I guess I have a slightly different view of horses than most on here. I like them a lot, and when I buy one I know I commit to taking care of it, feeding, grooming, everything. I take full responsibility but I don't view it like a dog or a cat who I keep just for my comfort, as a little friend. I would not keep a horse that was unrideable, or even unsuitable for me. To me horse riding is a hobby or a sport, but its not a pet I own. It can be tricky to find a horse to bond with, but by no means impossible. Most people are just too impatient to wait for something they really want.
And if I had a horse for competition purposes I would look at selling it around 13 or 14.
To the OP - 12 IS NOT TOO OLD!!!! Please! Do you know the # of horses that get shipped to the U.S.A and Canada in the world of GP Jumping and Mid to Upper Level Eventing?
Come on Honey! It is common.
Think of the Horses in Europe *Germany, France, England, Ireland, Scottland etc, etc* who ship their horses to the U.S.A and other countries for competion? Or the other way around *Canada and the U.S.A oversea's for competition* on a very regular basis.
Your horse will be fine.
I think it would be more stressful, for you to just "dissapear" one day, when your horse waits for you to show up, and you don't.
Yes, our horses get emotionally attached to us, as do our dogs and cats and other pets that are in our lives. Don't give up on her because it is convenient for you.
I have friends back home in Canada who moved to England and they had their horses shipped. I have a friend in Australia who just moved to the states, and her parents shipped her horse for her. I have friends in Canada who moved to Southern U.S.A and had their horses shipped.
I would be devistated if I had to leave Nelson behind - I would do all I could to have him with me.
I've always been told my horse is on the old side!
Ah ha....my guy is between 16-18. I guarantee you my guy can out jump and out compete a 7 year old.