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    07-23-2012, 12:29 PM
Ooh. I imagine gaited dressage is beautiful...I'll take a look on you tube and see if there are any videos of such available! How cooool! :0)
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    07-23-2012, 05:44 PM
Lol I don't have an English saddle period. I have 2 antique western saddles (1 is in riding condition), a barrel saddle, and a treeless endurance saddle. I sold my English saddle because I thought I wouldn't need it......well whaddya know now look what I need lol
    07-24-2012, 02:16 AM
Ok, now im really nervous. I have been told that this stable is one of those families that think they are the best. I spoke to some friends that said they don't feel welcome there because they don't have a lot of money or expensive horses. I am kind of nervous at this point now because I want to feel comfortable for at least one lesson in my life. I'm sick of being told I can't do crap because my horse is either different, my parents don't buy me all my horse equipment, or because I am different. You would be appalled at all the times I have been scorned because I don't wear expensive clothes to a lesson or have a super expensive horse or fancy tack.
    07-24-2012, 04:16 AM
You're still worrying about it too much.....

It's a lesson, nothing more nothing less.

You're going to work yourself into a frenzy.
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    07-24-2012, 08:54 AM
If they're nasty to you because you don't have slick clothes and expensive specialized tack, that says more about them than it does about you. You're there to learn, they are there to teach. If they don't want to teach, they shouldn't be offering that service.

Also, when someone tells me "I didn't feel welcome at X because of Y" I find that at least half the time what it really means is not "They were nasty to me" but "I felt inadequate all of my own because I'm not as glamorous/rich/thin/beautiful/etc. as they were or as I think I ought to be." Always you have to ask yourself what the other person brought to the table. This is not a criticism of your buddies, just a comment that every person has different experiences of the same exact event depending on their mindset and personal history. YMMV.
    07-24-2012, 09:50 AM
This could be true about the stable. I have no idea what to expect. In 4-H though our leader did this to 3 of us that weren't "adequate". Our other leader however took very good care of us :)
    07-24-2012, 11:13 AM
Jeez girl, pull on those and go have one lesson, because it is a new experience, after one lesson decide if you are going for a second.

I went to a trainer with my western horse and my western saddle because I wanted help with my lope, and she was recommended. Turned out that her major focus was dressage, and I started doing English dressage in a western saddle. It was only when I decided that I was having fun that I bought my first English saddle.

Stop worrying, go, have fun, smile, if it sucks, don't go again
    07-24-2012, 04:40 PM
Today, I trail rode a gaited mare, in a synthetic dressage saddle, wearing blue jeans, suede cowboy work boots, and a cami over a bathing suit top. We gaited, cantered, and jumped. Mare didn't care what I wore and I was comfortable despite this 92* heat.

You're looking for a service, more or less. You are not looking for a fashion guru. Clothes and tack should not matter to the instructor for basic teaching lessons as long as both clothing and tack properly fit and nothing will slip or get hung up. I would only start buying discipline purpose tack if you are looking to go into competition.

Personally, I would take up reining in a dressage saddle in a heart beat. A) I am comfortable. B) It is what I own. C) I think it would be funny.
    07-24-2012, 09:40 PM
My trainer told me that back in the day, she and her riding club cohorts would be sent home by their "high brow" trainer if they weren't spiffed up and properly put together as "it shows respect"....I laughed and said I certainly understand that "mentality" being the wife of an ex-military man.

But I also said that if that were required of me (I don't look "perfect" when going to an important evening out on the town, let alone when I'm going out to ride, work my butt off, sweat a LOT, etc...)& I've also never had the $$ for "just the PERFECT" riding clothes, so my riding would not have progress very far had an instructor sent me home till I looked perfect!

My trainer laughs now and realizes there are many other ways to know a kid/adult respects the trainer/the horse/the discipline AND the horse than by the way they are dressed/his pricey their tack and clothes/boots are, etc... :0)

I know you want acceptance....I bet anyone would quickly accept you just because you care that much...you are obviously not a slacker! Z please take it easy...I did JUST THE SAME TO MYSELF BEFORE my first volunteering day...I wasted anxiety...the situation was AMAZING and has been every since!
Hang in there and you'll see it should be GREAT!!!
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    07-24-2012, 10:18 PM
Big girl panties- CHECK
Call from trainer to pick a time- NEGATORY

As of now we won't be having a lesson tomorrow because I have not received a call from her or an email...but I have a friend that is going to train me now and is letting me borrow her Stubben and a complete tack set! Woo!
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