Originally Posted by NorthernMama
It's good that you are going to give it some time and also look for guidance from someone who's been there. I would assume that most trainers have :)
As for the hubby that doesn't get it -- there are very few that do. Actually, most people have difficulty empathizing (sp?) with a situation that they haven't been through themselves. You can try to tell him that just because he feels differently, that's not going to change YOUR psychology so if he can't be supportive tell him it's better that he doesn't say anything at all. But, ya... good luck with that. Sorry that your man isn't helping matters.
He does try to help but what he thinks is helpful really isn't. I told him this is going to take time for me to get my head on straight. I think he is just as scared as me he just does want to admit it. He is the one who got to me first after I got bucked off. So he seen all the blood and I really think it effected him more then he'll admit.
As for trainers here in Utah it's hard to find real horse trainers or people really know what they are doing as far as lessons go. There are a lot of backyard trainers and people who think they can give lessons just because they own a horse. But I am going to find someone who has experience and references. I also think I am hold off on riding Bella until I am more confident. I don't want my fear to effect her.