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post #1 of 16 Old 08-02-2009, 09:29 PM Thread Starter
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Kinda ticked and it's my own fault

So I was traipsing through some ads for horses, and I notice in one picture the barn in the background looks like the barn where I picked up Carolina. So I clicked on the ad and sure enough it is. Turns out though, the place I bought her is a huge sales barn disguised as a "Equine Bloodstock Broker." With literally hundreds of ads for various horses.

I really should have paid more attention while I was down there. How simple it all seemed to be for the transaction. But now I have a broke down horse that's going to require surgery, chiropractor visits and still needs to gain at least 100lbs.

The things I was told prior to purchasing her are different to the story I'm told now. And what's even worse, is that this "agent" has no idea about her breeding or history.

I'm peeved at myself for being so soft hearted that I couldn't leave her there. I'm peeved at myself for being so soft hearted that I have a horse now that requires an amazing amount of vet care and work. I'm peeved at myself for not demanding more information up front. I'm peeved that I have a level 4 trained showjumper/dressage mare that is worthless and there's not a **** thing I can do about it.

I don't know the previous owner's names so I can't ask them anything. The KWPN-NA, KWPN themselves, the dressage association and the hunter/jumper association can't help find out who she is.

Right now I'm of half a mind to just have the "agent" come and pick her up and take her back.

~CoCo 17hh 4 yo OTTB~
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post #2 of 16 Old 08-02-2009, 10:01 PM Thread Starter
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And when I mean "worthless" I mean I won't be able to compete with her, because of the bleeding in her nose that gets worse with exertion. And without her registration or history in this area she's not worth more than a couple of hundred dollars to sell. And who in their right mind would buy a horse that needs so much future care?

Ugh. Where's the bashing head against a brick wall smiley when you need it?

~CoCo 17hh 4 yo OTTB~
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post #3 of 16 Old 08-02-2009, 10:35 PM
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Wow.. you being soft hearted probably saved her life, maybe she isn't one to compete but seems to me like all she needed was someone to love her and give her a good life - however long that will be. I'm sorry you have to pay so much in vet bills, but where would she be if she didn't have you?

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post #4 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 09:01 AM Thread Starter
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I guess I'm just mad because I allowed myself to be hoodwinked. I'm normally very careful about buying a horse, I have specific goals, etc. But I took one look at her in the corner of that filthy stall and couldn't leave her there.

And now I regret it. Because I can't get any information out of the "agent" and the future doesn't look good for Carolina at this point. It just makes me mad. frustrated, upset. All of the above.

~CoCo 17hh 4 yo OTTB~
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post #5 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 09:16 AM
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Hard lessons to learn. I'm sorry you had to learn them the hard way :(

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post #6 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 12:09 PM Thread Starter
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Yep. The sucky thing is - I love her to death. She's beautiful and even as she is moves like a dream.

I'm just so darn frustrated. Because of my own stupidity, I feel I'm never going to get back into eventing.

~CoCo 17hh 4 yo OTTB~
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post #7 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 01:44 PM
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You will eventually. I believe that Carolina came into your life for a reason. It may have been so that you could save hers or so she could teach you some lesson that you need. Every horse is a gift even when they don't seem like it. Can she still move and compete at very low levels? Does she have the temperment suited for a beginning rider?

Maybe she came to you so that you could learn that you can't harden your heart to the suffering of another just because you have specific goals. Sometimes goals must be put on hold for a while. Don't give up on them, just don't rush too fast.
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post #8 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 02:44 PM
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I totally agree with what smrobs said. I know that it's really hard when you have goals and want to get to that point, and you feel like you're just about to finally get there and something goes wrong. And I know it really, really sucks to be tricked and taken advantage of, but you are saving a life. And I really wish that you wouldn't call your horse worthless in any meaning of the word because it's overall a terrible way to feel about your own horse. Horses are amazing animals and they all deserve decent lives and I just hope that you can get past the frustration and be happy that you saved Carolina from a life of suffering.
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post #9 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 03:37 PM Thread Starter
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I know, I read what I wrote after and I can't believe I said it either. She's not worthless, even if she ends up as a pasture pet.

I'm very hormonal right now. I'm going through a long drawn out miscarriage (my 8th) and I'm upset about that, and upset about the farrier's visit to Carolina. And the lack of co-operation from the "agent."

Well, not about the visit, just that the farrier showed me a tonne of stuff about Carolina that I didn't realise and now I feel stupid and mean. I didn't know she was in pain, I just thought her topline needed muscle. Turns out her hips are out and her right shoulder is out too. Ok, no biggie. I can get that sorted out. But there's no idea of how long she's been that way.

And then, to top it off, she has the nose bleeding. Which I was told I could compete with her regardless. Then when talking with a dressage judge, she said there was no way a judge would allow us to even enter the ring. So I had the vet out again to find out what's wrong, he won't scope her, so he "guessed" it's gutteral pouch mycosis which requires surgery. Because she also has a huge lump on her throatlatch.

But then it's quite possible the lump is a swollen lymph node, which is great, all that needs is antibiotics and we're back to the bleeding. Which "could" be caused by threadworms in her lungs. That's the only thing the new vet thinks it could be - considering her extensive competitive career. And all that requires is tube worming. So that's ok, I can deal with that.

I hate that I am the one to always be cleaning up someone else's messes. I'm always taking in half starved, broke down horses. When I was taking in OTTBs and retraining them for pleasure horses, I felt like I had a purpose. I still wasn't getting back to eventing, but because of my children being so young I was ok with that.

I was assured that with feeding and some minor TLC Carolina would be the girl I could start back with. I hate that I was lied to. I hate that I'm a grown woman and didn't even see that.

~CoCo 17hh 4 yo OTTB~
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post #10 of 16 Old 08-03-2009, 11:09 PM
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Oh, honey (((HUGS))). Even the most aware person gets taken advantage of sometimes. It is hard to be under so much stress and things just seem to get worse and worse. Don't give up hope, for yourself or Carolina.

Now I know this sounds silly but it really helps me when I am feeling really stressed. Go into a quiet, semi-dark room and just sit. Close your eyes and take deep breaths and concentrate on seeing the words "Breathe In" and "Breathe Out" in your mind. Don't think of anything else except those words for 15 to 20 minutes. It really clears my mind and helps me think of things in a way that maybe I hadn't before.
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