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post #1 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 07:47 PM Thread Starter
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Keep riding or get out of horses?

I am facing a dilemma. Do I try to keep riding or do I sell my mare and give up? I tried to get on today for the first time since I had my bad accident a month ago. Well it didn't go very well. I was literally scared to death being back on her. I only stayed on 5 minutes. She would move and I would panic. This is no way to ride. She can't trust me if I don't trust her. I am completely disappointed in myself but I am not sure I will be able to get back on.
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post #2 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 07:59 PM
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Maybe a month is too soon for you to know. If you give it some time and just spend plenty of time with her, maybe you will feel ready again. I guess it depends on how hard it would be on you to give her up. Would you be crushed and have a really hard time getting over it or would you feel relief?
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post #3 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:01 PM
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If conquering your fear greater than your need to ride? Only you can decide that.
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post #4 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:04 PM
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I know exactly how you feel. I had a very bad accident on a horse I was thinking about buying on New Years Eve. I ended up with a cracked rib and am just now to the point of being about to breathe without pain.

I didnt buy that horse because I knew I would never be able to feel safe on him.

In my case, it was a deliberate buck that sent me flying.

Are you afraid of riding any horse or just yours? Maybe getting your confidence back on another horse is worth a try.
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post #5 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:06 PM
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Maybe if you had some one come out and lead her with you riding, that way you could have someone to talk you through it and let someone else worry about controlling the horse so you could concentrate on relaxing. Or you could find a super broke horse to ride your first time back instead of riding your own horse.

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post #6 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:08 PM
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Dont make a decision right now, it can turn out to of been the wrong action, give it some time and try again.

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post #7 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:09 PM
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Bella, sorry to hear about your having an accident. That's tough.

The best I can offer you is to take it easy on yourself and don't expect too much. Not knowing all the information, I'm actually impressed that you would be back in the saddle, even after a month. I know I would be terribly nervous! I think you should actually be pretty proud of yourself!

If you feel in a longer amount of time that it still is unsettling, then I might revisit the moving on. Right now, I think it's too soon to make that kind of decision. You won't be back to where you were before the accident for a little while - and I don't believe anyone would expect you to be. As the old saying goes - just take it day by day.
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post #8 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:34 PM
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Maybe you can take it slowly, over the course of a few weeks or longer if you need it.

Like go out one day and groom. The next day put the saddle on. Then tack up your horse and just lead her around tacked up. Then put your foot in the stirrup and take it back out. The next step would be to sit on her back. Sit for as long as you're comfortable and then get down. After you're comfortable sitting have someone lead you around for as long as you're comfortable if you get nervous just get off untack and try again the next day. Once you're comfortable with being led around ask someone to put you on a lungeline and steer on your own. Everything else just follows suit.

I don't know how bad your accident was, and I'm terribly sorry you had to go through it, but baby steps are a good way to gain your confidence back.

Everyone is different in how things affect them. Me for example, I am total opposite of you I fell off this passed Sept broke my wrist and dislocated my elbow. Right after my wrist surgery I wanted to get back on and ride(though no one let me don't worry) and after the dr cleared me I got on and started running barrels as soon as I could.

My friend on the other hand is terrified of falling, she's only fallen off twice in her riding career(10yrs) and each time it took her about 3 months to get back in the saddle.

By the sounds of it, it may take a while to gain your confidence but taking things with baby steps and lower expectations of yourself may help you out a lot. Never push yourself to do anything you are not comfortable with.


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post #9 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:42 PM
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Maybe instead of riding do some ground work, lunging, natural horsemanship, or even just grooming. Just to spend time with each other on the ground to improve your relationship and rebuild trust. Then when you feel more comfortable you can get back on.
Or maybe take a couple lessons on a quiet lesson horse to regain confidence. I wouldn't give up yet though. I've had some scary falls on my horse and I know it's really hard getting back on but I think it's worth it to just take the time and do what you need to do to get back on so you can enjoy riding again :)
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post #10 of 36 Old 02-04-2012, 08:44 PM Thread Starter
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I really don't want to sell her but I am afraid I'll never trust her again. Even though what happened wasn't her fault. I wish I could find some one with a super broke horse and a little understanding to help me. I told my husband I wanted to make take some lessons to help regain some confidence and he told me "taking lessons will push you harder then I am". I just don't think he gets it that telling me to quit being scared is not helping. In fact it just makes it worse that he doesn't listen when I say I need to get off.
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