I have no problems if people ASK POLITELY if I wouldn't mind updating them occasionally. No expectations and certainly no demands, because that will get you absolutely squat.
You sold the horse, and it's now mine. If you expect to keep tabs on it after you've accepted money for it, then you're whacked in the head because I have absolutely no obligation to do that.
I don't encourage visits, nor would I even accept that as part of the terms of a sale. Again, the horse is MINE. If you wanted to smooch on and spoil Pookie rotten, you should have kept him.
I send JJ's old owner/trainer e-mail updates from time to time, but I don't feel pressured to do so. I liked her and I know she loved him dearly, so I have no problem with that.
Casper's former owner tried to actually stalk me because I wouldn't let her act as if he was still hers, nor would I let her pop in for a visit whenever she pleased. Crazy wench.
So yeah, I have a few issues about former owners trying to keep track of Precious Poneh, and not understanding boundaries.
I wouldnt sell you any of mine, not with that attitude.
I bought Stan with a contract that stated that he would be with me forever and that they could visit at any reasonable time and be allowed to see him. There was no riding clause but had she asked to ride on any visit then I probably would have said yes.
I also had a contract that stated That should I ever have to sell him I would offer him back to them at the price I payed for him before putting him on the open market.
From this arrangement I got my pony of a life time for a fraction of his actual value (You could add anouther couple of 0's onto the price I paid in order to get his advertised price). This pony taught me loads, his past owners taught me loads, he took me from local small shows to winning at top level and doing fairly serious dressage levels.
Out of curtasy I kept them updated regularly with his progress. In reality in the 10 years I owned him (untill the day he died) they visited 3 times, they came and supported me at competitions in thier local area and they were always on the end of the phone if I needed advice. When he died they sent me a beautiful oil portrait of him that was worth a fortune (far more then I paid for him in the first place) and they helped me in the search for my new neddy.
Unfortunatly sometimes personal situations demand the sale of a much loved horse that you realy don't want to sell. I'd much rather sell mine for next to nothing and KNOW they have a secure future where I can keep track of them (and/or buy them back if they ever come up for sale again) then make big money on them,.