loves me then they should be glad for me. Why are they still acting like jealous pricks?
Horses change lives. They give our young people confidence and self esteem. They provide peace and tranquility to troubled souls- they give us hope!