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    12-08-2012, 12:48 AM
  #1
Weanling
Just sad...

I have no one to vent to, so I figured I'd cry to you guys. A horse (my to-be-first horse) was sold out from under me today. The owner and I agreed on right of first refusal the other day, I'd ridden the mare out several times and had a prepurchase vet exam scheduled for Tuesday. I already felt like she was mine, we were just waiting to make it official. Then, someone came today to look at the mare and the husband sold her on the spot without even calling me. His wife won't even stand accountable for our agreement, and instead gives me a pathetic "I am so sorry, I really wanted you to have her." I am so angry and hurt... she was really the perfect horse for where I am right now. It's so much effort to get back out and try a million horses again, but I guess I don't have much a choice.

Anyone else ever find themselves in this sad situation? I am so heartbroken about losing this mare. I feel like it's going to take forever to find another like her.
     
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    12-08-2012, 12:53 AM
  #2
Banned
Ugh that just sucks. When you find your next horse leave a deposit pending the vet check. For me buying a $2k horse, I left a deposit I could afford to lose if the PPE didn't come back ok, so it was $50. Then get the agreement in writing.

It sucks that this happened to you, but maybe it was fate, Divine intervention (if you so believe) because something better is out there waiting for you.
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    12-08-2012, 01:00 AM
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I agree with AlexS. I know it's easy for us to say that.

But really when stuff like this happens, often times it's someone watching out for us. Whatever that might mean to you. It's difficult to deal with when you have your heart set on something and get told "no" so to speak, but sometimes it's a blessing in disguise and you might not realize that for a bit.

You'll find the one that is meant for you and it will all go together smoothly, like it should.
     
    12-08-2012, 01:05 AM
  #4
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Originally Posted by BBBCrone    
I agree with AlexS..
I like it when that happens.
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    12-08-2012, 01:07 AM
  #5
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Well you know what their word is worth.
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    12-08-2012, 01:13 AM
  #6
Trained
I'm sorry this happened, but take a lesson from it. When someone looks at a sale horse, if they really want that horse, they need to put down a non-refundable deposit. Too many people are just 'hoof kickers' and say they want a horse, or will have a vet check it and then disappear, never to be seen again. If a seller takes them at their word and turns down cash in hand, they may lose the sale forever.

When I sell a horse, the ONLY way I will take it off the sales list and not sell it is if the first person leaves a 25% non-refundable deposit on the horse. If they schedule a PPE and the horse fails the deposit is, of course, refunded immediately if they don't want the horse after that. Otherwise, if they just change their mind, then at least I haven't lost everything. When I take a deposit, I write up a contract showing that "so and so agrees to purchase XXXX horse for $XXX, of which 25% has been placed as a non-refundable deposit. Horse is scheduled to have a PPE done not later than XXX Date, and if passes sale is to be completed and paid in full on XXX date. If horse should fail the PPE and buyer declines horse for that reason only, the deposit will be refunded. Horse is bought "AS IS, WHERE IS" with no warranty or guarantee of soundness or suitability to purpose."

In other words, if I show you a fully trained western pleasure horse and 3 months from now you come back and say, "This horse won't jump", too bad, I never said the horse was a jumper. Get it all in writing and both you and the seller sign and have someone witness if you can.
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    12-08-2012, 01:15 AM
  #7
Weanling
I'm sorry this happened to you. I had a lease-to-own horse sold out from under me so I know how you feel. After that disaster, I looked at several other horses. Just when I was about to give up, Riley metaphorically landed in my lap and he is the best horse I have ever been around.

I know you're bummed out right now, and it's okay. Just know that there is an amazing horse out there somewhere just waiting for you to find it. Don't give up!
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    12-08-2012, 01:17 AM
  #8
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Originally Posted by Dreamcatcher Arabians    
I'm sorry this happened, but take a lesson from it. When someone looks at a sale horse, if they really want that horse, they need to put down a non-refundable deposit. Too many people are just 'hoof kickers' and say they want a horse, or will have a vet check it and then disappear, never to be seen again. If a seller takes them at their word and turns down cash in hand, they may lose the sale forever.

This is so very true. When I was looking to buy, I'd seen everything in my area and dismissed them for one reason or another. Then I was just looking at new horses listed for sale.

I went to see my horse the day after he was listed (I called that night, and set it up for the next day). I read so often here that people expect at least two even as many as four test rides. Heck no, I rode my horse that day, left a small deposit and got it in writing the horse was mine pending the PPE.
     
    12-08-2012, 01:23 AM
  #9
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Originally Posted by AlexS    
This is so very true. When I was looking to buy, I'd seen everything in my area and dismissed them for one reason or another. Then I was just looking at new horses listed for sale.

I went to see my horse the day after he was listed (I called that night, and set it up for the next day). I read so often here that people expect at least two even as many as four test rides. Heck no, I rode my horse that day, left a small deposit and got it in writing the horse was mine pending the PPE.
I would LOVE to have a bunch of buyers like you Alex! The only time I've ever sold a horse without at least 4 test rides was after I'd had 2 mares listed for sale for over a year. The DAY I arrived in AZ for the winter, I had an e-mail from a lady who said she wanted to come out and see the mares and to purchase them. Figures. I hadn't even had an inquiry, let alone a serious buyer in a year. And now.....So, I kinda blew her off thinking she was not serious, OK is not the Arabian capital of the world and these mares weren't being sold cheap. I told her I'd be back in April and we'd show them to her then. She wrote back, "NO, I want those mares, I want to come see them and I will pay your asking price if I don't absolutely hate them.". I still didn't believe her, so I told her she had to buy my round trip airfare and I'd come back. By God, she did it! I got home, saw her the next day, she pulled up with a trailer in tow and cash in her hands........no PPE, no test ride, nothing. LOL! Walked up to them in the pasture, said, "Yup, they're better than the pics.", handed me the money and started loading 'em before I could even do up a bill of sale. Goes to show ya, ya never can tell who is going to be your best customer. I ended up mailing her a receipt, the papers and bills of sale, she just wanted HER mares HOME. LOL! LOVE those kinds of buyers.
     
    12-08-2012, 01:38 AM
  #10
Banned
The massive difference there Dream is that I was looking at horses $2k and under. I am fairly confident that if I am epically wrong at that price I could resell without losing my house.
Oddly, or maybe not based on what you said. I am good friends since with the girl who sold me my horse, in fact we are having a beer together next Friday.


The point that's relevant to the original post though, is to leave a deposit and get a conditional vet check in writing.
     

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